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Ebn - interesting about the quick labour causing probs with a newborn. I had never heard of that before. Hope M gets better soon. When does your full house become less full? I'm having the same issues with my DS1 re some changes in behavior. One of the reasons why were keeping him in daycare but it is expensive :(. :hug: PM me if you want to talk in private about how our sons are handling the new additions. I didn't realise how much easier it was to have just a newborn at home!! Haha
Hi ladies, sorry for my selfish vent post yesterday! I felt much better after getting my frustration out! :redface: I had a day to myself today, which was good. I just woke from a nap with my little man and I think we're about to venture out for our first trip to do the food shopping! :o
Bubba - Yep I have my X on formula - he's on Nan Gold. My sister and a couple of girlfriends advised me to steer clear of s26 because they found it constipated their bub's. They all suggested Caricare funnily enough. But thanks for the suggestion :). X seems to be going along good now, I don't think his reflux is to do with the formula, more likely the little piggy tries to gulp down his feeds! lol.
Woohoo for the weight loss! :dance: I have dropped 8kgs since my CS - which I was amazed at, considering X was small! So only 5kgs to go for me to get back to pre-baby weight :).
Ebn - How are things with your little boy now? Seeing them in pain would be heartbreaking! I bawled when they did the heel ***** test and little Xman got so distraught!
Hotaru -Thanks lovely, I chocked one end of the bassinet up tuesday night and Im not sure if that made a difference or if his reflux settled as he seemed to keep all feeds down, yay. Thats a good tip about heating his little bed area up before putting him there, I might just try it! :):
Mc_hope - our strategy last night was (on the combined advice of our neighbours) to chock one end of the basinette up so it's not totally flat and we put a heated up wheat bag in where J will sleep to pre warm it so he doesn't notice the difference between our body temps and the basinette. Not sure where that fits in terms of being the right thing to do but it seems to work at nights for the moment. Days are totally different!
How did the newborn photos go?!
Dory - the restriction towards Hb would be hard! I missed being able to have snuggles or pick up my little nephew, let alone it being my own kid! Hugs to you xx How is Miss G, has the nights settled at all for you yet?
AFM, settling into this mummy thing quite well I think ;) X has his first visit from the community care nurse tomorrow and will be weighed! I am curious to see what the little piggy has put on, his feeds have been increasing slowly. Night times are getting better, I took the advice (I think it was from BR) about light being day and dark being night. So now at bedtime I try and keep the lights off for feeds and nappy changes. I think its helped as X slept for 3.5hrs between feeds last night!
The MIL is only here til Sunday, so I just have to keep reminding myself of that when I get frustrated. I know she's only here for a week and she won't hardly see him as she lives interstate, its just hard as she's one of those "I used to" "you should" kind of people. And to top it off, I haven't really had much to do with her before bub was here so there wasn't any real pre-existing relationship/friendship IYKWIM. Maybe in time it will get better...
So I have had breakfast and a cuppa, my antibiotics and blood thinners, fed and washed a baby and he is back asleep and I only got up an hour and a half ago.
How have I managed all this you ask??? Well I had a full nights sleep 10pm til 730am!! DH did the midnightish feed and X didn't go back down til 2am (he had a very restless day yesterday) and he didn't wake til 730am. 5 and a half hours!!!
We have noticed X has gone through a growth spurt which according to google is quite normal at 3 weeks, he is barely fitting in his 0000 clothes now. Time to pull out all the 000's
Have a lovely day everyone and I hope all your bubba's sleep as well as mine is right now :)
Hello mummies!!!
Sorry I haven't popped in to this thread before now - man this parenting gig is hard work lol!
I cant believe my little cherub Matilda-Rose is 2 weeks old today -crazy! We've had windy pain challenges too - its heartbreaking to see your little one in so much pain isn't it! Matilda Sleeps really well during the day but we have had shocking nights! I've certainly shed some tears this week. Also, Matilda has a dislocatable hiP and is in a brace - more tears shed over this. Hopefully she'll only need brace on for 8 weeks and will be all better. My mum has been staying with us this week and DH is at work but DH is on 2 weeks leave as of this arvo, so Im sooooo looking forward to have him home for the next fortnight. He is such a wonderful daddy and is such a calming influence on his girls!
I'm on my mob at the moment with DD having bunny snuggles on my chest so will pop back later to do new signature/ ticker and persies! Thanks so much for sharing such personal stories and being so supportive. I cannot even tell you how much better I feel now that I've had a chance to pop on here and see that I'm not alone with the challenges I'm facing - was really starting to doubt myself as a mum!!!
