Thanks ladies - again, I'll catch up on personals soon.
Just wanted to say regarding having a tough time - I REALLY feel like I am having a tough time.. With the BFing, the cracking has become so bad that I'm always expressing now because I've been bleeding thru the cracks which I discovered in the shower last night. I'm going late night shopping tonight, so I'm gonna see if I can pick up some nipple shields so I can recover... I really actually miss BFing DS
With sleep, don't get me started on that! I try my hardest to keep him awake during the day but by the time it comes around to night time, he's crying cause he's over tired and when he does eventually go to sleep (90% of the time lately he's falling asleep on my chest) and I transfer him to his basinette, he wakes up and starts screaming!
I'll bbl, I've mastered typing with one hand (many sprained wrists years ago thru playing sports also help that I mastered it years ago) but am struggling to feed a whining DS
Fi and Lj- The hole falling asleep then wake up once put back in bassinett thing is EXACTLY my problem
Loves my chest at night but will sleep in her own bed during the day??? WTF!
I have done this before BUT obviously every child is different We can get through it together ladies!
Lj- There is lots of things that can be done about your poor nipples Go to the chemist and have a chat
again LJ, my nipples were SOO bad, both were so cracked and at one point when i took DD off one boob i was actually dripping blood i was in tears almost everytime i fed. i also manages to get an infection in my breasts which was also horribly painful i totally understand where your coming from and that alone can make you feel like you arent coping, i cried for almosta week stright i went out and got some nipple sheilds, the BEST thing i could have done, it took a couple of days and lots of lansinoh cream and plenty of walking around with my boobies out but they got so much better, i cant express coz we cant afford a pump so i couldnt do it that way, thats the problemw ith them feeding, your boobies dont get a chance to heal. mine are still sore and alittle cracked but no where near as bad as they were,
im finding that when DD falls asleep on my chest during the day when i put her done she's awake 10-15 mins later, not every time but most times. its a little frustrating, im going to have to invest in sling coz i cant get anything done
In saying that, i feel so lazy,and to top it off DH has been constatntly having a go at me about how i dont do anything anymore it makes me so angry. all ive had time to do is sit on the couch with my boob out, and if im not feeding her or holding her coz she's crackin it, she's asleep and im too exhausted to do anything. i told him he should try getting up 2-3 times a night and then sit up for an hour each time feeding/burping/settling her and see how tired he is. he hasnt been of much help and he cant see why i get mad, he gets angry at me coz he thinks im getting angry at her coz she's crying, truth is im angry at him for not taking her for a min so i can quickly inhale my dinner so i can feed her and get her ready for bed.
he left for work today and as much as i know its going to be a little difficult with him gone, i am so relieved, i finally get some time alone (you know what i mean )
sorry for my whinge, grr.. he's just been getting on my nerves.
i hope everyone else is doing good
Husbands can really suck at the best of times. I empathise with you guys on that one!
My DH is generally great, but yesterday he had a few snipes at my lagging housework, and told me off for not having sorted through an old bag of videos!!! Hello? In between breastfeeding, cleaning poo, making toddler meals and trying to have a shower, I dont have time to scratch myself!! I totally agree with you Stevie - they would be absolutely useless if they had to get up 2 or three times for an hour at a time!!
Not to mention their complete disregard at times for the physical demands our bodies are under despite the lack of sleep. I have told DH the milk doesn't just fall from the sky!!! Our bodies are working 24/7 to make that liquid gold and we shouldn't feel guilty for sitting on the couch!!! Add to that the fact that many of us are probably still losing blood. Sometimes husbands need a not so friendly reminder....
Sore boobies - what a nightmare. I have been fortunate in that department so far......
Maybe try feeding longer off only one breast at a feed, rather than feeding off each breast - and alternate each breast so you are allowing each boobie a bit more 'time off'?
I usually open DS's mouth wider after he has attached with my hands- so that he is not actually touching the nipple - kwim? He is probably wondering what the hell I am doing but it makes life easier for me. Go the breast pads definitely.
Re: the sleeping on the chest thing. If you are at your wits end, just throw a couple of pillows behind you to prop yourself and baby up on a slight angle (better for wind etc) and just close your eyes and allow yourself to pass out like that with bubs on your chest - at least at night. Bubs will start to stir when he/she is ready for a feed and will wake you. If it means you wake up feeling like a human being again in the morning - then its worth it. Then you will have the energy during the day to try to get them better aquainted with their bassinette.
