Babies Born September 2007 #48

[Patooties]

Hi md - have you got any close friends or family that would go to your place and look after Miss E? (i guess it would have to be someone that you felt incredibly comfortable with too) That way she could still see you and get the occasional cuddle. I know that all chemo medicines are different and have different effects on people - so i guess you won't know how you're going be feeling until you have it. I know when my mum had chemo, there were a couple of weeks where she felt ok, and then one week that she felt quite sick - i think it may have been the last week before the next round started. I'm not sure though. Can you book the days in and then not send her if you're feeling ok? It's that mummy guilt thing isn't it. Little rascals they are

[AnyDream]

It's that mummy guilt thing isn't it.

Yep. She's so happy today, it's the first full day we've had at home together, just her and me, in about 4 weeks. Not to mention the expense of it all. No one who can really look after her here for me. Am thinking maybe I should book her in, but then if I'm ok, change the hours so we spend the morning together when I've got oomph and then she can go to care in the afternoon for a few hours - long enough for me to have a proper sleeping rest so I'm functional in the evenign when DD1 and DH are home. Problem with booking care - if I book, I pay.

[Patooties]

you know if i were closer, Miss E and my Miss H could have lots of play dates together.
Next time i'm talking to my mum, i'll ask her how she REALLY felt. You know what mums are like - keep a smile on their dial even when feeling horrible.

[AnyDream]

Thanks JazaH.

[Trillian]

Oh MD hun, it's a tough one to know what the *right* thing to do is in this situation isn't it? You're not going to know how you feel until you start, but some extra care for E is definately needed, even if just to deal with the times when you're glowing bright green after treatment kwim? You may deal with it absolutely fine, but it's something you just need to take one week at a time. Do you have someone that can just come to your house to help you out, so at least E is there with you, but there is also someone there to take the burden kwim?

Supa, again, it's a tough one to know when the time is exactly right. Sometimes I think you just have to take that chance because like Jaz said, every age gap will present challenges in regards to the dynamics of the family etc. We originally wanted Lindsay to be TT and all that before having #2 too, but once he got a bit older no way known could I wait that long, mind you he didn't TT till nearly 3 ROFL so it's a good thing we didn't stick to the plan.

Kate! great to hear you had a wonderful time. I expect photos for the FB group too IKWYM about the tan - Alister was the same over summer, didn't matter how much suncream i put on or him wearing a rashie or not, he was brown as a berry by the end of swimming lessons. He has his fathers olive complexion too.

G, great to hear that L slotted into care so well, he will benefit so much from it plus you will get that extra time for just you and Jimmy too.

Jaz, IKWYM about not being able to do things with the older ones cause of the little one. I couldn't go groups at school last year either cause it just didn't work out right to coincide with preschool and I would have had 2 to deal with. Next year I will be able to though.

Cally, I don't think you've ever said before that you're only having one at this stage? How soon do they want you to take all your leave? You should have a nice holiday with DH at the end of term and use some up.

Arte, I really like that name, but unlike G I don't know anyone bad called that LOL.

Super busy here today! Paige had a speechie appointment at 10.30, Erin had to get a filling fixed up in her tooth at 12 and Lindsay brought a note home yesterday saying he was getting an award at assembly today at 12.15 (they send a note home so you can be sure to go and see them get their award etc). Luckily the school has a dental clinic so I was already at the school by the time the assembly started. Then had a few jobs to do around town and got home by 2.

And now it's my turn to have a brother busted up in hospital after coming off his motorbike. This kid has more lives than a cat I tell ya! Ever since he was little he has had buster after buster - most of them involving motorbikes and he's always been lucky and only come away with minor breaks and cuts, but this time he did his knee in gooooood. He had the first lot of surgery yesterday to clean it out and start to mend it with pins, but they had to leave the wound open so it could drain (and the hospital he is in has a terrible record for staph infections so fingers crossed he doesn't pick anything up) and he will need another lot of surgery on Thursday and then they are talking skin grafts. Mum is heading over to see him tomorrow, but I can't get over to see him this week. He's doing well enough though, well as much as can be expected anyway.

[AnyDream]

Ow for your poor bro, Trill - tho it does sound like he likes to ride em hard (and doesn't learn his lessons) LOL! Keeping fingies crossed the wound will stay nice and clean and he'll heal quickly after a short hospy stay. Did I tell you I was in a MRSA/VRE room after surgery? Turns out they clean the rooms really well when there's a problem so it was prolly cleaner than a regular ward LOL. Hope you can get to see him soon. xxx

I LOL'd at glowing bright greeen! Tho I don't really mind what colour I look just provided nothing green's coming out either end, kwim LOL. I don't really have any one who can lend a hand that way - most of my peeps either have little ones of their own OR are working for a living. But I suspect if I really need it someone will turn up. So far the Universe has brought me everything I need - I even found some BRAND NEW healing meditation CDs I'd picked up at a 2nd hand bookstore for $3 last year and had completely forgotten I had/never needed until now. How cool is that!!?! All loaded up on the ipod for any waiting room moments when i need to get zen in a hurry.

[Trillian]

Oh yeah, definately load up the ipod - when my Mums partner was having chemo last year for bladder cancer he said most of the time it was "boring as batsh it" and some people were too consumed in their misery to chat to pass the time (he said there were a few who saw chemo as the closest thing to death itself, so they were pretty negative people to be around from what he said about them, not that there is anything wrong with that, but you kwim), so he spoke with the staff or took a few books to read.