Sorry for being away so long, I really feel like I don't have time for anything anymore.
Heva - in answer to your question many posts back about finding time to go to the gym, I am just having to make time. It is really, really hard. Husband and I have always been into fitness and so it is important to us but it is so hard finding the time. We just try to understand we both have to fit it in.
We are really struggling at the moment, not us, but life in general. Our business is a landscaping business and between now and Christmas is just mayhem. We are dealing with over 30 new enquiries a day and we are both on the computer til after 9pm each night. I just feel so tired all the time and wonder how we are meant to fit anything else into life! I am struggling with finding the time to deal with being back at work 2 days a week and helping out at night, looking after Sam and then finding time for me or just general stuff. Anyway, we know that Christmas will be here soon enough and we will have a two week break then.
SS Storm- Sam is the same with rocking. We have found last few nights we have rocked him then when he goes in his cot he isn't happy at all. Last few nights he has gone down at 6.15pm and doesn't actually go to sleep til 8pm. That is with several attempts at rocking etc. Tonight we just left him crying (he wasn't hysterical) but went up every 20 minutes or so to just pat him and check him. Finally at 8pm he got himself to sleep. I just don't want to be rocking him for the next year!! I figure that rocking him wasn't helping anyway as when you picked him up to rock him it didn't seem to calm him down.
Sorry for no other personals. Sam had his shots yesterday and was very sleepy today, had two really large sleeps of about 2 1/2 hours. He was very brave and didn't cry too much. He did some rolls a few weeks ago but seems to have gone cold on it. Hasn't really been rolling much but loves expressing himself more with his voice and loves trying to stand on his feet. Loves nappy free time too and really loves the bath now too.
SS Storm- sorry to hear about your troubles with hubby, I have a friend in a smiliar situation ( I think). She is the only one looking after their child. She had to go somewhere the other night and it was the first time in 11 months that he had looked after their boy on his own. She had to show him how to do everything and now the baby has issues getting anyone else to settle him to sleep. I hope that now you agree you need to spend more time together that things get better, I will be thinking of you. With babies and life, you both need to work as a team otherwise it just wont work and that means both of you have to have time out and help each other with the load of everything like house work etc.
Anyway, seeing as I am so exhausted I will say goodnight but hope everyone is doing well. I have read the posts and everyones little ones seem to be doing so well! It is really exciting! Better go spend time with hubby..
Take care everyone!
Hi all, i havnt been on here much at all last year or so....but needing to get together with some other mothers who may be going through or gone through what i have/am...i dont have time to post now, but hopefully when the kids are down for their arvo nap (praying) that i can get on here.......
So a big hello to you all...and congrats on all your fast growing bubbas, talk to you all soon
Hi Naomi and welcome - hope to get to know you and your little ones adventures soon
SS - hope you are ok.. thinking of you
Jetta - you are sooo busy, i know how hard it is to fit everything in... hope you get some relaxation in there too - exercise is a great destresser so great you are both getting the time for that
gotta be quick as i am off to a meeting as soon as J wakes up and need to get dinner etc ready for DH to give DS1...
All is well here... J is having his 4 months jabs on mon.
Sleep seems to be getting a bit better - he still wakes 2/3 times overnight for a feed but not like it was a week or so ago. he rolled that one time and that's it - loves going onto his side though so i guess it'll happen. he is very vocal and also likes to stand... i am trying to give him more time on his tummy now - he doesnt mind it now if i time it right
went to a mums and bubs movie this morning - J was great. i used to go when he was tiny and it was easy but i wasnt sure how he would go now. it was a success so I will be doing it again soon!
Okay, feel like I am losing it, well not quite but sort of. I am looking for some advice here. Sam has mainly been rocked to sleep since he was born. We always try to put him in his cot when he is tired and sleepy but mostly he then cries and we try either stroking his head and patting or light rocking. Often he needs resettling and will then get taken out of the cot at least once to rock again. Lately we are trying to stop rocking as much as Sam is really not learning to settle himself. I know he is young but we just want to start a little bit.
The last two afternoons he wakes around 3.30pm and even though he starts getting tired around 5pm he just won't go back to sleep, just lies there. So back up again for a feed around 6pm then because he is so tired I put him down around 6.15-6.30pm. The last two nights he just won't settle til 8pm and then sun goes down. First night tried rocking etc, but its like when you pick him up out of the cot he starts crying even more. That night I let him cry for about 40 minutes, it wasn't screaming just more whinging but he just won't settle. Nothing we do seems to help which is why we left him there as we tried rocking, aquarium on, stroking, patting. Last night same thing except he was hesterical. After 15 minutes of this I couldn't hack it, tried rocking didn't work, tried soothing, tried dummy for a few minutes, tried feeding for 5 minutes. 8pm came and my husband gave him the dummy and rocked him and wihtin 1 minute he was asleep. I can't stand listening to him that upset. I don't mind a bit of whingy crying but this was awful and nothing we did helped.
