Babies Born ~ June 16th - 30th 2011 #1

Thank you for the welcomes!

I think Alex has been going through a growth spurt, he's spent the past week waking up several times during the night for a feed and then not wanting to go back to sleep. DH and I have been a bit tired. We're glad we didn't put him in the same room as Zoe, I'd hate for her sleep schedule to be put off if Alex was in there with her to wake her up.

We've had an interesting weekend, we went to watch DH play soccer with his work mates yesterday and he ended up having a fall and fracturing his ankle. I cried all the way to the hospital, I couldn't deal with DH having something broken and I upset the kids with all my crying which I feel bad about, I tried to keep it together for them, really I did. DH was fine despite the pain he was in, he was trying to comfort me rather than thinking of himself and he has a cast on now for 6 weeks, crutches and will probably need to have physio afterwards too. We had an okay night, I made sure DH spent plenty of time in bed resting and he's just resting with his foot up today. Zoe doesn't understand why daddy can't run around and play with her but we explained to her daddy has an owie and needs to rest. I'm hovering over him so much, I can't help it, I love him like crazy and now he's hurt and I just want to make it better but I can't. We're all going to have to get used to this for the next 6 weeks!

Agape sorry to hear about your dh, that sucks.

K- hugs! your a great mum and your MG sounds like a bunch of idots, screw them!

hope everybody is good

Tomorrow Sophie has a vacination and we'll go to the city for a proper check for her 3 mth check either monday or tuesday. She seems so big now, Im curious to know what she weighs

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kaytee - sorry to hear about your issues with your mum, hopefully she gets the hint soon and starts backing off a bit. and who cares what the mothers at mg say, honestly there are always going to be people disagreeing with what you do as a parent. they should quite honestly keep their opinions to themselves. and as far as i am concerned your doing fine. congrats on sticking to your guns and being a caring, competent mother.

i would have william in our room, but have only moved him to his own as he is too big for bassinet and cot wont fit, so to me id prefer him there. i like listening to him sleep. plus also because the recommended 6mo thing, but im glad i kept him in ours until 3.5 months at least.

and the bf thing just urks me, it is frustrating that people supplement and then wonder why their supply dwindles. honestly??? if you have no issue with bf why would you bottle feed just to see??

i will be going with william leading the way on eating not by what a book says, but even then not until he is older than 4 months. and im using cloth nappies when at home too.

seems like this mothers group has more in common with your ideas than your local one.

agape - sorry to hear about your dh, hope his ankle heals up soon and he isnt too uncomfortable.

Oh dear Agape, I hope your DH is ok. I know how you feel hovering over him, it's horrible when someone you love so much is hurt. Hope he's feeling better again soon :hug:

Bskilner, that's good that William adjusted well to sleeping in his own room :) Probably doesn't make much difference to him, he's asleep anyway lol. And at least you can hear him through the monitor. My Mum was telling me the other day when I was born I went straight into a basinette in my room, and they didn't have monitors or anything. They only knew I was awake when I was crying. Apparently a lot of things are different now, she gets confused by a lot of it.

How long is William now? I can't believe he grew out of the basinette at 3.5 months! We measured Annabelle on Friday (3 month birthday, hooray!) and in a month she's gained 650g and 1cm. I'm glad she still fits in the pram basinette so she can nap in the lounge, I don't really want her to do naps in her room til we move, there doesn't seem much point.

DT, good luck for Sophie's injections tomorrow!

Thanks for the support everyone, re my Mum & the MG. Same as MoT, I don't want to offend anyone - that's why I don't question their parenting choices. Just go along with it and offer my point of view/what we're doing when asked. So I kind of feel like if I can be nice about it and just accept that we all do it differently, why can't they? Oh well. The thing is, other than that I do really like them all, and I want Annabelle to know other babies. Might just see how it goes, if it gets all competitive and narky I can using moving as an excuse to stop going :)

Hope everyone's doing well!

William was 65.5cm last week and 6.87kg. How big is annabelle now? I wish i could keep him in our room, atleast until 6months but not enough space and his head was rubbing on top of bassinet and didnt want him to damage himself.

Yeah I reckon I'd be concerned too if he's that long, don't want him bumping his head. It's great that he's taken to his room so well, makes it easier for you. How do you go when he wakes at night? I've been wondering that for when Belley is in her room. I've got a chair for feeding her, but my monitor doesn't have a video thingy so I won't know if she's really awake.