Have a great day with your precious Bubs ladies!
X
Embo nice to see you :)
On phone so sorry for no
Persies
X has put on 600gms in 2 weeks, what a little piggy teehee
Hi ladies,
sorry to have been MIA .... I had tried to post a few times, but ended up deleting them instead. I have been reading all your posts though. forgive me if I get names mixed up on the persies... (oh so tired....)
BubbaT - you deserve a medal for surviving X birth! That nasty midwife deserves a complaint - just reading your story, my brain was ticking over of the things that could have been wrong, even I was thinking "kidney pain". and thanks for asking about me.
Ebn - how is your little man doing? that sounds terrible, fortunately my DD2 seems OK after her rapid entry, it's just mum that is sore and sorry (still very sore perineum, and zero pelvic floor to speak of, and I thought I had wee-wee troubles in pregnancy!!!). I noticed that on DD2 "blue book" they wrote as a complication "precipitous labour" which I hadn't heard of - basically it means <3hours and is considered a complicated labour because of the additional risks to mum and bub. After reading that I felt a bit more validated, but they didn't discuss that in the hossy with me!!
Embo - DD1 was in a harness too. :hug: it is hard work. There is a thread here on the forums for hip dysplasia, if you can't find it, PM me and I'll send you the link. DD1 is now fine, and considered "normal" so FX for your little one too! DD2 has to have a scan at 12 weeks just to confirm (they did exam at birth, and seemed OK).
Dory - hugs for not being able to hug HB, that must be so hard.
We too have had some windy pains here - I can vouch for the chocking up one end of the basinette - did it for DD1 and have now done it again. The other issue I had this time was engorgement (undersupply with DD1) and DD2 ended up with too much foremilk and gassy poos, but that has started to settle as my supply has settled.
I forget who said it before about which way the babies suck and the ducts they empty, but it is their chin end which does the sucking, so if you hold them "madonna hold" they are sucking from the inner/towards the centre ducts. If you have a blockage on the outer ducts (towards the armpits) then you need to spin them to twin/football hold.
I have been struggling a bit - DD1 isn't coping too well with being a big sister. How are you other 2nd time mum's and your No1's coping? DD1 alternates between being interested, and throwing the biggest tantrums. She accepts that I hold and feed DD2, but DH isn't even allowed to hold or touch DD2 without DD1 throwing a huge hissy fit, she has always been "daddy's girl" but she doesn't like me very much at the moment. not quite sure how to manage this?????
sorry to all the other ladies who I haven't mentioned, but hello! I think that is the end of my attention span at the moment...
Milly - my labour is down as 'precipitate ' as well, so after googling I felt a bit more validated too. Also as for having the older child, our ds was handling it not too bad, not paying too much attention but giving him a kiss or saying hi if we drew his attention him. Nights were tough as ds2 was usually crying at ds1's bedtime and ds1 would think we weren't looking after him or something so the first few nights he would come in our room for the 10-11 pm feed, to see we were looking after him, but then be ok to go back to his bed and he would then sleep. But with all the other disturbances around at the moment his gone back a little. Except today he did help me change ds2 nappy, handing me wipes etc and then afterwards he lied down and talked to his brother for a minute without prompting, its actually the first time he has done anything like that, it was so cute.
Afm - had a big cry to myself this morning, ds2 woke up screaming, and I couldn't settle him, and the position he got comfy in, he passed out straight away, and it was the most weirdest position ever, like a position a newborn shouldn't be comfortable in. So I just sat there in my bed holding him so he was comfy balling my eyes out. My poor bubba is in pain, and it's causing these things, and I can't do anything, it's not fair on the little guy. But anyway got my cry out so now it's onto google to find out if there is anything we can be trying before we resort to the chiro.
Sorry, got our niece here as well as ds1 and ds2 so will come back later for more persies. Hope all you mummas and bubbas are doing great.
Hi all - just checking in. We are still in hospital, having a bit of trouble with feeding but seem to be good aside from that.
DH & I are completely smitten with Alice, it's so amazing to have her here. Late at night though I get freaked out when I can't feel the baby in my belly sometimes, haha.
This morning we are having extended skin to skin. She's been passed out on top of me for nearly 2.5 hours so far. DH and I are now working off the philosophy "if she isn't crying, don't change what you're doing!" hahaha!
Hope you're all well, I'll go back and read through this thread when I'm home most likely, so I can give it the attention it deserves!
