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Hehe yeah, she realised I wasn't there and cried out, so we had mat time, and then she was fussing so I put her in the swing and shes drifted off. Funny thing. She seems to be sleeping but in broken amounts rather than, solid 1.5 - 2 hour blocks like before.
Hopefully that will go back to normal soon!
Levi does that, chats and squeals away until he falls asleep. He does a half effort cry if he wants picking up and a full cry if he's hungry or has a wet nappy.
Merry Christmas - bit belated haha. Hope we all had a lovely day :) When I get a second ill put up a pic of violet in her Christmas dress! Danni- gorgeous photo!!! That really is a lovely smile :)
Violet gave DH her first real smile yesterday and again today- she hasn't smiled at me yet - i reckon it's cos I'm boring mummy who feeds and changes her and daddy does all the fun stuff with her hahha
Had major MIL issues today, its been sooo yuck. I was trying to burp violet, and she was like, do you mind if I take her to do that? I was like um no sorry I'd be more comfortable myself thank you.. And when I went to change her nappy she was like I'll do that, and I was like no that's cool I'll do it, she was like, oh but I want to, and I was like sorry I'd rather do it thanks!! And she keeps taking her from me and holding her and saying things like "oh you love your nana don't you" and poor violet was hungry and I said I'd better take her back to feed her and she goes no no she's just got gas, and I was like nooo she's hungry, and I took her and she was starving! And she purposely barged in on me breastfeeding even though I'd excused myself for privacy... Ugh.
Hugs Amanda. Sounds like she's a pain in the ass.
Im very lucky by the sounds of it. MiL is pretty good.
There's some irritating stuff there Amanda, and some stuff you're probably going to have to just let go - pick your battles. The wanting to cuddle her and saying you love your nana - normal. My MIL and FIL do it, most family members do it. The barging in, second guessing and being overbearing - I think you need to sit down over a coffee with her and calmly but assertively discuss it with her. Let her know that you are the mum, you understand she wants to be involved etc but that she needs to step back and let you figure things out for yourself. Let her know if you want advice or help you'll ask for it, but right now it's your first time being a mum and while she may know some good tips etc, she's not always going to be around so you need to learn to do for yourself first. Kind of that whole "yes I know you're trying to help and I appreciate it, but I want to do it myself first" thing. Make sure you do offer plenty of opportunities for your MIL to be involved and to spend time with Violet (even if you don't really want to) and chances are she'll start to settle down a bit - sounds like she's still finding her feet in this MIL/Nana business too.
I guess because I see it from the other side with my mum - my step-brother's wife does things quite differently to mum and a lot of it mum doesn't agree with, my mum is trying so hard not to be *that* kind of MIL, biting her tongue even when she sees SIL doing things that's going to make things harder for herself in the long run (stuff like giving in to tantrums etc) and not interfering unless asked. I think they've finally sort of come to the agreement that when Nanny has the kids Nanny gets to do it her way and the kids have adjusted to it fine - they know that Nanny has different rules/boundaries to mummy and daddy.
Evening Ladies!
Hope everyone had a safe and fun holiday!
Amanda - I agree with Cranks, pick yr battles! My mum is here atm and has a couple of times has said *I would do it this way* or *back when you kids were babies we did it this way* blah blah, I just told her outright, these are my kids mum and I am more than capable of taking care of them! MY WAY!! ... but that's my mum lol
I don't have a MIL or a FIL as they both died 2 years ago within a cpl of months of each other... so can't really relate to the MIL complaints! sorry!
Agh, Zoe has her immunisations tomorrow :( always a stressful time! and it NEVER gets easier as they get older :(
Hope all you lovely ladies and yr gorgeous babes are going well!
Danni - gorgeous pic!!
Heres a couple of pics of the kids...hope you enjoy xx
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Dan and Nikky your bubs are so cute! Lilly is still really unsettled, dont know why maybe it is just her, she always wants my breast it seems for comfort, and refuses dummy. She Wont settle for me becuase she wants to suck to sleep and I'm trying to stop it because it is affecting her feeding, as everytime she gets on she thinks it's sleepy time and goes to sleep.
Not sure what else I can do? Using swing to get her to sleep and husband when he is here but when he is not she really resists settling, to the point wher I'll get her to sleep she will be asleep and then realise its the dummy not me and wake up screaming.
She isn't hungry becuase we are comping.
She seems to really love the feel of sucking on skin as she will suck on my hands readily, and she is trying to suck on hers and figure out sucking on her thumb. I just tried then to give breast thinking she was hungry but she wasnt and I popped her off becuase she started to go to sleep, and she just sat there grinning at me like she beat me :(, I'm thinking of not offering the breast even at feeds and just pumping to try and loose the association with sleep becuase she isn't doing much else but sleeping when she is on there.
/pulls hair out :(
Nikky your quite the photographer - your pics are really awesome :D
Amanda I can see where your coming from with your MIL. Was she a nasty piece prior to having Violet?? Only ask because my MIL tended to try to take over especially with DS1 when she was around and thought all the times she was nasty was now extinct because I had now had her grand child. It's a huge adjustment period (once again). Try to take it with a grain of salt, really not worth the stress considering I'm sure you won't have to deal with it that often.
Funnily enough when Abby was about 10 days I had a friend tell me Abby had wind instead of being hungry, I thought silently "I know what my baby needs" and strangely Abby never settles at there places, she's really placid except there...weird!
