This thread is for parents who's baby was born September 16th-30th 2010 #1
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Have an awesome time in Bali!! How exciting. That's always the downer when you have kids and have to do the tag team thing, u miss out on alot of stuff with it partner.
Well I started packing/clearing out last night. Obviously don't have a place to go to yet but my god it takes FOREVER with 2 kiddies!!
So can't wait to clear out all my crap lol
Dory – so glad you were able to get a sleepy wrap on sale! I was going to order a second one, but somehow I forgot about it. From memory mine took about 10 days to arrive, so hopefully you’ll have it soon and let us know what you think. Was it you who said Hannah fills a few nappies at a time and that you could just leave one on her but it’d be messy? If you know she’s going to poo so much you could hold her over a potty or bucket to catch it, instead of going through so many nappies. Not like toilet training or anything .. I think there’s a description of how to hold them while they poo in the elimination communication threads. I want to try it when Isaac is a bit older and doing regular poos, seems to save a lot of mess, and keeps their little bums nice and clean. Isaac goes for ages with nothing - the whole 5 days in Perth he did no poos at all, but then exploded the day after we got home. So glad he didn’t do that one on the 4 hour bus trip from Adelaide!
Wow I didn’t know that about babies only being awake for an hour. Isaac seems to be awake much longer than that during the day usually. He’s been awake for 3 hours now, not including a 10 minute sleep after a feed.
Fuzzy – thanks for the baby sounds, that sounds so interesting! I’ll have a look at the video later.
Belfie – awesome sleep! Well done Annika And don’t worry I’m not jealous. Much.
There was more I wanted to reply to, but oh my gosh I think Isaac is finally asleep. Woohoo. Time to go have lunch and then study.
Pantha - we can all tell you the most important thing is to have Lotte here safe and sound and healthy, and that being a mum, starting with pregnancy & childbirth is about accepting things you can't change and that you're a great mum. Those statements are true, but there can also be a grief and loss component about birthing and parenting. So my advice is if you are having those feelings, don't ignore them. You've mad a good start, being honest about your feelings and going to the forum to get support from others in the same boat, but make sure you follow up - I would recommend seeing someone if you can - get those feelings out and resolved. Its much better than denying them and having them fester and come back unexpectedly later, and somehow later it's much much worse.
I suffered a lot in the early weeks after Hannah was born with similar feelings. Luckily I could work on them and work through them, no sure how with all my energies devoted to learning how to be a mum.... still not resolved so off to the counsellor for me next week. On top of those feelings of failure for having a caesear - are getting sick with pre -eclampsia and hellp, then not being able to breast feed without drugs, not having enough supply so I could not fully nurse Hannah without assistance, not spotting that she was hungry earlier and letting her suffer, and then the whole host of feelings I have about failing my other babies. And sometimes if I really low, as blessed as I am to have Hannah, sometimes, she just reminds me of all the missed opportunities with Amelia, Nicholas and Sophie. I expect that will be a life long experience for me, so it's something I need to get a handle on, but it can be pretty tough. Oh and then there's the guilt about feeling like that.... so see it never ends. And it's not a competition about feelings. Your feelings about your caesear are entirely valid. We all have our demons and they all need attention, but also like Buzzie said, try not to fall into the trap of the "the grass being greener" if you'd had a vaginal birth, as you don't know what would have happened if things had gone down that path. But your feelings are important. Honestly if we let it, mother guilt never ends and would do our heads in. So, I want to repeat, I am so proud of you for admitting your feelings, and then telling us. It takes a LOT of COURAGE. Keep living a life of courage and you will get through. Big hugs.
Deana - oh my, I know how scary it is when there is little or no weight gain and I can only imagine how much more scary it is with Blake's vomitting. All I can say is that you have done the right thing in taking Blake to the Dr. All you can do is seek help when you think something is up and to keep seeking help if you still think something is up. I know it's not funny but I do not have any idea of how you are going to capture Blake's wee. I have a mental image of you trying to get him to pee in a cup, and following him around with a cup poised and getting it all over you. When you do get some and you've come through, you'll have to share with us how you managed it. I hope it's as simple as increasing the meds. Don't be afraid of asking the Dr about Losec. I have some friends whose baby had severe reflux and it seems to have helped their baby no end, and saved their sanity a bit too. They were initially on it for 6 weeks and then a review. I am not sure where they are at now with it, as the review will be this week sometime.
Buzzie - good luck with house hunting and vaccinations on Tuesday.
Bec - I so know what you mean about trying too much travelling in one day. Glad it got better and the trip back was more manageable.