Hi lovely mums. I'm so sorry my posts have been nonexistent for personals and this will be another one, but I've been reading and will try to do personals from now on.
Just want to say to Milly that its hard when you have to divide your attentions between your baby that has been so used to having mum and dad all to him/herself and suddenly a little intruder comes along. My two being quite a bit older are not too bad, but they are getting very frustrated with me almost constantly saying that I can't do X with them because I'm feeding Lexie, pacing the floor while she's unsettled etc. The only thing I'm finding working is promising them that once their dad is around we will do something special together, like make cakes, do craft etc. It becomes the time that my DH has cuddles with Lexie, and the girls get time back with me. All I can suggest if your LO is not happy with daddy's attention going elsewhere that maybe he makes a huge fuss of her when he first gets home, and then gradually you try and get between them with a suggestion of something special you can do with your DD, and then your hubby can take over with bub. HTH
Things have been very up and down with us - more down than up until yesterday. Lexie is still really struggling with a cold so for the last week or so has been incredibly unsettled with long screaming sessions that go for hours during the morning/middle of the day, and then start again at about 3am. She will eventually fall asleep between about 6 and 7am, and then sleep until 9.30 am or so, which would be great if I could sleep too but I have to get up and get I and E organised for school. I'm getting nothing done around the house because I can't put her down except when she's dead asleep so that's when I try to do as much as I can. Luckily yesterday she was much more settled and touch wood, seems to be today as well so I'm hoping maybe she's turned a corner. We're still having massive attachment issues so feeding is so hard (blocked nose isn't helping her the poor love), and the breast pump that I ordered got returned to the seller because the courier damaged it, so I'm still waiting and trying to hand express as much as I can to get rid of all the blocked ducts I'm getting. I've seen three LCs now and they have all given me different things to try to get A to latch better but nothing is working very well yet. The one I saw on Thursday said that she's still very young and expects that in time things will improve - I hope so because feeds are pretty unpleasant a lot of the time.
Beautiful weather here today - pretty much the first time since Lexie was born so I'm off to take my gorgeous girl and puppy dog for a walk in the sunshine. I hope you're all enjoying your weekend.
ETA: Sorry - forgot to say can all the newer mums please do me a post of their LO's birthdate and name so I can update our list - its horribly out of date now and I don't want to leave anyone out. Thanks lovelies.
Lulu where abouts are you? I have a hand pump you could borrow until u get yours if you like?
I'm in Perth BubbaT - out at The Vines. That's really kind of you lovely - thanks so much for the very kind offer. I'm hoping that I'll get mine early this week.
Got to have a bit of a woo hoo. My "big" girls are having a sleep over with my folks and I've just come home from dinner with my lovely DH and Lexie. My beautiful mystical magical girl slept the whole way through dinner without making a sound - the waitresses actually came up to us when we went to pay the bill and asked if they could look in the pram (I had a muslin over it) because they didn't believe a baby could be so good. I'm soooooo incredibly blessed.
That is one well behaved kid lulu!!
Meanwhile... So. Much. Nursing. I've been up every 2 hrs tonight. He's gulping away so I know my supply is ok. Must be the 3 week growth spurt. My poor poor boobs! Nursing and settling can take up to an hour so I'm getting 1hr blocks of sleep. Uuiuhgghhhh!!!
Related: so stinking tired.
Lulu - oh I guess you will get the replacement before I could get mine to you then. Oh well at least you know if something goes wrong there is one avail here :)
BR - I feel for you, my little man is so unsettled too. He will be really good some feeds then others will spend hours awake with wind :( def 3 week growth spurt from the sounds of it. Our babies are growing up lol
Hi everyone......
I was due 11th July, but little miss decided that the 27th June was a good time to come greet us (38weeks exactly)
7lb 2oz, "7" hour labour (although much longer, started 1.30pm day before), laboured at my mums house the whole time (had help to look after boys that way) and went to hossy when i was 6cms, was soooo proud of myself :)
Its going to be an extreamly busy 9 days for us every year.......
DS1 23rd June
DD 27th June
DS2 2nd July
Anyway - we are home and doing well and everyone is besotted by our little girl, who was namless for almost 2 days after birth, Hubby decided that we wernt going to agree and allowed me to choose her name :)
Alana, has now completed our family :)
look forward to getting to know all you June mummies and babies and Congrats to you all xox
Welcome Naomi! Well done for laboring at home, and welcome Alana! Can't wait to get to know you and hear how she is going.
Congrats and welcome to the group Naomi!!!
