Hi girls, we're home. going to bed now, but i'm sure i'll be back later
a tad emotional but i'll get there
:)
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Hi girls, we're home. going to bed now, but i'm sure i'll be back later
a tad emotional but i'll get there
:)
:hug: Tara, its great to see you here. I hope the blues settle for you.
welcome home tara!!!!
had my scan this morning!! all good
im 11w4d so two days out, due 17th feb 2009, heartbeat was 164!!
babies being born, scanned, morning sickness.... wow, its all happening in here isn't it?
while I was away I had 4 incredibly vivid dreams that I was pregnant with a little girl, and there was an immense sense of urgency and that something was wrong. This morning I got an email from my friend, whose daughter had a little girl about 8 weeks ago. this family is my surrogate family. Their little girl has heart problems and is seeing a pediatric cardic surgeon next week. I just burst into tears.... now I know what my dreams where about - an alison dubois moment (i have them regularly!)
life is so incredibly precious - the good the bad the ugly....
i'm still getting over holiday itis... will be back to normal soon hopefully - once i get my head around a few things that I have found out since I have been home. just sitting and breathing at the moment, and being thankful for the beautiful gifts of my three children that I have been blessed with....
wow vicky! thats scary!!
thanks guys. i am just having trouble because i'm not spending as much time with evie. i used to do everything with her and now i barely have anytime with her. she's been acting out a little which i'm taking really personally - which is silly i know. but she'll sometimes slap or kick me when i'm feeding and i know she's pushing the boundaries and this was something she was doing before Chino came along, but i guess i'm all hormonal too.
also finding it hard how to juggle them both during the day, Kim, Blanche what did you guys do early on? i wish i was an octopus! - but it's early days yet lol i'm being wwaayyyy too hard on myself i think.
hope everyone's well!
Keep up the good work Tara.
For me in the early days was easy .....cos i had a small baby plus a newborn...not a toddler and a new born..so Blanche would be the best help there.
However, how i managed...1. i had Craig home...so HUGE help. 2. I priortised.....Chelsea up and fed, then Jasmine up and fed....Jasmine down for sleep and play time with Chelsea....good 2-3 hours and would all start again. I got them both in a sleep routine at the same time from day dot. 9 months on they both still get up at 8am...nap at 130pm...and night time bed at 8-830pm.
I caved and got Jasmines very belated 6 month needles today....i have also printed a form to object to future immunisations...man i feel sooooooo releved and weight off my shoulders.
I had a real hard time at first Tara, Matilda used to dominate all my time. I would feed Jovie & then put her down to give Matilda attention. If Matilda did something while I was feeding, I would tell her no, let her know that if she pushed me too far I would not do something later on with her, like go to the park etc. Matilda was 2 1/2 when Jovie was born.
I also used to have a "feeding" box with activities, snacks etc for Matilda. I would leave the TV off and only turn on her shows when I was feeding.
Tara :hug: i was very emotional aswell, i got so upset that i wasnt able to spend all my time with Emelia anymore but it does get better i promise.
when i was feeding Jack that was when Emelia would act out the most she would hate me having to feed again.
i would feed on the 3 seater so Emelia could sit next to us sortoff making her feel included i guess and have her drink, snacks and a few special toys sometimes she would sit up or just go off and play.
i just had to include Emelia as much as i could and she loves helping out with nappy changes and everything now. your doing great hun, if you need anything just msg me on msn im not far away :)
tara hun sounds like your doing well !! a friend suggested to get get a box of toys for the older child that only came out during feeding and went back away agian after ( like christy suggested), all new toys, book etc...
you'll have a routine going before you know it!!! dont worry im ***** scared of having two kids to look after!!!
vicky whats happening hun????0 :hug:
Im excited to ahve 3 kiddies to look after!!!!
Aw 15 days til my scan.....
Chelsea is annoying me...bring on Friday when MIL arrives!
:hug: tara. adjusting from going from a one child family to a two child family takes a little time. don't be too hard on yourself hun, its only been a few days! Laura was 2y8m when nathan was born, and she was lovely with him,. but bloody horrible to me. and I took it personally too! like christy and blanche suggested, special books, or tv shows. I managed to get the knack of feeding nathan, and reading laura a story. sometimes she would sit down and breast feed her baby doll. very cute. As blanche said it does get better - its just an adjustment time for all of you. be kind to yourself hun.
