Meg - hugs to you, like the others said just being there for her, letting her talk when she feels like talking and being there after the funeral when all the phone calls, visitors tend to slow down and to keep her talking about her brother and keeping the memory of him alive. If you think she isn't dealing with it, counselling is good. It is such an awful time and doesn't seem real when someone close to you passes away. It will take time.....I hope we can all support you through this time

Laurin