Welcome Naomi! Congrats on your little bundle! June is a busy month for us too. 6th June is our wedding anniversary, 12th June is DS2's birthday and 23rd June is DS1's birthday.
Looking forward to getting to know you :)
Just dropping in quickly to say hello.... I haven't read back very far... bad Dory.
Naomi - welcome and congrats on a beautiful little girl to complete your family. I have to admit I am not sure I am done yet..... but I don't have age on my side.... we'll see I guess. It's hard to think that this pregnancy and baby may be my last. Oh dear, just thinking about it makes me teary. Hope you are settling in well with 3!
BR- I hear you! Although I think little RB may have actually had a tummy bug, as I wasn't feeling that flash for a day or so at the same time that RB was unsettled. It was 24 hours of non stop feeding, changing, possets ( how do you tell if a new born is actually vomiting? RB was keeping a lot down, but a lot more than usual was coming up too), and explosive poos and loads of farts. Things have settled, but I am still reeling from the exhaustion. For some reason I can't sleep during the day... part of that is HB, but part of it is me. Crazy, but I am not as exhausted as I expected with so little sleep.
Lulu - that is super cool. Glad that 3 is manageable! Hope you got something nice to eat for dinner.
Bubba - how are you? Any better?
Milly - I meant to say congrats the other day and got sidetracked.
Here's a question for those who've got more than 1 little love of their life....... did you struggle a little saying goodbye to that very special relationship you had with number 1, when number 2 came along? I adore having 2, but I honest to goodness really do miss being able to spend time with HB, the way we used to. I just feel I parent both badly at the mo, never having enough time to really do the best I can? I suppose it doesn't help that I can't drive or lift HB at the mo, so I really am marginalised from her care. I do try and keep up some very special rituals we had, and that helps. Blah I don't know, I felt like a spectator for the first two weeks of RB's life while she was in special care, and now I feel that way with HB. Just a lot tougher than I imagined it would be. Anyway, this is my sleep time. Unless I want to be super fatigued, I'd better go to bed.
Hope everyone has a good night... with 3+ hourly feeds, quick 20 minute feeds, and easy and fast settling. We can always dream.
Hello lovelies - should have posted in here earlier, but just got home yesterday and have a VERY sick DS who is vomiting and snotty all at once. My big exit from the hospital was slightly detoured by the fact I had to walk downstairs with a nurse pushing a trolley with all my stuff in it because DS was so sick we had to leave him in the car.
I will catch-up on persies in here very soon - BF'ing is going well courtesy of hydrogel breast pads. Can't recommend them enough for those with attachment issues.
Hopefully CT will be in here very soon too!
xxx
Hi eveyone,
Congrats and welcome Naomi!
Lulu, dinner out sounds awesome,what a good little girl L is!
Bubba, how are you doing? Is your body starting to recover properly now? I have been suprised by how long it's taking for me to recover and I didn't have half your complications. No pain killers for the last two days so I must be on the mend!
Dory, don't be too tough on yourself with the change from 1 to 2. I can't offer any words of wisdom though, i'm sure what you are doing is lovely for HB. Hopefully you'll feel better when you can lift etc and then there will be new rituals that you'll create with the two of them which will be special too.
AFM - it seems to be 2 stepps forward one step back with sleeping and feeding and settling here. Yesterday was a forward step, last night, backwards. We are getting there though and I'm starting to feel less like I've been hit by a truck! Little J has a bit of a tongue tie which we are getting cut on Tues so hopefully that helps with feeding. I also have nipple vasospasm, thankfully it's not too painful during feeds but after - ouch!!!
Our newborn pics went better second time round, we get to see the gallery today i think and the sneakpeaks so far have been totally cute so can't wait to see the rest.
Anyway, hope you are all well!
Hi ladies,
Will do persies when I can get 5 mins on the pc.
Dory & Sunshine- thank you for asking after me. Well yes I am definitely feeling much better now, I finally had my first antibiotic free day yesterday :) I managed to kick the pain killers after about 2 1/2 weeks which leaves me down to just the blood thinners for another 2 1/2 weeks and then I will be back to just my vitamins. My scar has finally closed and is healing well.
I can't believe that it's almost 4 weeks since X was born.
Glad you're on the mend BubbaT. Back later for persies :)
Sunshine - poor DS!!! Hope he gets better quickly.
