Just a quickie to let you guys know that everything went well with the stitches today. I went to sleep and woke up and it was over, a bit of bleeding and am tired but nothing crazy and I should be back to normal tom or fri at the latest. Will try to post longer then.
BS that is great to hear, hopefully you will be back to normal before you know it and the remainder of the pregnancy will all be smooth sailing.
I am at work again today, however am feeling worse today than I did yesterday, I hardly slept at all last night. I copped an abusive phonecall from the girls's fiance as Paul wont answer any of his calls. This guy wants to kill Paul. He has threatened and now I am starting to feel scared by him too. I really don't need this ontop of trying to deal with my emotions and feelings as it is.
I went off at Paul last night and told him to man up and face what he has done instead of being a scaredy cat.
He reackons he has got our address from his brother that works at Vodafone as that is who we both had our mobiles with. I am not worried by that as I am not at the house but Paul had Jett there 2 nights ago.
I really don't know what to do.
It's only 4 nights til my parents return and I can tell them.
Sorry to dump this on you all.
Hope you are all well
Sorry for no personals and a very selfish post.
Happy New Year girls. Thought I'd better post a quickie to subscribe since we have a new thread.
Lani - Still thinking of you. Don't apologise for dumping here....we're all here for you. Would it be worth contacting the police? Not to report or anything (although I'm thinking the brother that works at Vodafone has broken all kinds of privacy laws), but to get some advice as to how you can feel safe. Sounds like the girl's fiance is as hurt and angry as you are...unfortunately his anger is misplaced as it should be directed as his fiancee. And as for Paul, you ****wit! How dare you do that to your beautiful wife and son, but to not take responsibility and deal with the people you've hurt! Man up for pity's sake. Sorry Lani, but people hiding from their mistakes makes me angry. I'm glad your parents will be home soon.
Rose - Thinking of you and your family
BS - Glad the stitches went in successfully. Does this mean you'll be able to remain as active as normal during this pregnancy? I remember how frustrated you were not being able to exercise (or DTD :wink with Eva.
Tilda - Sounds promising if Matilda asked to have her nappy changed. I guess you'll just have to wait and see if she does it again.
Alison - Have a great time at the farm!
kanda - Great to hear from you. Been wondering how you've been getting on. All the best with TTC
willow - DS2 may have been the dream baby, but isn't he the one giving you grief as a teenager? Hopefully Harry will be a polite, happy, multi-syllabic teenager. I honestly think you're a champ for taking his lead, never questioning whether you're doing it right, and just going with the flow.
suz - Good luck for number 3!
Carmey and sesame. Have I forgotten anyone?
AFUS - Still no walking here yet either. Amelia can stand on her own, but when she realises she is, she immediately sits down or grabs hold of something. I tricked her into standing on her own last night though. Her latest word is "up" so while she was holding onto the couch I would say "arms up" and lift my arms above my head. Amelia copies me when she's sitting, but last night did it while standing. She keep her arms up for a good few seconds before holding onto the couch again. Her sleep is still lousy. I've started being more consistent with keeping her in bed with me when she wakes around 10pm. It's so hard though as she crawls & climbs all over us, tries to grab at anything on our bedside tables, pulls herself up to stand using the bed head, drops anything she can get her hands on on the floor. If I know she's tired, I have to hold her down. She cries and will stop if I let her go, but if she only struggles for a few seconds then I know she's ready for sleep and the crying is just her stress relief. There are plenty of times when I've fallen asleep first, but she manages to put herself to sleep eventually. I really want to have a room with nothing but a mattress on the floor and a few quiet toys. That way I can sleep while she does what she does until she falls asleep. But alas, we have way too much cr@p in our house.
Amelia is also down to 2 feeds a day, upon waking and before bed at night, but will have 1 or 2 (or 3) feeds overnight. Sometimes I have to feed her for afternoon sleep (although she'll sleep at care and for DH no probs), but then she doesn't have a proper night one and won't go to bed without it. I think she's also in the process of dropping down to 1 daytime nap. Some days she has 2 1.5 hour naps, others she'll have 1 2-3 hour nap. I think it can take a few months before they really settle down into having 1 nap.
Well, that was a longer post than I thought it would be. I'd better get some work done.
Oh, and as for TTC, we won't be before July. By then the fixed term on our mortgage is up and Mum's estate will be settled, so we'll know what we're doing re moving/building. Well that's provided I get AF back by then. Apart from 3 days of light bleeding 3 months ago, there's been nothing. I had started charting again, just to keep track, but gave up when it got to day 53 and I'd been having fertile symptoms on and off for over a month.