This morning, he is usually really good at settling but no, we are crying again. When I took him up this morning, I wrapped with one arm out (started doing for a week) and he just didn't want to be rocked. 10 minutes of rocking and he was crying still, so I put him in his cot with the aquarium on and he is whingy crying at moment. I think he may settle but it is doing my head in. I feel like I have completey lost control again and I don't know what to do!!
Sorry for the long winded essay, but just want some advice on what others do. I don't mind really rocking him but when we go out in the stroller becuase he just can't settle himself at all I have real troubles and I just want to start teaching him to settle a little. I am not keen on leaving him to cry for long periods of time, happy for about 20-30 minutes as long as it is just light crying or whinging. If he is hesterical I go and try to calm him but he doesn't even want to be calmed!! Its like becuase he has then been awake so long he is over it.
Okay, now I have that off my chest I will attempt at having a shower, he has been quiet for 5 minutes so fingers crossed.
hi all, feels like ages since i've posted in here. i got a tummy bug/gastro on sunday night & have been feeling pretty average, yesterday was the first day that i felt a bit human again!
jetta - i've found that rocking DS doesn't really work here either anymore. we haven't really tried much self settling here & i pretty much do whatever i need to to get DS to slee p - at the moment he feeds to sleep most of the time, who knows what it will be next week. it's changed many times since he was born so i figure it will change again. i do everything possible to avoid DS becoming hysterical because, like you, i find it so much harder to settle DS down again. i've also given up on the idea of set nap times etc because these also seem to be changeable & now we have more of a rhythm to our day rather than a routine. i feel less pressured & stressed this way. it's also helped me to deal with DS not being the most ideal/consistent day sleeper (some days he might only nap for an hour all day).
Jetta, don't know about the rocking but WRT him becoming very unsettled - Arlea has been doing this a bit lately, especially when she is very overtired & the ONLY thing that stops her screaming is distraction. I take her out of the room, or get DS2 to come & talk to her, anything to distract her. Once she has stopped then we can usually give her a bottle or rock her off to sleep. I know what you mean though - she was a pretty good self-settler & it seems to be going out the window
I hope it's just part of the wonder week & will pass...
hi jetta. I really feel for you, esp as we are going thru a similar situation here. I second everything sarah said (corey and Zac sound virtually interchangeable!) I've posted on another thread about this too, and the two things that I've taken from all the replies and advice are:
1: just do whatever works for you and baby
2: at around 4 months their sleep patterns seem to go all to hell anyway
a realisation I had too was that I was/am impatient. I wanted him to start self-settling - now! Now I understand that I need to help him learn how to do that, and that it will be a very gradual process...
it doesn't help when you're absolutely exhausted yourself as you have no reserves left.
I am working on developing sleep associations for Z - bath, massage, book, feed, rocking & lullabies, bed. I'm trying to progressively put him down slightly sooner so that he is less asleep and can hopefully work out what to do from there. I sit with him and hum with my eyes shut until I am sure he's asleep.
that's night-time - daytime naps are a whole other struggle for another day at this stage! typing this one handed with a very tired baby on my lap and still waiting to have a shower myself...
stick with it and try to get some rest yourself (haha)
Just wanted to pop in and say a quick hello to everyone, seems like for ever since I posted but I have been keeping up with everything.
Jetta, maybe try wrapping Sam again. I found that when I started trying to wean Ash from wrapping it made it near impossible for him to get to sleep. He would just grizzle/cry until he wore himself out completely and then would only sleep for 30 or 40 minutes. Now that I've started wrapping him again things are back to normal. I guess he just isn't ready. Mind you we still have the problem of him rolling onto his tummy and getting stuck, but if we rescue him quickly he doesn't wake up. Last night we thought we might try just putting him in his sleeping bag without wrapping him. I'd just fed him and he was sound asleep, but the minute I put him down and started doing up the bag his arms started flying around and he woke himself up
Jetta - Hugs we are going through the same here. Ditto to the advice Lovelycate has given. Keep up the sleep associations and be consistant. If he gets too upset change his scenry as Jasp mentioned then try agin. Eventually they do get it.
