Supa, I had thought my lochia had slowed right down to nothing and then I had a fresh bleed and passed a huge clot (I'm talking tennis ball size) and the bleeding settled down again. I also have more bleeding after I've done a lot of housework too. But if you are having a lot of pain then call your midwife. With the wound, I have heard that some women feel numbness for quite some time and sometimes forever around the area. My sister still has areas of numbness around her scar.

Now with Tia, if you are startled to feel a little frazzled, give her to your Dh for a while (5 minutes will do) and go outside or have a shower or just somewhere for you to have a bit of time to collect yourself. It is bl00dy hard when you have tried everything and they are still upset. Sometimes the catch 22 is you think they are hungry, so you feed them more, when it is only wind pain and by giving them more you make the problem worse - but then sometimes they need just a tiny bit more to be able to bring up the wind - have I confused you yet? From what you've described though I would say she is a bit windy still. Alister gets all wriggly and wont take his dummy if he still has a bit of wind pain. I would give her a nice deep bath to cover her tummy and then a nice massage to help her out.

And lastly, don't ever be afraid to ask if you aren't sure about something OK - we are all here to help one another out.

ETA - another thing, they don't call this the 'arsenic hour' for nothing LOL. Some babies like to cluster feed of an evening which is a PITA for us, but they need it sometimes. I know it is hard to demand feed when you have a routine of sorts starting, but there are times when we have to just go with the flow.

*Hugs* for you anyway - sounds like you've had a rough day