Hot - ahhh you poor girl.... I have been wondering what my nipple pain might be and I think you've reminded me of an option... might go and look it up. It's pretty painful from memory. Hope the tongue tie snip helps with feeding and settling. Sounds like you're doing wonderfully, it's always about going forward and then feeling like you've gone backwards. Keep strong.
Bubba - great to hear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Onwards and upwards.
Better go, I am being summoned, thankfully only by one!
Hi ladies, I've read back over the thread while DD is having a snooze and thought I'd try to sneak a post in.
So glad to read that most babies and mums are home, it must be so great to be in your own environment. We are day 6 in hospital.
It's also comforting to read that it's not just me having a struggle ATM, not that I'd wish struggles on any of you but it's nice to know I'm not alone.
Our problem is BFing, we are both struggling and becoming hysterical when it doesn't work...which is conveniently between 11pm and 5am each night. I'm averaging about 2 hours sleep a day. We are still in hospital and I'm desperate to get home but the feeding is hanging over my head. Every time I talk about it with the midwives I cry but today when DD wakes up I'm heading down to talk to one of the middies who is also a lactation consultant so I'm hoping that she can help. We're topping up on formula right now and I feel SO guilty...but then I also feel a bit like a drug pusher as I gave her extra formula this morning so she would sleep longer and I could have a long cry in the shower.
Sorry to be all about me yet again, I do love reading about you all and your new darlings. I can't believe we have them on the outside.
For the list: Alice Ann joined us in person on 27/06.
:)
Geeky i'm on my iphone so cant see where you're from, but I can highly recommend an IBCLC. They'll come to you and are the gold standard in lactation care - they have rigorous training and experience. Sadly midwives only get very limited lactation training. There is also the ABA free helpline you could call anytime for emotional or physical help.
Lots of skin to skin is important at the start too, helps with breastfeeding and bonding.
Geeky - do not feel guilty. I found feeding really hard, and X didn't latch right either which made it even worse. Just do what you can, there is no shame if you have to top up with formula. Glad to hear you are seeing the LC today, I hope they help, and as much as home is good, stay as long as you need in hossy, I found having the on hand advice invaluable - well that and I could sleep in a bed was nice too (those bars to pull yourself out of bed rock LOL)
I agree with Kelly (BellyBelly) and BubbaT. Please don't feel guilty about topping up with formula but don't give up hope with BFing. L has been a night owl and during the first few days he was awake most of the night.. My poor boobs! He's slowly adjusting to day/night but I'm still nursing 2-3 times a night. :hug:
Keep at it! The first 6 weeks are the hardest when BFing but I promise you it does get better!!
Huge hugs!
Hello everyone!
I've been reading but struggling to post, only time I get is when I'm feeding and it's been a wonder week this week so she is fussy on the breast!
Can't recall who exactly said what so I'll see how I go.
Geeky: I know how you feel. Bfing has been my biggest struggle, I've just had to stick at it, despite many teary episodes. What is the main issue you have? Is it her attachment? Sore nipples? Not enough/too much milk? Keep asking while youre in hospital. Every time you need to feed buzz for a nurse to check you. I did this and still had issues, but at least I know I got as much information and help as possible :) its a struggle, but if you talk to so many mums you will find they all go through it..we just don't get told that before lol.
BubbaT: glad to hear you are on the mend. You're a super mum :)
Lulu: how is your attachment going? Improving?
Black rose: getting more sleep?
Ebn_d, dory, sunshine: hi!:)
Naomi: welcome and nice to hear your family is complete.
AFM: finally completed my second dose of antibiotics for the mastitis. Started ultrasound therapy for the blocked ducts and it's worked wonders! Saw my ob and he recommended bepanthen for the hideously cracked nipples and it has honestly helped so much! They are actually healing now! Hopefully soon I can get rid of the shields and move past this massive post natal blip!
Miss C is having a wonder week at the moment so she is very fussy feeding and wants to be held. She's so cute though that I don't mind:) just wish I could have a cry free shower lol. The other night she wanted awake time at 2am so I had practically no sleep. DH ended up taking her and settling her in another room so I could sleep. It's like I either have a great night or a super shocking night.
Still producing HEAPS of milk so I am scared I'll end up with mastitis for a third time. I must be super producer sigh. Do any of you experienced mums remember when you go to a single breast per feed instead of two?
Well I better go and actually eat something for myself. Now she is sleep feeding!
X
Oh and hello hotaru and Milly!
Little O - I have always fed from both, irrespecitve of age. Realistically I would guess it's when they are not accepting of the second breast?
