Sorry didn't see your question. Jess feeds every 3 -3.5 hours. I don't think you are over feeding her. Once they turn 4 months most babies can go 4 hourly, depends on the baby.

Thanks Amanda. DH does help though I feel so bad for him as he has to go to work the next day. I just seem to be getting more and more tired as each day goes, probably because I can't see an end to it. I used to deal with the night wakings much better than I do now. The nurse said maybe 6 months she might grow out of it or maybe 1, they can't say for sure. Though she did seem to think every week she should improve abit.

Settling techniques - allow 1.5hours from time baby wakes up, then put in cot awake with or without dummy. Walk out of the room after calming baby ready for sleep in cot, if cry then go in again and resettle with patting and shushing. Do this 3 times. On the fourth time then hold your baby and pat to go to sleep if she is distressed. Otherwise pat off to sleep in cot. She said it was good to encourage self settling even if they won't do it yet but give it a chance as it gets them slowly used to the idea. It did work once yesterday, though patted her in the cot until she went to sleep. Tried leaving her and it didn't work which I expected. As DS got older I remember it worked really well, though he was 4.5+months and had an easier temperament.

It is tiring, I remember with DS I felt the crappiest at 4 months from all the sleep deprivation and we aren't there yet.