Husbands can really suck at the best of times. I empathise with you guys on that one!
My DH is generally great, but yesterday he had a few snipes at my lagging housework, and told me off for not having sorted through an old bag of videos!!! Hello? In between breastfeeding, cleaning poo, making toddler meals and trying to have a shower, I dont have time to scratch myself!! I totally agree with you Stevie - they would be absolutely useless if they had to get up 2 or three times for an hour at a time!!
Not to mention their complete disregard at times for the physical demands our bodies are under despite the lack of sleep. I have told DH the milk doesn't just fall from the sky!!! Our bodies are working 24/7 to make that liquid gold and we shouldn't feel guilty for sitting on the couch!!! Add to that the fact that many of us are probably still losing blood. Sometimes husbands need a not so friendly reminder....

Sore boobies - what a nightmare. I have been fortunate in that department so far......
Maybe try feeding longer off only one breast at a feed, rather than feeding off each breast - and alternate each breast so you are allowing each boobie a bit more 'time off'?
I usually open DS's mouth wider after he has attached with my hands- so that he is not actually touching the nipple - kwim? He is probably wondering what the hell I am doing but it makes life easier for me. Go the breast pads definitely.

Re: the sleeping on the chest thing. If you are at your wits end, just throw a couple of pillows behind you to prop yourself and baby up on a slight angle (better for wind etc) and just close your eyes and allow yourself to pass out like that with bubs on your chest - at least at night. Bubs will start to stir when he/she is ready for a feed and will wake you. If it means you wake up feeling like a human being again in the morning - then its worth it. Then you will have the energy during the day to try to get them better aquainted with their bassinette.