AFUS - Evie got her needles yesterday and she is not happy at all. She won't sleep unless there is a boob in her mouth and she has a temp. Her weight is 6.2kgs and lenght 64cms. She is so close to rolling too.
MissE - I took your lead and have introduced some water too.
Welcome naomi, looking forward to hearing more about you & your bub!
Jetta- i know how frustrating it is when they won't sleep! We went out for dinner last night, H had been awake since 6.30 and she wouldn't go to sleep until nearly 10pm! She was so tired but just wouldn't go to sleep.
The others have given you some great advice, i dont think I can really add to it! Hayley has always been pretty good, although the last few days I've had to pat her to sleep. Today she has gone down fine though. I think it's probably something you'll have to wait out...but I'm sure it will end!
Sloane hope you are feeling better soon.
Bek- hope your little one gets over her needles quickly! I think we were so lucky not to have a reaction to her 4 month ones..I was ready for it though! Knowing my luck next time will be a shocker! Lol. She must be a long and skinny bub? I got Hayley weighed last week and she was 7.5kg and 63cm long, a little chubby bubby!
Not much happening here, has been so hot we have just stayed at home. Going out tomorrow though, have a few things to do at the shops.
i've been reading but not posting much, just been mega busy with weddings and stuff. We're all good, fred has discovered her feet and spends all day trying to catch them. If i put them near her face she just giggles and laughs and tries to eat them. She has also worked out how to scream which is cute, but noisy. We've also just started some solids. At dinner she yells at us if there isn't some food on her tray and love to try everything we are eating. She has now tried avocado, banana, bread, yogurt and farex. I'm doing a mix of the old style of feeding and new style. She seems to be enjoying it and loves to taste the food. The look on her face when she tries something new is priceless! She has learnt how to hold her spoon and get it into her mouth and can also hold the bread in her hand and get it in there. Our dog also loves the food that is being dropped on the floor.
Sorry for the lack of personals. Just remember I have read all your posts and am wishing you all the best with our little ones
ss- Isaac loves standing up, he looks like he's really proud of himself when he does it. He also grunts and gets quite frustrated at tummy time. some days he manages to move around in circles, but most of the time he just lifts one side of his body off the mat a couple of times then gets tired, puts his head down and screams at the floor. It must be so frustrating for them.Glad to hear things with DH are better, hopefully it lasts
Jasp- Isaacs the same, he's got the strength but not the balance. He's been strong enough for ages though so who knows when he'll get it.
Jetta- My goodness you guys are busy. I don't even have a job and barely find time for a shower once every couple of days I don't know how you do it but I absolutely admire you (and anyone else who can) for it.
As for not sleeping Isaac was exactly the same a few weeks back. It lasted about a week or so now he is pretty much back to normal, I had to do a couple of things differently, but we got there, thank goodness. Hopefully it's just a wonder week and everything will go back to normal Do you have a routine when you put him down? ie I lie DS down put a blanket over him, put his dummy in, then say "go to sleep, mummy loves you" and walk out of the room. That might help him to learn to self settle.
Naomi- Hi and welcome , I look forward to getting to know you and your little ones.
MamaPan- Probably a stupid question but... What's the difference between the mums and bubs and a normal session? Do they have the volume a little lower or anything or is it just a session where people can take thier babies and it doesnt matter if they cry? I've been thinking about going but I don't want to damage DS ears among other things.
Ryatha- sounds like your DD is going great guns, what a clever little miss. How old is she? She's well ahead of my DS and he is 20 weeks.
Hi everyone else, hope you and your families are well.
AFM- Haven't been doing much, did a massive clean up of our bedroom today because it was a tip. We have a massive room and you could barely see the floor. I also sorted through all of my clothes and now have a stripey bag full of stuff to either throw or give away.
Aside from that it's been pretty hot here the last few days so we've been swimming in our pool. Isaac LOVES it, almost as much as he loves the bath. I really want to get him into swimming lessons, but it seems everytime I think about booking him in something comes up and we cant afford it.
I've been thinking lately about getting ourselves onto a better diet. So I've decided we're going to cut out as many preservatives and other "bad stuff" as possible. The only thing I'm not sure about is how I'm going to find the time to cook more stuff from scratch. Oh and what to cook. I'm not the best cook in the world - not terrible but not great- but hey anyone can learn... right? I hope cooking skills aren't hereditary, if they are I haven't got much hope. lol
I realised recently that I haven't shown Isaac off to you guys. So here's my photo album of Isaac- You might have to add me to see them I'm not sure, but your more than welcome to.