Fuzzy - Hannah sounds so much like Chloe. Hannah rarely settles without a fair bit of assistance except when I least expect her to. LOL. It's draining sometimes. I try not to compare her to other babies ( I was doing that when she was crying in 20 hours of 24, and it honestly didn't help me and sent around the twist) - Hannah is her own individual and what she's doing now is within the range of normal. She hardly sleeps during the day, so it does mean slightly longer sleeps during the night than Chloe. But she was up at 2,4,6 today and has only had 2 cat naps of 20- 30 mins so far since. She is just down now, so maybe, just maybe I can eek an hour + from her. So my sweet, don't despair, your darling blossom s just doing it her way.
Not much to report here. Unlike poor Blake, Hannah is putting on weight and growing longer - 60cm now. And probably 6kgs by now as she was 5.96 when she was weighed on Friday. DH and I have our moments. For some reason if she cries and I am near her, he tends to say "oh do you have wind, what did mummy eat?", or "are you cold, did mummy have the bath water too cold?", or "did mummy bump your head?" God it takes every fibre within my very being not to yell at him then and there. I made a committment not to fight around Hannah, especially when I was holding her., so I hold my tongue. I have already asked him not to say things like that as it undermines my confidence and makes me angry. He said he understood but there was another instance today... grrr... men are so obtuse. I am so tempted to do the same to him, but that's just hurtful. Oh well off to have another chat to DH about it. He's apologised but I am not prepared to let it rest as honestly, it does hurt quite a lot when he says it. Life would be so dull without him. Imagine all the moments of character building that I would miss out on....
OMG I feel terrible!! I gave Isaac some Infacol wind drops earlier for the first time, and accidently gave him too much. I read the pack wrong, and thought it said 2mls, so I gave him 1ml then checked the pack again before giving the extra mil, and realised it said 0.2mls.. I gave him 5 times too much. I rang the poisons info line and they said he will be fine. He is very sleepy now, but he didn't really burp or anything though, so I'm just going to keep an eye on him tonight but I feel like the worst mother in the world. I just had a big cry when I got off the phone. I'm just glad I didn't make that mistake with Panadol or something that could be harmful.
Bec - dont worry I am sure soooooo many people do the same thing. If the poisons place said it is fine, then I am sure it is fine. I cant imagine that Infacol would be recommended at all if we were not able to make mistakes like that. I almost made it to. Gee we all do something wrong at some point dont we? I guess it makes us better parents in the long run. I still feel bad about cutting Chloe's finger with the nail clippers. A friend of mine did the same thing and put a little bandaid on her sons finger then he swallowed the bandaid!
Dory - grrr at your DH. Although its not as bad as 'if you are this upset about little things like this then I dont think you would handle having another one' - a friend of mine got this one from her DH last week and I reckon it takes the cake for s(*&(&t things to say! Mine just says things like 'OMG I am sooooo tired' hmph. Thanks for making me feel better about Chloe. She was a little trooper today. Slept 1 hour in the morning, then 2 hours at lunch then another 1.5 hours this arvo! See how we go tonight.
Has anyone else started losing hair or have dandruff? I have never had dandruff before but I have it - as of today - and a bit of hair loss. Hoping this is pregnancy hormones leaving the building maybe??
Fuzzy - glad you had a better time with Chloe... Hannah is being a sleep refuser today but I need a nap so I have persisted. I think I had a nanna nap in the chair.. I have put her down and hopefully she'll sleep for a little while. I also nicked Hannah's finger with the nail clippers. It is the worst feeling. And to see the blood is awful. You asked in the other thread about rolling? No complete rolls here. Some attempts that really just make Hannah look spas. No dandruff here but I am starting to have some hair fall. I reckon it is the preg hormones! that is a yukky thing to say ... sometimes people, not just blokes, don't think before they speak. DH and I had a good chat about it, and hopefully he will try to engage the brain before he opens his mouth in future. I suppose the other thing is that, when he says it I am usually tired or have been dealing with a fractious baby, so not the best timing either. Those things would still upset me any other time, but it's even more so at times of stress.
Bec - you did the right thing by calling poisons info line. I reckon the labels are printed in such tiny writing that they make it much harder than it has to be. We all make and will make mistakes. Go and lick your wounds, watch your boy and go easy on yourself.
I had a vaccination today for hep b, first of 3! It hurt. No wonder Hannah cried so much! Dr didn't give me a lolly pop though I am sure THAT would have made it hurt less. We are having Hannah baptised on Sunday. We are not really religious, but we both come from families who are. I am looking forward to the party afterwards.
Anyway, nap time! Hello to everyone else - Connie, Catherine, Apes, Kirsten, Chuckie, Buzzie, Pantha ( hope you're feeling better), Deana ( how is Blake today - has the increase in the meds helped?), Apes... I think that's everyone?
Fuzzy- Yes, Dandruff here..I had it towards the end of my pregnancy & it just hasn't gone away..SO annoying! I had to tell my sister in law when she was cutting myhair that it was pregnancy related and I don't ever get it any other time!!! I also find my hair goes oily very quickly aswell.
