Babies Born September 2006 #77

[Nelle]

Ohhh Meg. That's no fun at all, I don't think you can do much more than be there for your friend. Maybe just practical stuff in the background, make sure she's eating, maybe make a casserole or something. Your presence and availability will speak much louder than any words you could say though.
That sounds great about getting your number! I'm going with Cat from the cloth nappy thread, cos we can both get babysitters for Friday, which should speed our trip up!! She's driving me though, so it will depend on her, but I'd love to meet you!

Ohhhhh my back is so sore. Going to try and convince Rans to give me a rub.

(Thinking of you Anna, really hope everything's alright with you. )

[Visitor7]

Meg, I'm so sorry about the loss of your friend. My sister's best friend died of cancer 2 years ago and she was like a sister to me.
I flew down to be with my sister the day of her friends passing and I didn't leave her side for a week. Like Nelle said, make sure she is eating and drinking, and getting plenty of rest. You're already being a fantastic friend by offering an ear for her to talk to, and just physically being there for her.
The time of the funeral, she, and you, may feel numb about it all. But it's afterwards that will be just as important as now. That's when I think the reality kicks in. If you feel she isn't coping, encourage counselling. It's the best way. Unfortunately as I was living away from my sister at the time, I couldn't be there for her as much as I wanted, and she didn't seek counselling straight away. She went into depression. She is now seeking help for that.
for you. This is a difficult time. And remember it's best to let it all out, don't bottle your feelings up.