Babies Born November 2006 #41

[tiggerandpooh]

Kim - I hope you and your family have a wonderful day today for Jasmine's baptism. the sun is shining here, so I hope it is there too.

I have written in my blog about my week - i am too tired to write again. was up at 4am with aston...

[taralee]

Have a great day with your family, Kim
I just read that email from Kelly, about villages looking after new mothers and babies and it too is something that i have thought about for a long time...and so heartbreaking to hear that the mother to the 18mth old twins was a belly belly member...thats the same age as our toddies..i hope she didnt post in here at any point and not feel wanted...
DH was telling me about another mother who had a baby and it was found in a plastic bag hidden in the house..i'm not sure if it was on the GC or somewhere else...but i just cant help but wonder what the hell is going on?! I feel for these women, i really do and i know PND is so so serious..but surely something more can be done before these babies are even conceived...i dont know..i guess that opens up a whole can of worms on the right to give birth...which incidentally, i dont necessarily think having children is a right, more a priviledge..
just venting

[christy]

Tara IKWYM. I find that is one thing that scares me so much, that PND can go so pear shaped. I think thats why being open & honest about everything we are feeling is the best, that way when we do go a bit "funny" we have each other's support.

[taralee]

well allow me to be open and honest because i just cannot stop worrying at the moment. I feel like if i just write it all out i'll feel better. so feel free to respond or whatever
1) i'm so worried about evie when i go into hospital. so much so that i have really considered having a c-section just so that it can be done in the day and she won't be without dh at night. she only ever wants me and i know how upset she'll be if she wakes in the night and i'm not there
2) it seems that everyone's toddie is chatting except evie. i know she understand everything that is said to her and her comprehension levels are beyond, but she just won't say many words. I feel like thats my fault for some reason
3) i feel guilty because i am so fat and sore and uncomfortable that i can't play with evie as much as i usually would and she seems quite put out by that. i spend ages sitting with her and reading and such. But this last week or so she has become so defiant that i feel like its her way of acting out due to "lack of attention"
4) the pains i have been having lately are soo making me question whether i can do this whole 'giving' birth thing again

ok i think i'm done...screen is blurry from tears so i guess i am!

[tiggerandpooh]

oh babe I wish you were closer to where i live Hun, I would come and give that hug in person.

Have you been reading her any books about mummy having a baby, and becoming a big sister? That can help. I do know what you mean about only wanting Mummy - Aston has been like that, even before he was sick. I walk away and its "mummy's gone" or "where's mummy gone" in this tiny little sad voice. When I picked him up from daycare on monday, he did a little dance of glee, and then said to me "Mummy gone" to which I replied, yes mummy did go, but she came back. Does anyone else have evie for you? or can they? just for her to get used to being with someone else and mummy not being there.

As for the mummy guilt hun, you are being very hard on yourself darling. Don't forget that she is right in the middle of toddlerhood, and her antics have more to do with that, then you being pregnant. She is testing your boundaries and seeing what she can and can't get away with. Aston is doing it too - and I'm not pregnant. He has started looking straight at me and doing something that he knows he shouldn't do. I have started using the naughty corner, and leaving him there for a 1min when he does something again after I have told him no. much to my surprise he stays there. initially he didn't but it only took a couple of turns for him to get it.

The talking - how much do you think everyone's elses toddies are saying darlin? I know aston comprehends heaps, and can make his point to me with lots of sign language and body language, more so then words actually. But if you are really concerned, check with your child health nurse. and for the record Einstein didnt' speak until he was four apparently!

I know that it may appear that having a c-section is convienent, but you won't be able to lift evie when you get home for about 6 weeks. Have you thought about having some hypno birthing? I dont know much about it, but they are supposed to be good.

have you done some drawing/playdough/gluing with her? they are all activities that you can do sitting down with her. as I said I wish I was closer, then we could meet at Pioneer Park, and I can run around after the two of them.

There is a goldcoast group of mums that meet up regularly, have you thought about catching up there? they meet regularly, and there are lots of mums that aren't pregnant that I know would be more then happy to give you a hand.

HUGE darlin.

[taralee]

Thanks guys, my rational brain knows all these things but my female, hormone driven brain is just going nuts!
you know when you just have a feeling that something is going to happen..i've had it all afternoon and am finding it very unnerving.

[christy]

Tara I'm glad you said it. Those are all the same fears I had when pregnant with Jovie. I was freaking out about going into hospital at the "Wrong" time... we survived, Matilda survived better than anyone!!! She went to bed & I went into labour, she woke up and a friend was over & she climbed into bed with our friend. There were jealousy issues, but as Matilda was used to me not doing heaps when I was enormous, she wasn't as worried as I would have thought.

One thing I did was always make sure Matilda had special time with me every day. Even just to go to my bed & read a story together & have a cuddle. Just alone time with mummy everyday. That way I didn't feel terrible when my attention was split.

Jovie chatters heaps more than Matilda ever did. They all develop differently, but Matilda only said 2 words together when she turned 2.

ETA: Man how far away are you? If something happens I'm happy to come down & help.

[Olive]

tara i starting to worry about stuff as well, but thats for another day!

like the others have said kids seem to cope better than us! will evie be looked after in your home while your in labour/hospital? im goinf to make sure my mum looks after sophie here rather than her house so i know she'll be ok.

sophie babbles heaps but most of it completely jibberish! maybe teh last word i'll understand, she sounds just fine to me!

i dont think she minds what games you play, your there with her, thats probably all that matter to her, just do what you can!

i hear you on the second thoughts re labour! OMG waht was i thinking!!!! you can do it!!

US sophie did 3 wees on the potty saturday and one today!! very proud, but sad that she is growing up ;( she's still my baby girl though