I went and caught up with my friends yesterday, and had a lovely cuddle with their precious daughter. Mummy is not having fun at all, understandably. Its hard enough adjusting to becoming a mum, let alone throwing serious health issues into the mix. It was so lovely to see them, and just sit. especially after the on going dramas of my sister, and her complete and utter f@ck ups.... sigh. i'm so over it, i'm not even bothering going into it other then to say, that we are now on the rage part of the cycle that is her life, which will be followed by something major happening, then slide into depression.... sigh. I know that she has major mental health issues, but it is how her kids are affected that upsets me so much.
congrats Jols on becoming a moderator btw
christy how goes the organising/packing etc etc?
Blanche - Jack all better now? he is so delightful, I love looking at his piccies, I just want to eat him up lol. cheeky little monkey. How is big sis going?
kim - just over two weeks to go til we find out if its a prince or a princess... or are you going to keep it a secret??
gigi - how goes everything in your world hun?
Ann - how's that baby x2 bump going? have you taken any pics of it yet?
nelly - :hello:
I don't thikn I have forgotten anyone...sorry if I have.
V ill be sharing the surprise with everyone this time as a way of dealing with it all...im 110% certain its a girl so need to get it out in the open now rather then when she is born.
vicky if you need to chat, ring me!!!!
kim he's a boy for sure!!!
thanks jols. i'm ok. will be good to have the day to myself today though. have been uploading photos all morning.... off to do some painting now.
V big :hug: to you, so sorry to hear about your friends daughter i couldnt even imagine what they must be going through..my thoughts are with them.
Jack is going well he is such a happy little man always smiling, so cheeky aswell!! he will be drinking his bottle and ill look down and he will be staring up at me with big eyes and a cheeky smile all while he is still trying to suck!!
Emelia is turning into such a big girl its quiet sad really that she is growing up so fast, but she is so much fun, always making us laugh, when i say no now she will turn around and point her finger at me and say no!!! (i didnt even know i did that!) last night Leigh was playing with her on the floor and she was looking through her book and Leigh grabbed it off her, she reaches over and says "dont touch my book" "no daddy" even pointing her finger lol. Leigh and i just looked at each other totally in shock!!!
Tara- hows everything going?
Kim-woohoo 15 days thats gone fast!!!
Thanks guys, i'm dealing with it a bit better. I don't want to be melodramatic and i said this to DH too, it's almost like i'm "grieving" for our before baby life, but at the same time, i love this new baby so much and am guilty that i feel like that because he didnt ask to be brought into this world, neither did evie...oh i know i cant be supermum and i'm being too hard on myself.
Today i put Chino in the rocker on the floor in the kitchen while i made Evie some dinner, she goes up to him and does really gentle pats and kisses and then just pulls on his legs like she's going to pull him fair out of the rocker. then i get mad at her and i just crack. anyway, he's slept for hours so i got to do all evie's bedtime routine and i still just kept crying..at the drop of a hat. i eventually had some iced bun and felt better.
Which reminds me....does anyone remember what's normal for those early days? i know it won't last and i can't complain but chino sleeps for 4 hours at a time, has a wake and feed for around 2 or so hours and then is back asleep. I didnt want to get into the habit of waking him for feeds but i think i might have to.
plus he has a blocked tear duct which isnt very nice either. bm seems to make it stickier :(
anyways, sorry i havent done personals, will be back to my old self soon i hope ;)
oh Tara take your time :P Don't rush back... its called babymoon because its all new again every time. It took us 6-8 weeks to remember that morning was morning, and arvo was arvo...
No rush Tara!!
Can i ask where you got Chino's name from...i love it..so unique and different...i talked about it all day when i got your SMS to Craig....love love love it...so different to Evie!!!
you're dead right Tara, you ARE being too hard on yourself!!:hug:
i think you are a dead set LEGEND honey! just for you to be "with it" enough to be using the computer and posting on here with a newborn + baby - you are AMAZING!
i didn't know what day it was for MONTHS!!! so listen to bossy me, you are doing GREAT!!
four hours sleeps sound WONDERFUL! Go Chino!