Geeky - oh sweetie. It is so tough..... being a mum and trying to establish BF'ing. I agree, keep asking for help every time you feed. You will get different advice, but some of it will work for you. For HB, once we got home I struggled ( I also had low supply which resulted in HB crying for a major part of every hour for every 20 hours in 24). I soooooooooo understand you on the everyone ending up in tears..... we certainly did for weeks and weeks on end. I just thought we had a baby that cried a lot. I just thought we had a baby that was hungry. I didn't accept the MCHN's advice to comp feed with formula. But we saw a LC and it helped a LOT with attachment issues, and then saw the Paed, who helped with supply. I opted to take medication to enhance my supply rather than herbal remedies. It worked a treat. Looking back I don't know how I got through...... but I was committed to BF'ing and I would have a mantra of "just one more feed". I can't remember when it became easier, but it did. Then much to my heartache, HB weaned at 11 months. I had dreamed of at least 18 months for our BF'ing journey. We did a little skin on skin but looking back I wish I did more with HB. I did try and eat a diet that would promote my supply.... though not the guiness a day that a pharmacist recommended.
So is it easier second time around? YES, much. Despite not being able to sleep during the day, despite having two to look after, despite little RB being like most newborns and not knowing the difference between night and day and wanting to cluster feed during the night, and despite a tongue tie and nipple vasospasm ( which I've seld diagnosed but am pretty sure that's what the shooting pains are :P). RB seems to attach well, although sometimes takes way too long for a feed for my liking. And feeds well from both sides. I have noticed I am not as stressed, which helps, because I am confident to just keep trying to make sure the attachment is correct.
I also know that I can find a way through, and I know you will too. You have to make the decisions that are right for you and your baby and family. I have a personal preference to prioritise BF'ing, but that's just me. I don't judge anyone who makes a different choice, because they make the choice that is right for them. Just keep doing your best, and you will get through. You are doing an awesome job.
It seems I have a DH who is fast getting morose... just what I need, but I need him to be the best he can, so better go give him some support. I find it easy to feel a little resentment towards him as he is getting the chance and is having WAY more sleep than me, but then I have to remember it's not a competition. It's hard for him at the moment, as he's trying to help me but also do work from home. Let's just say I am less than impressed about his ability to say no to his work and stand up for his family when we need him most, but now is not the time to have that argument, as sadly I know I'll come out of worse, and it will just make a precarious situation even worse. I just hope I can keep my commitment not to make the situation worse by keeping my tongue. I told him today I would prefer he just go to work so at least he can get the things done and then come home and focus on us.
Nothing is ever easy nor what you expect, but if it were easy I wouldn't know what I was missing. LOL. On a side note I am looking forward to taking our rainbow babies to the memorial garden to see where our angel babies are at peace. I was thinking of taking my mother in law for her to see, as no one in our families ever asks about them nor has anyone in our families ever been to the garden ( as we only arranged it after their funerals).... but then I get protective of them and don't want to share. Ironic isn't it? I want them to ask and want them to visit, but then I don't? We might try today as it's such a beautiful day...... and on a much more selfish note I also want people to understand what it means to have rainbow babies like HB and RB, as joyful and precious as they are, it doesn't mean the angel babies never existed, and that the angel babies are still important. Heartache and joy, the bittersweet emotions of a angel baby mumma.
Anyway, guess I needed to get that off my chest. Sorry to bring you down, talking about sad things in a time of joy for everyone.
For the new mums, you are doing an amazing job. Even though it feels like you are not, you are. Keep those little ones precious in your hearts and minds, even when it doesn't feel like it, they are truly precious and to be treasured, and you do adore them, even at 4am after no sleep. You do :)
Little_O - I currently am offering one side, burping when he gets sleepy and falls off the boob, then we have awake time and before he goes to sleep I offer him the other side. He nurses for 5 mins but then gets super sleepy. When he needs to nurse next I offer him the boob I finished with. That's during the day. At night, I offer him both sides because I feel like my boobs are emptier, especially in the early evening til around 3am. He usually falls asleep while nursing after 20mins nursing. Quick burp then the other side until he's asleep.
