We have definitely been in the throes of some serious teething - as he has never been this unsettled ever!
Finally got a 'normal' nights sleep last night though, without grumbly wake ups, so hopefully will get a rest for a while
Hi girls!!! Been away a while - just trying to keep things simple as possible (not adding extras) so as to keep stressfree to deal with PND - seems to be working.
Sophie has been very unsettled here too - sleeping terribly at night - but it is not teeth here...not a sign of them at all! I put it down to a developmental leap and unsettled tummy with solids (having trouble with poo). Yesterday Sophie did a massive poo and also really mastered the rolling back and front and pushing herself around on the ground to move to toys - and her night was much improved - still up for feeds around ten or eleven, then three in morning - but much better than every two hours. She still has not mastered sitting without toppling over but she is really focused on moving! Sitting no fun to her. Babies are so different. My DS sat the week he turned 5 mths and was happy with that for months!!! Whereas, Soph is just desperate to move and it is frustrating her no end at the moment but now she has the idea and getting tiny commando crawls in so it won't be long for her I don't think. Sitting however, has gone on the backburner for her!!!
We are up to one full solids meal a day and then sometimes lunch too - she has the hang of it now - but is only having about two tablespoons of food. Her interest wanes quickly!! She loves apples, not so keen on pears but will eat them. She also loves pumpkin. We have only tried apple, pear, pumpkin, potato and corn so far. Rice cereal seems to upset her tummy too Shell - badly constipated my DS so when Soph was unsettled the night after it thought it can go in the bin!!
Deedles - more babies!! You are so brave!! Soph is having three sleeps of 20-30mins a day too. I had cramping for the two months prior to AF arriving last month.
Cass - You have lots to do but so happy for you re moving back to Canberra!
So good to hear from u LJ Glad everything is going well..some days i swear i have PND but i put it down to lack of sleep/hormones..coz i only feel like it some days
LJ, I'm the same.... putting Robert's unsettledness down to a new developmental stage. He's rolling around the floor and trying to crawl (we too have not mastered the art of sitting up). There are absolutely no sign of teeth. He squeals a lot and seems generally happy at the moment. He's gone off eating "food" so I think I might try that no mush thing when he can sit a bit better in the highchair and eat with us. In the meantime I will continue to offer him his mush - we've only just introduced breakfast, previously he was only having dinner.
I put one of DHs t-shirts on Robert's mattress and it seemed to do the trick in helping him to settle. It was one that he'd worn the night before he went away (okay.... here's my confession. The night before DH goes away I make him put on a clean t-shirt after his shower and wear it until he goes to bed. Then it doesn't get washed til he comes home. When I'm feeling sad I put it on and snuggle into his pillow).
I have thrown away all idea of having a routine and doing things "the way you should". Each time I try to do something about it we both end up in tears, which is why I'm not fussed about the food thing. The childcare centre that Robert's booked into are okay with that and said that he will most likely just end up following the other bubs routines when he's with them but if he doesn't, well they'll just follow his lead. Which is what I'm going to do. Follow his lead. Ah, it's like the clouds parted and the sun has shone down again. Everything is so much simpler when I don't stress about doing the right thing!!
Deedles, when I get cranky I take to stomping around the house (although quietly past the nursery if he's sleeping!). I also throw "light" things, like dirty clothes that should have been put in the wash. Not quite as satisfying as hearing a loud bang, but it doesn't wake the baby and it doesn't brake anything!! I know where you're coming from.
Well I'm going to take the chance and have a shower..... he wakes as soon as I think of having one, it's uncanny!
Hope everyone is travelling well. Sorry I've been slack, I've been on Facebook lately instead of here. But there's loads of things that I can post here that I wouldn't dream of posting on facebook!
I have had cramping this month and last month but nothing more... wondering if AF is on its way. Was kinda hoping it would hang out for till we at least start on solids!
Sorry girls - have a big rant!! And need some advice and perspective (as I know mine is out of whack!!) - Very weird getting so personal but I am at my wits end!
DH says last night that we are going to mind his sister's two kids (10 and 12yrs) on Thursday night so she can go out for the night (single mum but DAD just up the road but an idiot). We looked after them alot but now not a good time. SIL's mum and sister are local too!!
Anyway wasn't happy but thought just try and go with it!! Not that bad.
Well last night I slept two hours - I was so anxious about looking after the extra two and them waking my 5mth old and two year old who go to sleep at 6.30pm - and are very very light sleepers. Sophie still feeding every three to four hours overnight. Whilst getting anxious about it, I knew it was illogical but couldn't help it. Then I thought - if I tell DH then he will get cranky and yell at me. But if I don't then I will absolutely lose it by the weekend and I am seriously worried about our marriage - I am very very very close to walking!
So this morning - DH asks why I didn't sleep. I explain 5mth and worried about kids coming to stay. Said very anxious about it. His answer is that he will look after kids and I don't have to do anything. Sure! Anyway - I said we don't need extra pressures. Then he went off handle - saying I am ridiculus (which I said I know but it only adds to the anxiety). Then he said he would ring his sister and say that I said no. Then he said that my mum can't come and stay next weekend for a night as it disrupts his schedule and she is more noisy. I said I don't have to look after her.
Am I unreasonable?? I knew it was going to end in a fight either way!!
DH said he doesn't know what is wrong with him and that is harder for him living with me. He thanked me for ruining another day for him...he does this daily!! Then stormed off to work.
I told him on the weekend that I am extremely close to snapping and he lets his sister dump her kids with us so as she can get on the **** for the night (not anything special!)
What should I do? I feel so trapped! I was thinking of contacting his mother and seeing if she could intervene - I have a poor relationship with her and DH lies to her but pretends they have a good relationship - what do you think?
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