Bless my MIL!! She brought over a sling for me that she bought.. Oh I owe both her and FIL a great present this year for Christmas! He's sound asleep in it right now, and I couldn't be happier.. We're off to the shops soon, so I'm gonna see if I can pick up the nipple shields from the chemist (is that where you'd find them?) and do some grocery shopping. Honestly, in this past week alone, she's done more for me when we see her (which this week it's been 3 times) than DH has during the nights, every night!
JellyBean - In the regards to DH, mine is like most of yours, though the advantage for me is the fact that he was with me when the dr told him 'She is not to lift anything heavier than DS until the 6 week checkup' so he's been pretty good.. He usually cooks and cleans up, though one day I got up to do the dishes because I was just sick to death of not doing anything (except feeding and changing bum and the rest) and felt hopeless.. Boy did I get a telling off! The thing that s**ts me with my DH though, is that I express my milk (right now I have to with the way my boobs are) and we discussed sharing the feeding duties so I express so he can feed him... I STILL find myself being the one that feeds him, expressed or boob! He also drives me nuts when he says to me 'You know your not pushing that pram very straight' I'd like to see him push the pram straight when you've got a s**tload of people walking in your direction and not moving for you!
That's exactly how I feed him when I do feed.. Today all I've done is express, express, express and given him that.. Not taking my chances until I get to the shops and get those damn shields! The other thing I get frustrated over when DS is feeding is sometimes he'll click his tongue and the nipple will appear near his lip and he'll then suck it back in... When he does that, I KNOW he's not attached properly so then I re-attach him, but then he'll move around so much that it'll happen again.. Oh the frustration!
Kass - Yeah, DS is like that.. Loves sleeping on my chest! Used to love sleeping on DHs chest but since he's been back at work and he's barely gotten to spend time with him (all he does is work, come home and work some more) so now it's my chest he loves snuggling onto.. MOST of the time I can get him into the bassinette no worries, but it's the 2am - 4am 'go back into the bassinette and sleep' put downs that he doesn't wanna sleep in there and just starts crying again.
My MIL suggested and brought over pawpaw cream, so along with the shields, I'm gonna give that a try and if it's not working after a few days, then back to the chemist.
Stevie - Yeah, I was always dreading feeding time (as much as I loved it for the bonding) the first time my right side was cracked because it just hurt too much, and each suck there would be another tear. When I found the dried blood in the shower on my nipple, I shook my head and tried expressing a little bit from it, but it started bleeding again almost straight away.. so I feel for you! I did the crying too
My DH was so happy when I went into the nesting mode.. but now I'm home and since being home have folded 2 loads of washing and washed 1 load of dishes and thats it - he's getting annoyed. Whenever he snaps about the house looking horrible, I quickly like to remind him that I DID have major surgery and that I have to take it easy.. I hear him then mumble bout 'cant use that excuse forever' but I know he's only worried bout when we have people visiting.
Fi - Hun, my DH is basically the same. He'll hold DS when I ask him to but other than that, if theres a 2am nappy change needed, DH gives me the 'Do you mind, I have to work tomorrow' look and then rolls over. Unfortunately for me, DH only had 7 days of parental leave and used most of them when I was in hospital still, so I'm like you.. Recovering from a c-section and having to do everything. HUGE hugs for you . Instead of doing things around the house, whenever there's an opportunity to get out the house, he'll take it.. Eg. There were regional finals for poker bout 15 minutes from home on Tuesday and all day he was convinced he wasn't going to go.. 6:40pm rolled around and he says 'I'm off, I'll see you when I get home' - which wasn't till 10:30ish.. Except for the essential 'going to appts and shopping' outings, I've gone out once, and that was yesterday to the Perth BB meetup.. He's been to the casino with an old friend, to poker twice without me and DS, a funeral (but I wouldn't wanna go there anyways) and golfing a couple times too.
Will pop back later now that I have two hands - if not tomorrow cause again DH has lots of work to catch up on online... I hate report time
Last edited by ElleJay; November 12th, 2009 at 05:39 PM.
: Adding for Fi
LJ: i think thats why it upset me so much with the BFing, in my head i had there weird misconseption that it was supposed to be easy and natural when in fact its not at all. i wanted so badly to enjoy feeding her and being close to her but i was in tears every time. and to top it off DH was all "it cant be THAT bad!" and getting mad with me for being upset (admittedly he couldnt even talk to me and id burst into tears) after a few days he started to worry that i had PND but thankfully once my boobies started getting better so did my mood lol.