On Friday Annabelle was 6.6kgs and 61cm. She's on the 90th percentile I think now, whereas she was off the chart when she was born lol.

i dont have video either, i just know by the cries that he makes. If hes going back to sleep he usually goes quiet after a couple of minutes, and dont know how to explain it but it sounds different when hes awake?? lol, mum intuition, you'll probably know belley is awake too, just havent had to before because she is in your room. its funny how these things are. last night he slept through like usual and didnt wake until 7am. but he usually doesnt cry much overnight when he wakes up, just grizzles and chats away. if he wakes up screaming i jump out of bed lol before my legs have time to adjust lol.

Now is definatly the time we can start to leave them to re-settle if they are not crying. Sophie does all kinds of squeakes and grunts while shes sleeping, she'll wake for afew seconds then get herself back to sleep sometimes too.
Had her 3 mth check today, 61cm and 6.6kg
Busy with her 100 day celebratio0n stuff and my sister is here so I'll catch up with y'all properly later

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Hey ladies & bubs :)

Was going to reply to you guys yesterday but I don't reckon you'd have liked what I'd write lol. Would have been very ranty and include a lot of starred out swearing. A long story short, Annabelle woke every two hours max Monday night. During the day she tried so hard to sleep, and was woken up every time by the dog. He's so lucky to be alive right now lol. But yeah, the whole day was just her crying and trying to feed and trying to sleep and not much was going right.

Today's much better, but she's still waking a lot more than normal overnight. Yesterday morning, when she decided 5:30 was the perfect time to be awake for the day, I wound up crying, saying to DH "I know about the 4 month growth spurt and sleep regression, but if she's doing this now at 3 months what's she got to regress to??" Lol so yeah, bad day!

She can't self settle/re-settle yet. The longest I leave her is 15 minutes. She starts with the waking up sounds - grunting, louder breathing etc, then slowly gets louder, then makes little talky squeaky sounds. Eventually I go in there and she's managed to get her hands out of the wrap and she's sucking away looking at everything around the room lol.

I do have a feeling she's been a bit ill. She developed a bit of a cough and was sneezing. Then on Monday she did a massive green stinky poo. She's done another normal one today so I'm hoping it's passing. Pretty annoyed at my brother's gf though, I think that's where it came from. On the Father's Day weekend we were with the whole family and she spent hours playing with Annabelle only for us to find out later that she was sick. And boy did it show the next day, she looked awful. Wish she'd not spent so much time with Belley now, but oh well.

Anyway, enough about us :)

DT, Sophie is exactly the same size as Annabelle at her 3 month check! What are you doing for her 100 day celebration? I hadn't even thought of that, I'm off to look up when Belley will be 100 days old lol.

Bskilner, how's William going through the night? It must be so reassuring for him to be sleeping through in there.

MoT, hope you guys are all over your illnesses now and are feeling much better.

Has anyone else got a talker? Annabelle has really discovered her voice, and really yells/squeals/squawks at everything! She's got these hanging people in her little play gym thingy, she grabs their legs and screams at them because they can't reach her mouth lol. Her favourite game is when I hold her standing on my lap, I count to three then lift her in the air and kiss her face. I don't know if it's possible, but it's like she recognises "3" because she gets a big grin when I say it. Then in the air she squeals and laughs, it's so adorable :) I reckon once she can talk properly there'll be no stopping her!

Hi

Kt, Lilac is such a chatterbox. She has been making baby talk since she was born. Very strange to me. A friend just told me her 4 month old has just started chatting.

I've been feeling really depressed and useless because lately when I've tried to go out, just to take my son to the playground, Lilac has got stroppy and the experience has made me stressed. I feel like a bad mum for my son.

So many people said having a 2nd child was easier. Yes, the baby is easier but I suck at juggling the needs of 2.

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Jude 07/10/2008 | Lilac 16/06/2011

Big hugs K :hug: I take my hat off to anyone with more than one child, I get overwhelmed at times with just the one. We have a horrible time going anywhere that's over 20 minutes away. If Belley wakes up in the car, she screams. She just seems to hate it in there now. I sit in the back with her on long trips now but that doesn't even help sometimes.

Hoping things get better for you :hug:

Oh Kuraiza, bug hugs. Im sure you are doing a wonderful job hun. It ca be so hard. I think all babys have unsettled moments when you go out and it feels like everybody else has "good" babys. I think babys just get need time to get use to everything, the world is a pretty overwhelming place. Some days will be better then others.

We have to have a huge dinner for the 100 day celebration. will be about 100 people - relatives, friends etc. Everybody will wanna hold Sophie, shake her, kiss her, make her smile and over stimulate her. Its gonna be a nightmare. It was with DS2 and this 1 wont be different. We also will get photos done at a place, will get some of her, some of the boys and some of the kids together maybe even a family photo slipped in. Hope that will be fun, I know the boys are looking forward to it.

