Clare can you do some more discreet research - finding out more about how much he might already know - before you decide? I certainly wouldn't do anything quickly at this stage. Let the information settle for a while and then let your heart decide. ETA - want to add - curiosity alone is not the best reason for making contact. You need to be coming from a pure intent if it's going to work out well. KWIM?

The biopsy is just a fat needle in the boob, done with an ultrasound so they aim right. They better use a local or someone will get kicked in the goonglies for sure.

JaZaH, I think you wrote the manual on how to stay calm...I would've been screeching banshee-like at DH well before we arrived at the station. Just to confirm what he said. LOL. Seriously - just remember no-one's head ever ACTUALLY exploded from being too cranky at their children or DH (even if it sometimes feels like it will). I think perhaps you just need to have a little laugh, and work out what day of your cycle you're on, and then organise to get out of the house for a coffee with a friend while DH minds the girls.

I like that your mum shaved her head with you and the girls - that's a great idea for if/when the time comes. I really think a wig would just **** me off no end. I much prefer the idea of a coupla funky hats/scarves, or going around like some sort of scary lesbian-skinhead-butch-feminist chick than wearing a WIG! Plus I discovered (we all love google) that it's actually a kinky fetish for some guys...PMSL! BTW I don't like emus and least of all at those places where they are allowed to walk around near the people.

Trill, LOL at the Galapagos Tortoise moment. We have them at the Adelaide zoo, way cool animals!! We're thinking to take E to the zoo soon, just waiting for the heat to go out of the sun a bit more - when it's properly autumn we'll spend the day.
MD, I suppose one positive to take from it is that with the lump being there all that time and only now finding out, is that you could have been riddled with it by now if it were aggressive kwim?
I think we sort of talked around this when I saw Dr Mr Compassion the other day (tho I am having trouble remembering the specifics). Anyway I've decided to take a chill pill rather than obsessing about every detail, kwim? It doesn't really make a lick of difference if it's breast cancer or lymphoma or a ten-headed alien hatching in there. It doesn't change the work I need to do to heal my life. It is enough for me to know about how the drs have arrived at decisions about my treatment, and the rest of it belongs with the mysteries of the universe which even medical science is not equipped to understand. RE the feeling helpless - well don't. You know your support holds me up in a tangible way. Just as much now as it did when I was pregnant and in such anguish at my aloneness. xxx

PP - OUCH hun! No no no on the SPD - Puh-lease don't go there! yep that's what I had. You will need to talk to your yoga instructor because some stretching becomes counter-productive very quickly (which is why I never did join you for yoga in the end). You will notice it when you start to clunk and click and waddle after a session. Take care!!!

Arte- Oh I have visions of stick-on furry Bert brows...no no no!! LOL I'm not a fan of the pencilled in line, drag-queen style, either. I KWYM about my Funky Boob. The thought of it having been discovered when I was actually pregnant or even BFing would've been pretty traumatic for me, and much harder for my family to cope with as well. So I'm kinda thankful on the timing.