Didi - dont worry atm i think BFing is so overrated. It ****s me how it just doesnt happen like i thought it would and yeh i have a dodgy supply too. Mia had a full 100mls of formula about 4:30pm and she finally stopped screaming and has been asleep since. Mind u she fed of me for 1.5 hours before this.. hmmmm how the hell does that work???????
hi guys,
I guess ive been pretty lucky with the bfeeding, jacob latches on really well (with a lot of snorting and snuffling and grunting..) then grunts his way thru a boob and a half every time, I just get worried that hes not draining the breast properly, hes been having a few power chucks, makes me a bit scared to lie him down, afraid he will choke.
has anyone else been having the baby blues? I know its supposed to be perfectly normal but I just cant get my head together, I will start crying for no reason and I just cant stop, poor dp is getting a bit frustrated as he cant see why I am crying and the fact that there really is nothing wrong doesnt sit right with him....
well, I suppose im fibbing a bit there, I really need to get out all my dissapointment about my birthing experience, dp doesnt understand, he just says, well where would you rather have the stitches? in your belly or your fanny? not much help.
my mother is the type to just say get over it, but she never had a c section, all us kids were born vaginally.....I dont know, it wasnt that traumatic or anything, but I just cant "get over it" iykwim?? every time I think about it I feel ripped off and I want to howl.
sorry to unburden all that here, but I dont have anyone to talk to about all this.
hope you are all well and sleeping well, hugs to all bubs xxx
Hi Starrysky,
I felt really upset about my labour and birth experience for a couple of weeks too but I found that after about 2 1/2 weeks this improved heaps and it definatly helped to talk about it with other people. I just couldn't get over all that I had been through (see birth story) and thought about it constantly "it wasn't meant to be like this". I think having a supportive family and doctor also helped but no one can tell you how to feel and I found that I just stopped thinking about it as much without even realising. I think it's worth mentioning to your CFHN or doc though just so that they can keep tabs on you, I did this and it made me feel better. I have found motherhood amazing but very overwhelmimg and only in the last week have really started to feel a bit more confident. BFing is hard, sleep deprivation is hard, the whole bloody thing is hard work. My husband is great but even he doesn't really get it and I think lots of people with kids forget how full on the newborn stage is and usually aren't sympathetic. Anyway know that you aren't alone.
Oh Starrysky - it is completely normal hun....Neither of my c/sections were traumatic (although I was *****scared the whole time with both) and I never had any complications, plus I have 2 gorgeous healthy kids..... so WHY do I still mourn my birth experience. I know loads of people just don't get it but it is valid to feel that way hun. I wrote about my experience in my debrief- link is HERE and getting all the sadness out did make me feel better but I am a long way from healing. I don't think anyone other than women who have been there really get it. I also get so sad at people who seem to effortlessly have VBAC's, yet I tried so hard and still failed. Talk all you like hun, and get it out. It is ok to grieve your birth experience and where better to do that than here where we "get" it.
Olivesmummy and Hollye, and everyone else who is having trouble feeding.... Thinking of you both - having been there with Izzy I know the trials and guilt that comes with contemplating FF - you have to do what is right for you though.
God i'm becomming addicted to this forum thing. After her formula Olive has now been asleep for 4 wonderful hrs and it's nice to have a bit of me time. I was just wondering how long stitches are supposed to take to heal - 3rd degree tear and 3rd degree episiotomy - it's been four weeks tomorrow and I thought they would be totally better by now, maybe still a bit tender but not still stingy. Thanks
Don't worry about being addicted hun - check out my post count and I've not been here for 2 years yet! I'm not sure about the stitches thing hun, hopefully someone more useful than me will pop in soon!
Starry, don't ignore it if your feeling depressed hun. If venting here isn't helping then ring one of the help lines and talk it out. I know it's common, but that doesn't mean that you have to suffer through it if there's a way to try and stop it in its tracks. There's no shame in getting help...you've got that beautiful baby boy to take care of and to do that you need to take care of yourself.
Hope everyone with BF troubles is having some success today...but try not to beat yourselves up...there'll be plenty of chances to do that when they're older and we start psychologically scarring them with our embarrassing parenting behaviour.
HAs everyone moved too Oct 1-15... I know jorda wasnt born in Oct at all.. but i would like to keep in touch with the 15-30.. When she was really due..
I really need a glass of red.. or a BOTTLE... babys is great... just the whole loosing our house .. insurance crap... such a pain...
Lets see if i get time to finish the post this time...
Amanda - what a great birth story. And congrats on your FIFTH!! Well done. I'll have to get mine up when i get the time to figure out how.
Tanstar & Starskyy - I had a CS. I don't feel at all dissapointed about it this time, but I know I'll probably opt for an elected CS next time because of the complications we had and strangely I feel really dissapointed about that - that I'll never have an oportunity to 'give birth normally'. I feel like I'm out of the 'giving birth' club, even though I'll have a small family by then.
didi - I'm BFing. I've had several problems with it. The biggest one being I have 'flat nipples' so have opted to use a nipple sheild. Now I'm really worried he's not getting enough and it's effecting my supply, so I'm TRYING to wean him off the sheild...with very limited success. But the LC said it could take 5 or 6 weeks so we'll just keep trying and being patient...
Liam's been great the last couple of days. He's been sleeping well, and he's starting to smile! He's such a cutie (...when he's not screaming for seemingly no reason... ). He was 4 weeks yesterday. YAY! Hope everyone else is enjoying some sunshine moments in it all.
My parents house caught fire with the chimney and yup 3 story.. HUGe house all gone... so so sad.. still and happened Sept 5th.
I used a nipple shield with Ben... i was so stressed about my milk supply.. i used it for 6 weeks until he latched on his own.. So hang in there..
Jorda is feeding better today... maybe not tomorrow at the rate she goes...
she has some little winter boots.. SO CUte. i will have to post pics soon!!!
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I'm not sure about the stitches thing hun, hopefully someone more useful than me will pop in soon!
He's such a cutie (...when he's not screaming for seemingly no reason...
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