Dory- My DP is the same, he will always make them comments..because Harlow crying is ALWAYS something Mummy is doing-even if I have been out of the room and he has been watching her..At first it hurt me but now I bite back "Yes David, when you went to the toilet before I snuck in and bonked her on the head just so she could cry and have you make me feel like *****" then I smile & continue doing my thing..Just keep thinking "Grain of Salt"..I sometimes find it is DPs way of "coping"..He is getting slightly frustrated and that is his way of dealing with it..by finding reasons for ther crying-that don't involve him *sigh*
Bec- Ohh you poor thing freaking out aboput the infacol-You did the right thing by ringing Poisons info line..and it is SO SO easy to mistake dosages when they are like that isn't it..!!! I hope he is alright now and you are too
Gastro this morning - just me - horribly dizzy then the works . Thank god my mum Is here!! Luckily I seem to improving already. OMG I have renewed sympathy for DH's vertigo just having it briefly was AWFUL!
fuzzy - that's ok I don't mind the questions, I'm just so glad I can rant about it here! David is missing out on sooo much, it's a real shame I couldn't contact him, or didn't want to be contacted. A friend of mine went to see him for me to ask for his email/phone number but he wouldn't give it. I think he is just a young immature guy who is possibly terrified of the possibility of having a baby. I hope he decides to contact me after he sees the photos. Child support are trying to contact him but because I can't give enough information, and because his name is very common they are coming to a dead end so I will get an exemption which means I'll be able to get family tax benefit a & b. Because he didn't sign the birth certificate he is not on that either even though I put his name on the form. Not a good look for both Isaac and I.
How exciting for Chloes solids, keep us updated on how she goes. I am not starting yet but would like to hear how you're going anyway. Our final mothers group yesterday was on solids, lots of interesting info. Does everyone know about honey? Apparently its a big no no for babies under 12 months, there is a rare illness called botulism they can get from it, and only babies under 12 months can get it. It's very serious, and they can die very quickly.. it is very rare but they recommend avoiding it completely. I didn't know about that myself, so I just thought I'd share in case anyone else hadn't heard either.
Belfie - oh no I hope you're feeling better soon. Thanks for the tips on resettling the other day, I persisted after Isaac woke up after a short sleep, and he slept for another 2 an a half hours. The sshhh-ing with rocking/patting seems to work really well.
Isaac has been a shocking sleeper this week. It's a stormy week according to the wonder week chart, it must be right. Last night he woke at 11is, 12, 1:30, 3:30, 5, 8 then 9. Then only short sleeps today. OMG. I am wrecked. I hope he goes back to his normal sleeping pattern soon, and that this is just because of the 'stormy week'. Apart from that he is doing well, his weight has slowed down, he has put on 670g in three weeks and now weighs 7.46kg (up near 90th percentile!) and he grew 3cm in that time so he is now 63.5cm.
A funny thing I noticed is that Isaac's legs are darker than his body! His skin is darkening all over now, he's a lovely light brown colour but his legs are noticeably darker. Mum thinks it might be because his legs stick out of the pram, but I usually make sure he's fully shaded and he's not in it for long anyway. It was one thing that really stood out for me at swimming, how white all the other babies look next to him, and it's really obvious now that he's mixed race. Don't get me wrong, I love how he looks, it's just something that I'm noticing more now that's all.
Last edited by bec293; February 4th, 2011 at 07:31 PM.
shortest gastro ever. THANK GOD! Was foul this morning but had stoipped vomiting by midday... am able to eat now. And the biggest fingers crossed that no-one else here gets it. I actually had some vertigo with it and OMG it was so foul. I really don't know how DH is coping with feeling like that all the time. Geez we're such a pair huh.
Hey Bec, you should tell your friend to try to sneek a photo of David,(even on a mobile phone so its more descret, Issac will prob be more so curious of that than anything else.
I do know what it feels like. Though with DS, Rob wasnt in another country and i knew exactly where he was and knowing he was so close and still wouldnt have anything to do with me/Ash hurt like hell. I sent him pics through the whole pregnancy of my belly and ultrasounds etc, and he only once ever sent one sms saying wow your getting big towards the end and that was it! I even sms'ed him it was a boy and still didnt hear anything, though continuosly sending things to him made me feel as close as i could to feeling he was in some way apart of it. I also chose a photo of Ash, was his first smile at 6 weeks and sent it to him in a card at valentines day - to try to hide it so he wouldnt expect it was me in the mail, plus his parents didnt know about Ash. Its very painful.... Big hugs coming your way. I too cried MANY tears not only for me but Ash.
Babies born ~ September 16-30th 2010 #2
my poor bubbie 
And don’t worry I’m not jealous. Much.
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