Lolpigs DS2 was like how you explain Lily except he wouldn't take a dummy full stop. She will get better at sucking and remember any sucking is stimulation to produce more milk. From memory I saw improvement around the 4 month mark and this newborn/ baby gig doesn't last forever.
aww thanks Danni!
I LOVED taking pics of Harriett, tis when I started getting into photography really ... and I LOVE close ups! and the girls both have big eyes so that helps my close up addiction! hehehe
Just got back from Zoe's immunisations :( ahhh always rough on the mumma!
She has done nothing but smile and laugh today! well, up unto the injections! but she only squealed for about 30 seconds and then was fine and fell asleep! But now she is back to laughing and trying out new sounds and smiling! all the while rocking in her swing :)
Heheheh, my clever little munchkin has worked out how to grab hold of his toys :) Can't do it reliably yet, but he's done it a few times and thrown his toy across his body to his other side etc. He thinks it's a great game as he had the hugest grin and was chuckling away - soooo cute :heartbeat:
Levi has discovered he has hands when he waives them in front if his face lol.
We have also been having lovely chats including smiles, gurgling and tongue poking.
I've been having trouble with him on my right boob, he gets halfway through then starts to freak out. Worked out I have slow flow on that side. So plan is to feed him in that side and finish him off on the left. Until it I see the dr next week.
Slow flow is a pain Amumma hope you can get it fixed up soon.
Hooray CK that is so cute!
Lilly had one big sleep today and then had a poop issues most of today which meant only cat naps after that. Hubby ss trying to settle her now as she do sent like to settle for me holding out for boob. Least that is what I think. We are also having an issue where she is determined to suck on her hand and thumb but hasn't quite learnt how to do it so depends lots of time doing that in bed then gets angry and frustrated when she can't self settle and gets upset at the dummy and won't take it.
I never thought I would be happy for her to hurry up and learn to suck her thumb!! I think our sleep issues will hopefully resolve.
Edit: Ok so now she is flat out refusing to sleep in her bassinette. She will settle and relax on our bed, but no where else. I've tried as a last resort putting her in her cot, and putting the shirt I was wearing in with her to try and keep her settled. She either has decided her bassinette is not for her, or is suffering seperation anxiety, but I didn't think they start that this early?
Im not sure what age they start SA. Hope you can sort it out. Can you put something on the dummy to encourage her to take it.
Lolpigs I reckon they do cos all they understand is that they want to be close to mummy. Mummy is the one that feeds and provides most of the caring and soothing in the early days.
I've been naughty for the last few nights. When Abby has her early morning feed around 3ish I've been popping her back in bed with me.. I don't have to settle her at all she just snuggles in and falls asleep with me.
I've also been finding she hasn't been staying asleep in her bassinet during the day, night is ok though.
Same thing here. It is frustrating when they won't settle but it's unfortunately part of newborn territory. They usually sort themselves out at 3-4 months old. Jessica needs help to fall asleep then wakes 15 mins later. I resettle her then the same thing happens again. It's not always like that tonight she slept for am hour. Now I've been dealing with her since 7:30pm and it's 12:30am. It's hard to not see it being like this forever as it's so full on but I've heard so many stories including my GP who had it so bad she said she cried for 4 mths. Every baby is different, some more challenging than others and I have a theory that girls are more difficult babies!! It's all I've been hearing about!
Don't give up on the bassinet it prob doesn't have anything to do with it, it's just her not wanting to sleep!
Loved the pics Nikky and Danni. Too cute!!
Thanks for the advice guys, she sees to be settling better in her cot tonight with my shirt from today in it so whatever works right? :lol:
She slept in there from 9:45pm - 1am then again till 4:45am she seems to like the room? She is also refusing to be wrapped now because she is obsessed with her hands :lol: If I wrap her she just fights the wrap so better not to. She seems so very independant sometimes to the point of stubbornness.. great!
Haha Jan my mum says I was an angelcake when I was born so some girls are easy going! :lol:
I am just worried she isnt getting enough sleep and is getting over tured because her days are still very hit and miss. The swing seems the best way to get her to sleep during the day.
Amumma, not sure what I would use?
Dan I would love too as she falls asleep really fast in our bed but am frightened of rolling on her or something happening to her. Also, that can be a hard habit to break cant it?
Also wew for getting 120ml each time I pump every 3-4 hours :) We are transitioning to the goat formula as well to fingers crossed that helps her with her belly symptoms as they bother her too. The NAN HA is causing constipation and wind at the very least and she has been refusing it on taste too.
Soilder on eh? ;)
Zoe has been sleeping in bed with me since she was born :)
We did it with Harriett and it just works for us. We all get great sleep and Zoe settles really easily!
Speaking of Zoe, she just slept from 10m thru to 6.30!! w00t
Flip, the next few days are going to be hotter than hades! isn't this going to be fun!
Been stupid-hot here too, Alex is sleeping in just a nappy, no sheets or blankets or anything until early morning where I might pop a light sheet over him if it's gotten cool enough.
We only co-sleep after his 6am feed on weekends, which is snuggle time till daddy wakes up - but he does sleep right next to my side of the bed in his cradle normally. I'm thinking about getting the cot set up in his room for daytime sleeps as it's a bit cooler down that end of the house during the day.
What sort of bassinet is it? Is it possible she's getting a bit big for it and prefers the extra space of the cot?