Sorry girls - have a big rant!! And need some advice and perspective (as I know mine is out of whack!!) - Very weird getting so personal but I am at my wits end!

DH says last night that we are going to mind his sister's two kids (10 and 12yrs) on Thursday night so she can go out for the night (single mum but DAD just up the road but an idiot). We looked after them alot but now not a good time. SIL's mum and sister are local too!!

Anyway wasn't happy but thought just try and go with it!! Not that bad.

Well last night I slept two hours - I was so anxious about looking after the extra two and them waking my 5mth old and two year old who go to sleep at 6.30pm - and are very very light sleepers. Sophie still feeding every three to four hours overnight. Whilst getting anxious about it, I knew it was illogical but couldn't help it. Then I thought - if I tell DH then he will get cranky and yell at me. But if I don't then I will absolutely lose it by the weekend and I am seriously worried about our marriage - I am very very very close to walking!


So this morning - DH asks why I didn't sleep. I explain 5mth and worried about kids coming to stay. Said very anxious about it. His answer is that he will look after kids and I don't have to do anything. Sure! Anyway - I said we don't need extra pressures. Then he went off handle - saying I am ridiculus (which I said I know but it only adds to the anxiety). Then he said he would ring his sister and say that I said no. Then he said that my mum can't come and stay next weekend for a night as it disrupts his schedule and she is more noisy. I said I don't have to look after her.

Am I unreasonable?? I knew it was going to end in a fight either way!!

DH said he doesn't know what is wrong with him and that is harder for him living with me. He thanked me for ruining another day for him...he does this daily!! Then stormed off to work.

I told him on the weekend that I am extremely close to snapping and he lets his sister dump her kids with us so as she can get on the **** for the night (not anything special!)

What should I do? I feel so trapped! I was thinking of contacting his mother and seeing if she could intervene - I have a poor relationship with her and DH lies to her but pretends they have a good relationship - what do you think?