Hannah I had told Paul he needs to man up too I am sick of him being a scaredy cat. It makes me just as angry. My sister and her husband are both police officers so I have spoken to them and they said the police probably wouldn't do anything and how would we prove it. It would be something we would have to fight Vodafone over. I told the fiance last night he should be taking his anger out on her and not us and he said he isn't violent towards women so it is Paul that will cop it all. I am at my sisters or parents so I feel safe as why would the fiance want to hurt me. I really don't care if he finds Paul as long as Jett isn't with him.
I wish I could run away and has time alone but I can't poor little Jett needs me and I have to remain as strong as possible for him.
I think I forgot to tell you all that Jett finally got his first tooth on new years day so first tooth appeared on 1.1.11. How uncanny. His 2nd one cut yesterday so my little man is no longer a gummy bear. He is crusing the furniture and walking behind things he can stand up behind and push along however he doesn't walk behind the walker as it moves away to quickly for him. Yesterday he was using the Esky to walk around until he got stuck, very cute I have a little video that once my parents know whats happened I will upload onto FB.
Hannah July will be here before you know it and hopefully bub will be on board soon after for you.
Lani - oh my goodness. Thats the last thing you need. But as you say, thank goodness you have a safe place to stay. I understand your concern for Jett tho... I just hope Paul sorts this stuff out and soon. What does this guy want tho? Does he just want to speak to Paul? Not long till your parents get back, I'm sure they will be a huge source of support for you both. Hey, that is cool about Jett getting his first tooth on 1.1.11! You won't forget that date!
Hannah - Thats great Amelia is starting to let go and stand on her own! yes, I'm thinking it will take a while for the transition to one nap a day. I just wish I knew what will be a 1 nap day and what will be a 2 nap day - its hard being able to plan things! I do love the one nap days tho...I can do so much more with Michael.
BS - I'm so glad your stitches went well. Does it feel different now you have them in? Silly question I know, but I'm curious! Thats cool the doc thinks it might be a boy!! Do you have boy names picked out? We're already talking names for our 2nd! We like Ella for a girl but we're totally stuck for another boy name
Tilda - great to hear you're going well! That is just sooo cute that she taps your chest, just gorgeous. I understand how sad it must feel to be dropping the feeds tho Oh well, you'll be doing it again soon enough! And flippin heck, asking to have her nappy changed!! What a little smarty! Thats brilliant! I agree its not worth fighting them for that second nap...my problem is I just don't know how long to give him to fall asleep before I can say he's obviously not sleepy and get him up. I've left it up to an hour...but is that too long?! Argh, its so hard to know!
Alison - it is a bit of a toss-up isn't it? The two sleeps is good as you get two seperate breaks and can go out for lunch. But the one sleep is good because you get a longer break...but then you can't really go out for lunch. Hmm....its not like we have much choice tho, unfortunately! How is work going? You sounded like you werent enjoying it too much on fb?
Hello to everyone else!
AFM - MIL is not doing so good. She's been going pretty well for the past couple of months. I can't remember if I told you all but she's been told its terminal and there is nothing they can do but delay the inevitable with mild chemo and a lot of painkillers. She has been receiving the treatment at home for a few months, but it appears she has some sort of infection as she has been coughing an awful lot and getting very bad fevers - which is really bad when she has little immunity. They're seeing the specialist today so hopefully we'll get some answers, and she'll get some antibiotics. Its just so hard to see her like this, she's lost so much weight, she gets so upset when she sees DH, she cries and tells him she loves him so much. She cries when she sees Michael too, which hasn't been a lot lately since he's been sick off and on for a few weeks.
Oh a happier note, we got a new car! yay! Got a lovely Rav4, it feels so massive to drive cos I've only ever really had small cars. But its lovely to have so much room for Michaels things. Plus we're going on our first family holiday in 2 weeks, which I CAN'T WAIT for! We're going with my dad, his g/f, my sis and her b/f...our very first family trip!
I had a dream I had another baby last night, another boy. And I was breastfeeding! I was so happy about it. I'm going to get so organised to try and bf my next one. I had no idea how hard it would be before, but this time I do and I'll be prepared! I'll get breast shells, nipple shields, containers for expressed milk...everything ready, cos I know last time I just didn't have the mental energy to even think about all of that. I'm looking forward to trying it again!
Hey girls, I am up and about feeling toally fine, just a bit slower than usual.
