Hugs Meg. Riv can get super whingy too, and I have found that sometimes I actually need to put him in his room with his water bottle and turn the fan on (loves the fan) and a snack and shut the door and make a cuppa or do something else to calm down. There's only so much EUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH and pulling on clothes that a woman can take!!
I find putting music on helps too, whenever I start to feel out of control, I put music/radio on, and then it's not just us and silence, there's some other noise too. Makes a difference.

Can you have a really stern word with your mum about complying with your wishes? That's totally awful that she undermines you!! Of course he won't be as hungry for dinner if he has a bottle in the arvo, gah! Can you say that your dr/health nurse says he can't have a bottle in the arvos? Would she listen to that? Can you afford to have him at childcare? As in, can you threaten with that (mostly bluff) but follow through if she's going to do her own thing anyway?

Sounds like a great idea about the fruit by the way, you sneaky mum you!! Not many ideas about the sleeping though...do you have a good MCHN who could suggest something? Do you need to cut out a nap, or add one? Not tired enough or too tired? River sleeps like crap when he hasn't had enough sleep in the day, he gets so wound up and it takes forever to wind him down some days!

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Oh that's a nice positive idea!

Fave stuffed toy - A lion/pillow. It attacks him at night before bed and we sneak out while he's attacking back.
Fave toy - Cupboard handles, the fan, coasters, the bin.
Fave sleeping possy - Tummy boy
Bed time - 7-7:30...will hopefully be back to 6:30ish when I get material to make his room darker!
Get up time - depends. 9ish?
fave word - doesn't really talk. Euuuugggghhh?
Walking - nope, why, when he can crawl?
Fave food - banana, yoghurt.
Eye colour - bluey/grey/green, with a brown ring (just like his mumma).
Hair colour - blonde, but getting darker!
Weight - no clue
Height - no clue