Jellybean: i did what you suggested, as last night i woke up to DD at 12am and she wouldnt go to sleep til about 2-30 -3 , then she woke again at 6.30 i was so tired i just put her on my chest and went back to sleep, thankfully so did she lol. its propbably not something ill do all the time, but it sure helps when ur so tired you cant keep ur eyes open.
Other than the sleep dep, all is well, i got some awesome news yesterday, oneof my best firends is pregnant with number2, im so excited, it totally mademy day hehe.
anyway i hope no one is having a melt down, i cant beleive how fast time is going, it feels like i had her just yesterday, buts she's a month old now.. it all seems so scary,
and i cannot believe i am now a Mum, it still really hasnt sunk in yet, lol.
xxx
Well we had a pretty good night last night... all because we let Leila sleep on her tummy! It's such a funny thing, it seems so taboo these days doesn't it? Even though I know I was slept on my tummy as a baby, as were all of my brothers and it was the done thing back then, I feel quite conflicted about it. Anyway, we all had a good sleep and I actually feel human today!
Fi: just a question how do you pronounce Leila? Ly-la? or Lee-la?
im so sorry im shocking with names.
Id like to try Alissa on her belly but she sleeps really well on her back, maybe if i start having problems ill give it a go!
A question ladies.. anyone using dummies? i brought some while i was prgnant, DH and i hadnt really discussed whether or not we were going to use them or not til she was almost here, i wasnt really keen on the idea coz i know it can be difficult breaking the dummie habit (im sorry but theres nothing worse than seeing a 4yr old with a dumm in their mouth) anyway we decided we wouldnt use them. today DD was being a grizzle bum, she was acting like she was hungry but id put her on and she's fuss about and keep coming off and just being a pain in the bum in general lol. so i thought what they hey, pulled out the dummy and wammo, she loved it. once she eventually spat it out i threw it in the bin, feeling aweful that id gone against what we'd decided, and DH would kill me if he came home to find she was using a dummy. We do ok without it, but theres just some times (in the car, shopping, when im empty) that a dummy would come in handy. Just wanted opinions i guess.
I injured my poor baby for the first time yesterday and felt absolutely terrible. I was getting her out of her bouncer and i was unclipping the clip but it slipped out of my fingers and pinched her little arm, i didnt know what happened, she just started screaming like a crazy person (id never seen her cry like that before.. she was in pain, my poor darling ) then i seen the little pinch marks on her cute little pudgee arm and i almost cried with her, i felt terrible
anyway, im off to bath my little darling
hope everyone is getting plenty of sleep
xxx
DM my little one is exactly the same! Generally we have no problems sleeping during the day, it's night time when she becomes really unsettled and clingy.
I'll join you all on the hubby rant! Mine was great at first but now he's over the initial excitement he pretty much leaves me to it. So I'm recovering from a c-section, have had cracked nipples, mastitis and now a cold (thanks to his silly mother who came and stayed with us last week when she was sick!! ) the baby wont settle at night and I'm the one who is constantly feeding and trying to resettle her, often up for hours on end. I'm totally sleep deprived and DH, who is still on paternity leave, seems to think that this is a great time for him to do lots of projects around the house. I gave him a hard time earlier and he told me that he doesn't have boobs therefore can't do much and I need to express more if I want him to help!! I explained that expressing isn't always easy, it's very time consuming and after feeding, burping, changing, settling, resettling etc there's bugger all time for me to stick a pump on my boob!! When he does offer to take her off me he usually just plonks her on the couch Honestly, they just don't realise how demanding it is. Today I have not even had time for a shower and I still need to find time to do my stupid exam....
Ok, rant over I'm going to try and shovel down some dinner before Leila needs me again
Let's hope we all have a good night with babies that sleep soundly and wake infrequently
We can get through it together ladies!
again LJ, my nipples were SOO bad, both were so cracked and at one point when i took DD off one boob i was actually dripping blood 
) then i seen the little pinch marks on her cute little pudgee arm and i almost cried with her, i felt terrible 
) the baby wont settle at night and I'm the one who is constantly feeding and trying to resettle her, often up for hours on end. I'm totally sleep deprived and DH, who is still on paternity leave, seems to think that this is a great time for him to do lots of projects around the house. I gave him a hard time earlier and he told me that he doesn't have boobs therefore can't do much and I need to express more if I want him to help!! I explained that expressing isn't always easy, it's very time consuming and after feeding, burping, changing, settling, resettling etc there's bugger all time for me to stick a pump on my boob!! When he does offer to take her off me he usually just plonks her on the couch 
Honestly, they just don't realise how demanding it is. Today I have not even had time for a shower and I still need to find time to do my stupid exam....
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