I have just spent most of the last three days at the hospy where my bestie had her bub on Fri morning - so am majorily clucky again! Got to have loads of cuddles with the most gorgy black and wavy haired, blue eyed bundle of gorgeousness. Downy hair on his skin, wonderful wrinkly skin, long sharp fingernails, those cute balinese dancer hands. I got to change a baby boy for the first time - gee so much easier than changing a girl! never thought it would be. This lovely little bub fits in one of my arms, elbow to wrist, he's 3.7kg of loveliness - awwwww!
bilby has been missing me heaps and has gotten a bit ill in the last day and a bit, so been giving her lots of TLC today, plus dh is not home to mind her (weekend is over), then bring her into the hospy for me to feed (like we were doing sat and sun).
it felt weird going into the post labour ward of the same hospy, where i was 20 months ago - after the dreadful time i had there, i was proud of myself for coping with being back in that same environment - albeit as a visitor.
It's interesting what some of you said, the difference between having a
- newborn and a toddler
as opposed to
- newborn and a baby
I had never looked at it that way before.
CHristy - best of luck with the packing! :hug:
I hope the next 2 weeks go fast for you Kim! ;) watched pot n all that!!!
Aww thanks Gigi, and good on you for spending the time with your friend, overcoming those kinds of worries must have been such a load off your shoulders!
Kim - thankyou, it's nice to hear someone say they like his name since lots of people seem to think it is their duty to tell us how crap it is and that he'll just be made fun of. Chino is the nickname of the lead singer of the Deftones and Camillo is his proper name. We just happen to like both names so decided to use them! We used a Deftones song for our wedding dance, so there's a bit of a link there too :)
Thanks Christy - yes i do remember that babymoon phase...it took us 2 hours to leave the house today lol
Every day's getting easier and chino's a great eater, so i'm definately feeling more normal. just cant believe how much more washing this little person seems to create!! i can be a bit of a neat freak though!
Tara everyone will always tell you what they hate about a name...even when its not needed. I was curious as id never heard the name ever. No matter whatname you pick, someone will always find a way to tease them....its part of life...but stuff them...you and DH like it so thats what counts!
Glad your feeling better as well!
i agree with kim tara!! your choice not others, tell them to sod off!!!
sophie has a cold :( no swimming for us today :(
oh dont get me wrong, i really dont care. people can think what they like. i just cant believe can be so rude!
Thats it Tara, we've had so many comments on Jovie..... "thats.... unusual.... how do you spell that?" LMAO. I just beam and say "I know we love it so much" and leave it there... its hard not to get defensive.
Chino is great.... there's a suburb in California called Chino.
Even though im a day late HAPY BIRTHDAY ANN for yesterday (Wednesday)! I meant to post it all day but got side tracked :D
Happy Belated Birthday Ann!!
oops i was ment to post it yesterday too, was ment to do alot of things yesterday, but nothing got done lol
Happy Birthday for yesterday Ann!!! hope you had a lovely day :D
Well arent we a great bunch of forgetful people!!
Oo I'm sorry! Happy Birthday Ann! Hope that DH of yours is spoiling you all week long!!!
Well, i think we need to surrender our cat. So if any of you QLD girls want an affectionate cat, then let me know. I know it sounds horrible but we just don't have time for him, hes miserable and it just makes us feel worse so whats the point in us all being miserable! I know Evie will be so sad but it's just not working. :(
Thanks everyone.
I've been a bit down (as Nelly knows) of late. But yesterday i only had one chuck so that was good.
To keep it short ...Double the babies, double the MS! Double the exhaustion. All I do is work, put ella to bed and nap and vomit. To top it all off the hospital diagnosed me with Graves Disease. That makes the pregnancy even HIGER risk coz I could lose them. Graves produces an over active thyroid and the hormonse try to fight the babies.... so its been tough. I'm on medication which may or maynot affect the babies. Who knows!
Bloody ridiculous this is happening now.
Anyway chin up. My GP said I gained 2kg so the babies must be growing coz i'm certainly not eating much for all 3 of us! She also assured me that the rough nausea was a good sign.
I'll be so glad to hit the 12wk mark.
Tara - congratulations on your beautiful baby boy. I love the name Chino. Its so poetic!
Hi everyone. I'll post personals later.
Ann
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANN!
sorry you're feeling so rotten. :hug: I hope the Graves medication helps you and your two bubs. Did your doctor have any opinions on you working (or not)? Like, would it help , if you got to rest more? Carrying more than one has got to take it's toll on you, and you're not a big person to start with. Keep posting, whatever you're feeling, you can say it here, we're all here for you hon.