Beany, the stitches don't feel like anything at all...Yesterday I felt a tiny bit sore but it was moire like I had my period or something (I guess since it was handled during the procedure) - Doc told me it is not a sensitive area and honestly I feel no diff at all today. No DTD for 15 days and no sports - until my next appt with doc. I think DTD is allowed later on, but gently. Which is better than nothing! Congrats on the new car - must make such a difference to have space and the car must feel so much more organized. Yay for family vacation - it is a nice age since they can eat out with you guys I am so sorry about MIL I don't know what to say to make you feel better since I don't think there is anything. Just be sure o enjoy every moment she has. Sometimes these things are predicted and it does not come as fast as they think, so here is hoping she has a while to go and is not in pain. Talking baby names already????lol...sounds clucky!!!
Hannah, I don't know how you sleep with her in the bed - Eva does the same - on the occassions when she gets sick and we have her in bed she moves around so much that we sleep so badly. Unless she is really off we keep her in her bed or else we wake up half dead. But it must be nice still having her with you in bed. Nothing beats the morning snuggles Does she also nap in your bed? We always have trouble getting Eva back to sleeping well when we get back from vacation, but we try to insist because we find that she sleeps better in her own room - we wake her up too with our rolling or snoring or whatever. Maybe if she has more moirning feeds she will drop the night feeds? I know Eva stopped waking at night when she started really eating ok in the day. Now she sleeps through 730/8-730 whenever she is not sick or something like that. Try to follow her around and feed her while she plays - Eva hates any structured meal time now - she does not like to be in her chair unless we are all at the table together, so I try to play with her and give her banana and stuff like that sometimes, because I know that if she does not eat she either wakes uup at 6 to eat or during the night. But of course if it does not bother you who cares...This baby phase is over so fast ! Enjoy it while you have it!
Lani - OMG....what the hell was he thinking. Not only to cheat but to cheat with an engaged girl!??? What is going on with these people. Thank god you have your family to stay with and you're right to stay there as long as possible. Try to keep Jett with you as long as possible so this guy has time to cool off at least. Are you leaving him for sure or are you undecided? Congrats on the first tooth and what a special date Jett is a gorgeous boy with a gorgeous mum and I hope you get through this hard time ok. You don't deserve this and Dh is just selfish and wrong in every sense of the word. Is he acting sorry? Or does he not care?
Tilda, it is flying isn't it? I feel like the first trimester passed without my realizing it - but with the first we were just thinking of this baby that would arrive and I think the symptoms were stronger (for me at least) - and since this one is less crazy and tiring and stuff it is just like it is not there. I already have a belly but I forget about it. I still enjoy rubbing it and daydreaming at night though I can't wait to meet my little bub #2! Matilda sounds amazing - Eva communicates like that too (putting up both hands to say no more, o pointing at stuff or bringing me her shoes - Eva is a diva, she like necklaces and stuff and chooses her stuff for me to put on her in the morning!!! At least she has some of my genes since she looks so much like her papa!). It is good that she seems to be showing signs of being aware of her dirty nappy - I am waiting for that too to start full on potty training. It will make things easier when #2 arrives - it is sooner that we think....This summer (or winter for you) another one is coming! That is so soon! So best get her used to being a bit more independent now because later she will have a lot to adjust to with a new baby in the house It is so exciting though - I can't wait to see how Eva will be as a big sister.
I went out today to get Eva new toys - A tea set, kitchen, doll with potty and bottles (to get her used to the idea of putting her doll on the potty since she is already trying to feed her dolls all the time). She is up a level with her playing and prefers organizing things with me, coloring with markers and stirring food and tossing salad. She wants to sit ath the big table with us and I am going to remove her tray and put her up at the table from now on too.
I am finding her to be a very cautious girl. With starngers she does not approach and it takes her time to warm up to people she does not know well. She like books and examining games rather than being loud or banging (she likes that too, but less). She loves music and dancing too. The thing is as soon as there are other kids around she likes to stay at my feet, and if a child even swings a hand too close to her face (not hitting her) she bursts out crying. She is also VERY attached to us. Both of us. More than the other kids I see - she still cries every morning when we drop her off at daycare and gets upset when we leave her. I know every child is different, but what kind of personalities have you girls noticed developing with your babies??? Are there any things that worry you? I don't worry, I just feel like if she is like this it might be hard for her later when kids start bullying and saying things...although I have sen her defend herself when she gets annoyed...It is early to see all this but I am just curious as to how you girls see your babies interacting with other babies and with you and DH....
Ok, I'm going to lay down with a book for a bit before I go get Eva and the evening rush starts DH has been handling all the evening stuff to let me rest (he usually does anyway, since he only gets to see her for a bit in the morning and in the evening, but I would like to prepare dinner at least.
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Carmey and sesame. Have I forgotten anyone?
I just hope Paul sorts this stuff out and soon. What does this guy want tho? Does he just want to speak to Paul? Not long till your parents get back, I'm sure they will be a huge source of support for you both.
We like Ella for a girl but we're totally stuck for another boy name
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