Ollie is home with a cough at the mo- hope he doesnt give it to the baby.

Funny that the girls are the same size :lol:

Hello to everybodyelse

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kaytee - he was awake at 2.30 then 5.30am last night. how adorable about belley laughing with that game.

double trouble - hope the party goes well.

william is really grizzly today, doesnt want to sleep when he needs it. he is still really sniffly with blocked nose which doesnt help. but hes crying no matter what i do. cant wait for this cold to pass.

BS- have you got a oil burner? Tea tree oil or eucalyptus oil mixed with water helps to clean the nose. So does a little drop of warm water put up the nose- Just 1 drop at a time, it can help to moisten and loosen the yucky stuff blocking it. If you dont wnt to try that, put the shower on hot and close the door, the steam should help.
Part of his crying will be unable to breathe, he'll be scared on a very basic instinct level. My DS2 stil freaks out when he gets a cold and cant breathe.
Hugs to both of you, its so hard when they dont stop crying.

dt - dont have an oil burner, but been giving him a shower of anight time which definately helps. and been using saline drops up his nose when it gets bad, but he just hates it. screams the house down. considering buying a humidifier. but a bit better today, but still not wanting to sleep much.

and just did a poo after 5 days without one, had lots of belly pain beforehand, poor tyke. glad that he pooed lol. who would ever think you'd be glad someone pooed.

howdee do dee

just sat down but baby has other ideas :lol:

XXX

Hey there Mums & Bubs!

Wow it's quiet in here! I've been a bit inactive on BB for a while, reading but not posting much. Had a few horrible days with Belley where I was just exhausted and stressed and felt like doing not much other than crying :( Then whenever I did get a break I was packing away stuff we don't need to make moving easier.

DT, I just saw your other thread :hug: I hope your little man is ok. I can only imagine what it would be like for you to see him struggling like that. Hopefully things gets easier soon.

How was Sophie's 100 day celebration (if it's been yet)? Hope she didn't get passed around and worn out too much. It's hard when family and friends don't respect that they're still little and need down time and a bit of stability with the one person. My Mum's a bad one for that.

Bskilner, how's William doing? Hope he got over his cold and is feeling better, poor little guy :( Hope you're managing to get some rest too :hug:

Kuraiza, hugs to you too :hug: I'm sure your son realises things need to be a little different to accommodate bubs, you're doing a fantastic job. Hopefully Lilac starts to settle down for you soon.

I had a go at weighing Annabelle on the kitchen scales this morning, seeing as our bathroom ones broke lol. A bit dodgy, but she's around 7.3kgs! At MG yesterday she was lying next to a 5 month old - same length, but Belley's like a kilo heavier lol. It's funny there, loads of the babies are big, Annabelle certainly isn't in the minority!

It's getting better there. I think all the 'judginess' is out of the way, and while we do all parent differently it seems everyone's over it. I find that if I ask questions about their styles it's all good. Like the girl who uses Tizzie Hall's schedules - wakes up baby at 7am, down from 9-11, then 1-3, then down for the night at 7. She wakes bubs at these times if she's not waking herself. Anyway, I asked a few questions, like what if she wakes at 10? Do you just keep trying to keep her asleep, and then wake her at 11? Or what if you have a late night or go out, do you still wake her at 7? It just doesn't seem logical to me but it's working for them. I just cant imagine putting Annabelle to bed to 'self-settle' if she wasn't tired. It just wouldn't happen!

Hope you're all doing well and the little ones are all good :)

Hey!
Sophies 100 day wasnt as bad as I had expected. She was hot so started crying soon after we got there which was good, meant that people didnt try kidnap her.
We had 10 tables of guests, about 100 odd people plus kids. I just took her round each table and when she cried would take her back. The next weekend we had her cousins 100 day celebrations and she fared much worse there, was little miss parcel in a pass the parcle game, got her photo taken by every man and their dog and stole the show from her cousin Im afraid but it was only afew hours and here where most couples only have 1 baby, babys are prized, everbody wants a cuddle and a smell. Im learning torelax a bit with dh family but to watch like a hawk cause they stil do stupid things- ie an uncle threw her in the air, like you would a toddler NOT A BABY! IDIOT!!! :lol:

Personally, I think, If you dont need a schedule for baby, then dont enforce 1, I believe in nudging into a routine if possible-ie I know if I feed DD at 11pm I can (most nights) sleep until 3am. Asking questions is a friendly and I think your great to try talk to them. interesting too- how do they get baby to do the routine? fascinating hehe