He's a little cutie Heather! Have added you BTW I found a great website a few years ago- Taste. Has a ton of great recipes, both simple family meals and 'fancy' ones. I've found it's a great resource!
For anyone else who wants to add me on FB, it's Vanessa Woods, the pic is of Hayley with a little red top with white spots. Just let me know who you are on BB so I know who is adding me!
Gotta go, we are having internet problems at the moment, won't work on my laptop so am on DF's desktop.
hi all just a quick note while i have called in home kids and i have been staying at their dads where it is cooler my house has been way to hot most of the time its cooler outside then inside. anton had his 4 month needles on wednesday he handled them real well. asm my throid levels are way too low im on different meds then what i was on to brring it back up im also getting ontop of my depression which im happy back
hi All,
sorry i never got back on...kids dont like it when im on comp.....we dont have a monitor so we use our tv as a monitor which means no telly on for them!! lol
Ive only got Lachie awake atm so taking the time and jumping on quickly
We have had a rather interesting 4 1/2 months!! to say the least......
Cam suffered from a slight bad case of a nappy rash when only a few weeks old (staphalogical i think, other words burned skin syndrome), wasnt good, we struggled with BF even though BF was working confused me too lol (see other post on here i made a few months back), completely stopped at around 12-13weeks, He has been diagnosed with Colic and Reflux, he is on reflux formula, soda and rubarb drops, and wind drops. He still quite whingy and demanding baby, my DP struggles with him and i cant ask him for help b/c he gets fustrated within secs of being with him if Cam starts to cry. Im not sure if its b/c Lachie was a "easy" baby in comparison or what the go is, we have struggled really struggled. I got the Labour i wanted and it was great, but its been down hill since then. To top it off he is teething pretty badly atm!!! on top of which its now day 13 of TT Lachie, but he is taking like a pro to it so not that bad but still alot.....
Lachie is playing in the toilet...i gotta go before it wakes Cam up......who hasnt slept much today at all!!
Sorry for the selfish post, i just need advice and support but need to finish what i was writing lol
Hopefully i get back on soon.....
thankyou
Just a quick one from me. Heather your photos are gorgeous what a cutie!
Naomi sounds like you have had a rough time. The only thing that got me through sometimes was knowing that it's not forever...everything changes & it will get better
I have a few spare minutes (that's a rarity these days!) so thought I would pop in quickly and say hello!
Naomi, I really hope things are getting a bit easier for you. It must be so hard with two little ones, I struggle with one sometimes so I can only imagine.
Good to hear from you Jess. I was just thinking the other day that it had been awhile since you posted, hope everything is well with you and the kids.
Storm, Hayley is a real little cutie, loved your pics!
Heva, how's the review of your diet going. I admire you for giving it a go, I try to avoid preservatives and salts as much as I can, but it is so hard! Isaac is also gorgeous, seems we've got some real cuties in our group.
Ryatha, glad the solids are going so well for you. I'm dying to start Ash but think we might wait a couple of weeks yet. He's just starting to take a real interest in food, he reaches out for his sippy cup now if I'm holding it and will also reach out for my water bottle or a glass if I'm drinking something.
Bekz I hope Eva is doing better after her needles, it so horrible seeing them sick. Is she liking the water? Ash loves having his sippy cup but it seems more spills out of his mouth than goes down. Oh well, I think he just likes the experience of it.
How are the sleep associations going Cate? Any improvements in the naps?
AFM everything is tracking along pretty well at the moment. Ash's naps have finally improved. We seem to get at least one longer sleep of 1.5 to 2 hours each day which is great, I can actually get some things done. This is good because I've started doing a bit of work from home and it lets me get a run at it. DH and I have been doing a bit of christmas shopping the last couple of weeks and I have had so much fun picking santa presents out for Ash. We've got quite a few fisher price things that are 6 months +, but hopefully come christmas he will be at a stage when he can play with them. We also bought a high chair on the weekend. Only put him in it once so far, but he seems to like it.
Anyway, better run DH will be home soon and Ash should be waking up any minute. Hope everyone is well and bubs are giving their mumma's lots of sleep. x
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Sloane, hope you are feeliogn better.
I don't know how you do it but I absolutely admire you (and anyone else who can) for it.
I'm not the best cook in the world - not terrible but not great- but hey anyone can learn... right? I hope cooking skills aren't hereditary, if they are I haven't got much hope. lol
BTW I found a great website a few years ago- Taste. Has a ton of great recipes, both simple family meals and 'fancy' ones. I've found it's a great resource!
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