Taralee - for the record, i think Chino is a cool name.
Do any of your toddlers, get a bit sick AFTER having antibiotics?
bilbstar had an ear infection last week, so got anti biotics for that. five days later, started vomitting for no obvious reason, just a few times over the weekend. then from monday, had a sort of runny poo, unsure if it was gsatro or not. Hasn't been interested in eating or playing for few days now, didn't wee today from 9.30am til 4pm. Is that a normal reaction to AB's do you think?
she's been to the GP the last two Mondays
first time about the ear infection, 2nd time, to check if ear infection had cleared up (and to report the weekend vomitting).
How is the packing going Christy? passes you your fave yummy to commiserate.
Gigi we have never had to use Antibiotics yet....so cant help you out there. Id be a little concerned however about Bilby not having a wet nappy in that fairly big time gap. Has she been drinking alot?
When Chelsea gets sick, out comes Gastrolyte...she loves it..and i know its good for dehydration.
Ann im sorry your feeling so sick. Ive not heard of Graves disease before. Hope the medication helps you and doesnt hurt the twinies!
Tara i hope your pussy cat can find a new home...i have 5 and would be lsot without every single one of them
Well my MIL touches down in VIC in around...hmm 7 hours! Im sooo damn excited to see her!! Chelsea will be bouncing off walls her entire stay...loves her Grandma dearly!
Now its Friday...11 days til my scan!!!!
awwww ann you are having a rough trot arnt you :hug: there are a few threads around regarding others with graves disease, i'll track them down a bit later for you.
gigi id say she has a touch of gastro, keep up the fluids!!
kim 5 cats!! wow!! names??? have fun with MIL! and wow only 11 days to go!!!
tara weh ad to surrender our dog last december, was very hard but im glad we did, life is so much easier without a dog barking all day, he was adopted by a family with a 10 yrs old boy and is doing very well! someone to spend time with him, just what he needed!! dont feel bad!
Jols i have: Pixe, Salem, Minka, Blossom and my only male Dexter!
Craig always tells me he is taking them to RSPCA...noooo way Mr!
Have you been to any of the Zoo's Jols? Im thinking of taking the girls on Sunday...i think they would like that!
ANN- you poor thing:( :hug: hope the medication helps
all your cats a beautiful Kim. hope your having a great time with MIL. we are off to the zoo tomorrow it will be interesting to see what Emelia thinks of all the animals
just got a sms from one of my friends i have been waiting for her birth annoucement for so long cos they didnt find out the sex and im so impatient!! they had a baby girl this morning!! Sienna Louise 6pd 13oz, cant wait to go see them, they have a son aswell the same age as Emelia, we actually met in antenatel classes when i was pregnant with Emelia. okay ill shhh now!!
Congrats on your friends baby Blanche!
have fun at teh zoo blanche!!! im sure emilia will love it!!
kim not any in melbourne, took her to australia zoo in QLD in feb but hanging to take her to healsville sanctuary an melb zoo!!
happy belated birthday ann. I'm sorry to hear that you aren't travelling too well hun. being pregnant with twins is hard enough without having Graves disease as well. :hug:
Hi everyone else.... i'm about, just my lap top is sick, and I hate sitting on the computer in the study. so you might not "see" alot of me until I get it back.
Kim - We went to Melbourne Zoo. Ella liked it. She especially liked the Elephants and the prarie dogs. She didnt seem to notice the rest. But she loved being outside.
Ella loves my MIL too.:) its so sweet to see. At first i was a bit jealous but now with twins - OMG i thank god Ella loves her.
Jols - we gave up our cat too. it was hard as well but he went to a lady who's kids had all left home and had just recently divorced. So he'll be happy. He was peeing and pooing in Ella's things all the time.
Vicky - hope the laptop comes back soon and so do you!
Blanche - How are leigh and Emelia?
About to take a photo of our 6wk scan to put up on the blog. You guys can see the two little suprises! Ella's been just pushing and pushing me today. So I put her to bed early and she's still asleep 2hrs later. She must have been tired.
Next week I'm at the Twins clinic at the hospital and then I go in again to have bloods and then again to the Thyroid clinic. I may as well be living there!
So tried and sick today. Couldnt hold down dinner last night and lost b'fast this morning. Bring on 12WKS i say!
Emelia just did her first wee on the toilet woo hoo!!!