Hiya Cass! I never come through the baby buddy thread, same as the belly buddy thread actually, im pretty general (boring!)
Congrats on your 4th wedding anniversary, the flowers looked beautiful

Our DD is a right little brat too, although I could use another B word that sums up her whole ****ty attitude sometimes! She too *whinges or *tantrums for particular things (usually food or drink!). At the moment she *refuses to drink anything without colour, where on earth did that BS come from! Making her drink plain water is now a mission! Ive had to let myself relax a little and just use very weak sugar free cordial for my diabetic nana as her daily 'juice'. Oh, did I mention she can only drink out of her baby bottle now too, probably because she wants to be a baby again like her new little DS (whom she is most jealous of and dangerous at times to have around!) She goes through food phases, where it can only be acceptable to eat of a particular plate, and sometimes she screams for more, only too play with it. She hasn't been a biter (yet, im sure it'll come soon!)
At this age, their frontal lobes are still developing, there's so much going on around them, they're capable of some things but then restricted still by those developing abilities....I try to remind myself about all this stuff just so I can re-centre myself before her behaviour affects me, and then a horrible afternoon/night eventuates.
Its hard, I just wanted to pat you on the back and say that at no point have you let your beautiful DS or you down. Just keep talking and explaining in language he will be able to intepret, and using non-verbal actions to to explain. I always find distraction and removing DD from the area she is in to somewhere helps (not always) to at least stop the behaviour and give her opportunity to start over before getting worked up. Remember, he will be more capable soon of controlling his impulses, but for now, its a ****ty time for us parents dealing with it at the forefront day in, day out........

ATM we're really trying to suss TT with her, she runs around the house and outside with her knickies on, but never seems to let me know until after (and even sometimes then she'd rather keep playing in her own wee than tell me!). DP and I are very confused about how to do it, what to expect etc. Its the hardest thing we've had to try and 'teach' to her. Any advice?

Wow, I must sound like a real wench :/