Ok. Here goes my attempt at personals
Welcome Naomi. Looking forward to getting to know you and your little girl
Geeky - hang in there with the feeding. I'm struggling too but it WILL get better for both of us. Our girls are so tiny still, but once they get to a couple of months or so it will be soooooooo much easier (and don't worry - that two months will come around really quickly, even if it doesn't feel like it when its all too hard at 3am). Please try not to beat yourself up over formula top ups. You do what you have to do. My two girls were both formula fed babies and despite what you hear, they actually haven't grown horns!
dory - I do get a bit upset about how my relationship with DDs 1 and 2 has changed. I don't have anywhere near enough time for them, and in these early weeks when A is so demanding its not going to improve. We have school holidays coming up and I'm part dreading them, part looking forward to them - having all three for two weeks is going to be hard but I'm planning lots of fun stuff for I and E to do. I'm so sorry none of your family ask about your angel babies. I don't know why people don't understand that just because you have a living, breathing baby in your arms your love and the heartache you feel for the ones that never were doesn't just disappear. I'm sorry your DH isn't doing so well. Very hard when you're dealing with a newborn and other troubles too. I hope it improves for you both soon.
Hotaru - I hope your little man's tongue snip tomorrow goes well and that his feeding improves quickly after it. Ouchy on the vasoplasm. I had that with DD2 but touch wood, nothing this time. I hope the photos are as great as the sneak peeks.
Sunshine - so sorry your little one is sick. I hope he improves quickly. Where do I get hydrogel pads????? Me thinks me needs some ;-)
BubbaT - yay for you feeling so much better. I hope it continues
Little_o - I hope the mastitis stays well away now. I offer both sides, unless its 2am and A has actually fed to sleep - in which case I count my blessings, put her down oh so very carefully on the mattress next to me and sleep while I can :lol: Otherwise, I have pretty much always offered my babies both sides and like BR, feed one side, burp and bottom change, and then offer the second side. TBH with A I'm feeding one side, feeding the other side, burping, changing, feeding side A again, then side B and then we do it all over again! If she's not getting a relatively strong let down then she just gives up so I have to constantly swap.
Hi BR. Sounds like things are going pretty well for you guys, except for the usual no sleep, no time to yourself - the usual mummy stuff :-)
So our lovely dinner out was followed by a good day yesterday but then a hell night last night and today. A is finally asleep now but its the first time in about 15 hours that she has slept for more than 20 minutes. She seems to have a tummy ache but I can't for the life of me work out what I've eaten differently that could have upset her. I've had a very bland food day today so hopefully she'll start to improve. I'm completely exhausted after having had no sleep so I'm crossing everything that she sleeps a bit better tonight. We've been cosleeping since she was born and so far it has worked really well for us, but she wasn't even feeding well last night so I didn't get the usual little doze during feeds that I normally have.
Anyway, I hope I've not left anyone out - apologies if I have missed you. Better go and do something about dinner, although I have to say that takeaway is looking pretty good! Hoping you all have a bit of sleep tonight. Be good bubbas
Hi ladies, thankyou for the warm welcomes....
just a quick question, do we have to offer both sides at feeding? I feed only one side per feed, i have a fairly decent if not a fast flow, i feed her, burp her when she falls off and if she hasnt had a "decent" feed i will offer her the same boob when she wakes (which can be 2-3min up to half hour later), i feel draining a boob feels better and doesnt cause so much pain....I am having dramas with my right breast though, the startings of mastitis have been rubbing out the lumps etc, but attaching at the beg is toe curling painful (she attaches perfectly) and the pain is generally gone within 30secs of her latching on....any ideas? my left side is fine....midwife check up on sunday said to try the football grip for the right side to help with the lumps, it has helped heaps, pain isnt as bad, but still curious as to why the pain when she actually attaching fine? i know we are only day 5 and its only been since sat (when milk came in) that my right boob has gotten like this but surely there is something im missing? ive tried taking her off and reattaching etc but it hasnt helped....
She has finally decided last night that night time is for sleeping not awake time and cluster feeding, so finally i got 3 hours of decent sleep...which made me even more tired cos its all i wanted when i needed to wake up to her LMAO
I wouldve thought after 2 kids already that number 3 wouldve come easier, but apparently im still confused and need to learn lol
Naomi: from what I've been reading if you have over supply one side feeding is good.
However in early days both sides is better so that your supply is established in both breasts.
Now from what I have experienced with the mastitis I find I have pain initially if I don't have "let down" first. I generally massage my breasts and express out some milk so when she attaches theres already something there and doesn't result in a dry suck.
For the lumps I can recommend seeing a physio and getting ultrasound therapy. Seriously helped me! Also my LC recommended lecithin tablets which is meant to help keep your ducts oily and therefore less blockages.
Feel your pain hun!
