Yeah I know how you feel when you say you feel like your doing it alone... I feel like that even when Danny is home. He loves being a Daddy, but I think since he is away for 5 days at a time, when he comes home he feels like he has to get to know Ro again. Does that make sense? He was fab in the beginning and wanted to do absolutely EVERYTHING! But when he comes home now, if she starts to pout he hands her straight over to me and says 'she wants booby' even though she has just been fed. Every little whim she makes Danny thinks she wants booby... He doesn't seem to understand that she gets bored or is a little lonely. When he is home, I'll be trying to do the million things that I haven't done whilst his away thinking he can look after her, yet I still have to look after her and run around and cook dinner etc. He's almost scared of her! I can't even have a shower in peace! LOL. As I said I am just so thankful Rochelle isn't too much of a drama cupcake. Would be one good thing about switching to formula... Danny can do some bloody feeds! ATM, I can't even express the areolas are that sore from the thrush.
Anyway, I was just going to say Rebecca, You can definitely ignore me. But i just thought i'd tell you what I did with Rochelle when I was transferring her over to her big cot and self settle in there. Soon as she was calm and sleepy, I would put her down in her cot. If she got upset, I would go back in and pat her and reassure her by stroking her face or stroking her head etc. If she was so upset she wouldn't settle from me reassuring her that way, i'd pick her up and soothe her in my arms just until she was settled (not asleep) and pop her back in her cot, stroke her face and then leave the room - If she started to get upset again, i'd go back in and do it again - and it only took a couple of times before she fell asleep. And then after a couple of nap times doing that - she would fall asleep without any fuss on her own in her cot. This mighten work for everyone, but it worked for us! One other thing that I'm not sure if it helped or not, is i layed her on a blanket we used for bf'ing so it reminded her of me and it wasn't too strange to her to just be in the big cot where nothing was familliar. Don't know if any of that made sense. But by all means just ignore this, I just thought i'd share what worked for us. Sounds like you are doing a wonderful job anyway, I would have done the same thing as you. And I am giving BF'ing another week because I know I will regrett it later on down the track if I give up now and will be so proud if I BF through to the end. But if no improvement after this week - well then enough is enough!
Off shopping now - have a good day everyone!
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