Naomi - I offer both sides, and at some feeds both sides multiple times with A feeding only 2 or 3 minutes on one breast before swapping. We've been seeing an LC since she was a week old and that's what has been recommended to us - both to help A with her feeding because her attachment is crap, and also to hopefully fight off mastitis for me. I've got heaps of lumps too, and at this point am hand expressing after a feed if A hasn't managed to "suck them out" - DH has offered but I've told him he is just so far out of luck ;-) I'm waiting on a breast pump to arrive and when it does I'll be using that to really empty my breasts after each feed.
Hi ladies, I have been MIA in here but I have been reading along :) I think someone else posted about taking 2 steps forward and then 1 back, well that seems to be the story on my end. My little man has turned into a bit of a chucky baby. Feed times are now really slow as I have to break up his feeding with burping him and then keeping him upright for at least 10-15mins after a feed to help it settle. Otherwise if I put him straight down, he 'possets' and then wakes up an hour later demanding another feed. To top that off, I developed an infection in my CS site and had to pop back up to the hossy to see my Ob yesterday who has given me antibiotics for it. The infection has also given me fevers, so feeling like crap and running on little sleep does not make for a good combo! :( Anyhoo, sorry for the me, me, me post! Will pop back later and attempt to catch up on persies! :) xx
Hello gorgeous mummies! I've been a naughty belly (baby?) buddy and have popped in and read occasionally but not posted since forever! Just wanted to let you all know I think of you all often and am sending you big hugs as we all get through the challenges of these first few weeks.
Miss G and I are off to town (big town an hour away) today which is our first big outing except for quick trips to shops and post office. My gorgeous mum is coming with me so it'll be fine but I'm still nervous....eek. Makesne feel like a real mummy!!
We are going to the child health clinic on thursday to see how she is coming along but she is happy and content (most of the time) so I feel confident about my supply and feeding now even though we still have challenges (ouchy for me!!).
Got to go feed the Miss before we head off on our adventure :) xxx
Oh and CT - cant wait till you can officially join us here. Hope everything is going well!!! Xx
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Hi Ladies,
I was going to do persies but I really dont feel like I have much I can contribute.
X is trucking along really well. He will be 4 weeks tomorrow, oh how that has flown. He is feeding well, still very windy but now he is that bit older we can use the gripe water and infacol so not really stressing too much on that. He is sleeping well when not suffering from wind and sleeping 6 1/2 to 7 hours at night the last few nights.
Only 2 weeks til I can drive again yay!! Oh and my house has never been this consistently clean and tidy. Sorry not trying to rub it in to those struggling along, like I said now that I am healthy we don't have much to report.
Hi mummies,
Dantri - good luck with your big adventure today! We got really good help at the health clinic we went to about feeding/attachment, so it's worth asking if they can watch and give you some advice we're still not at 100% but i no longer cringe at the thought of a feed!
Mc_hope - hope you are feeling better and that poor X's tummy has settled a bit.
Dory - thanks for your lovely words at the end of your post, i think we all need to hear that and often at this stage of the game! I hope you got your visit to your angel babies and it was as you hoped. :hug:
Geeky - hope the LC helped th other day and things are improving for you. It's hard, isn't it. Showers are good for crying in and i think the nights are always the hardest because it's easier to feel like you are alone. If youthink about shows like one born every minute ( or the title at least) there must be thousands of parents all doing/thinking/feeling the same things as us at the same time, that thoughtkeepsme a little more sane!
I think we may have just come through a growth spurt, at least i hope we are through it! 2 days of constant feeding, nearly impossible to settle and only sleeping on or next to us - not even in the baby carrier which he's loved up to now! The complete lack of sleep and crying was doing my head in and i felt so awful! To top it off i mixed up our appointment times for the tongue snip and completly missed it and couldn't book in again until next week. Cue major meltdown! Poor Dh had a hysterical wife and baby to comfort. Things seem much better today though, J is sleeping in my arms at the moment but did a 3 and 2 hour stretch in the basinette overnight so fx this continues fo a day or two!
Hopeyou are all doing well! Sorry for the poortyping, the ipad spacebaris temperamental to say the least!
Hiya mummies.
Was going to get on the PC last night for persies but DH didn't get home til 7:30pm so I was dealing with DS1's dinner, bath and bedtime routine as well as trying to settle a fussy DS2. Was babywearing him for hours last night in the moby wrap! It seemed to do the trick. Anyway, by the time DH got home he took DS2 so I could cook dinner. Then I chose an early night over going on the computer (as you will all understand!!!).
Anyway, back tonight for persies. I am following the thread though and thinking of you all :grouphug:
xoxox