dory - thanks you always say the right things. I am glad I didn't decide to stay away, not that I could for long anyway. Re Ergo back wearing, why do you think you had it on wrong? I usually need to adjust the chest strap when I'm changing from front to back but that's about it. I have a photo if you want to see how I wear it, I can post a link if you like.
Pretz - thanks, teething went ok I think. Just a bit of crying, Panadol and bonjela stuff just once and I think he was ok. It was hard to tell though, because his first tooth came through on the first day of our trip I don't know if it was because of that or the travelling. Thanks for the kind words, I'm looking forward to getting to know you in here too
Vixstar - I think once you know the signs, and yes there are poo signs lol, you just know when they are going to go. I think every mum knows these signs, they are different for every baby and I think we learn them gradually just like we know what they are crying for or when they might be getting hungry or tired etc. Reading the poo signs (haha) is called elimination communication, fancy western word for something that is so basic it doesn't even have a name in Africa or China or wherever else they do it. You sound like a great mama, your children are very lucky
Connie - thanks, but I am not amazing, and I am not as patient as I might seem!! We do have complete opposite parenting styles, you're right, and I like reading your posts as it gives me another perspective.. as someone above said, the world would be very boring if we were all the same!
fuzzy - I hope you are still here, I love reading your posts. You don't have to do personals all the time, I don't have time to usually that's why my posts are mainly about me.
Not much happening here today, oh except I told my mum not to come around so much. I felt so bad for doing it but I had to. She helps, but always makes me feel as though I am making her do it. When I tell her she doesn't have to help she says she wants to then complains that she has sooo much to do at home and has had such a busy day and makes me feel guilty for her own choice to come over. It's driving me crazy. I am not the best person when she is here, I've noticed I become negative and I don't want Isaac to see me like that every day. I know I can't blame my own emotions and behaviour on someone else, but I do have much better days on the days she doesn't visit. So she is coming around for dinner on Thursday, and not popping in after work tomorrow as she normally does.
Bec - LOL, re being unhappy with who you are when your mum is around. Not because it's funny but because sometimes I think I am like that when DH is around... and I can't wait for him to go to work, and it's just HB and me.
We were all talking a while ago how when people say they are going to babysit and then don't how annoying it is. I don't have that experience yet, but a similar one. DH normally gets home from work about 7pm, but it can any time from 5.30pm to 8pm depending. When I had a cold, he told me he'd be home early. I point blank told him I didn't believe him and it would be better if he didn't make promises he couldn't keep... his work is so unpredictable and he's one of those who says "Ill just finish this before I go home.....". I explained that if I know I have to do it by myself, then that's fine and I will do it calmly ( when I was sick he wasn't getting home til midnight, which explains the "early' comment). It's funny though, if I assume he's coming home early, and then doesn't, it just makes me an unpleasant, even resentful person. But if he's not home til midnight, and I know he's going to be late, it's all good.
But well done, it's hard telling parents to back off.... I don't think she means to make you feel that way, she probably just doesn't even realise. But then some people just play the passive aggressive game too.
This is a me post! Ha. I am feeling much less glum today and there have been no episodes of crying ( by me or Hannah). Still tired as all get out, but at least there is no crying. It is such a relief. Anyway, I should go and nap.
Dory - I know exactly what you mean - I get so annoyed when mum says she will be here at a certain time, then is late. Some days, if I'm having a crappy day, I watch the clock until that time, and every minute she is late makes me even more annoyed. I think it's because if I am expecting her, I feel like I am waiting and will wait to do things when she gets here. That doesn't make sense really, but anyway the days she doesn't tell me a time, or doesn't come, I feel I am happier and more relaxed. I hope you're feeling a bit better.
Isaac is slowly settling back in after being away. It took a few days for him to adjust to the time difference, it's only 2.5 hours but he was waking up later than usual, so we are back to getting up at around 8-8.30 again now. I have changed my diet, going high protein to see if that helps Isaac sleep through the night. Not that his night feeds bother me, they are very quick and easy (as you know we co-sleep), and the middle of the night snuggles in the dark are lovely.. maybe it's just that he needs comforting when he wakes in the night, I don't know. If it is I'm ok with that. But anyway I'm wondering if it is diet related so I have cut out all caffeine, drinking more water, eating more fruit and high amounts of protein just to see if it makes any difference. On day three now, and have noticed an increase in milk supply - not sure if that's because of the increased protein or calories though, I don't think the amount of milk is suppose to actually increase.. maybe it's just coincidence. Poor Isaac got his face squirted with milk twice today haha. I'm feeling better with the changes already which is a bonus, already feel less tired and I have had more energy today and yesterday.
Bec - i know what you mean re mum's too, except in my case it's more MIL, as my mum is interstate. Good on you for sticking to what you need & what works for you .
Dory - aaah yes, waiting on your DH is so frustrating, i know exactly what you mean. My DH works from home a lot, but what i get is "oh i'll just be 2 mins" then he emerges 20 mins later. I guess I could go into his office & get him (easier when he's here!!!), but I know if he's still busy there's no point.
Pretz - how did everythign go with the GP? Glad to hear Noah isn't as clingy anymore.
aaah gotta run. Hope everyone else is well. Annika starts family daycare tomorrow with Xander. Wish us luck!!!
Just a quicky from me... I have been reading on my phone (but can't post) and just haven't had enough time to come and post properly the past few days...will come back online this week and catch up on persies...
Belfie - Thanks for asking about my GP appt... I saw my GP on Wednesday and she suspected an ovarian cyst after I nearly jumped from the bed when she had a feel of my left ovary. Went for the ultrasound on Friday and GREAT (NOT)!!!!! The ultrasound report says that I have a 3.1cm x 2.7cm simple (fluid) cyst on my left ovary and a very small fibroid on the lining of my uterus. I see my GP again tomorrow morning so will see what she says about it all and we'll go from there. I'm sure the cyst should be ok as I've had plenty of fluid cysts before and they just either rupture (which is painful, but it's better than surgery) or go away on their own, so hopefully that's the case... Not sure about the fibroid though as I've never had one but my Mum had them before having a hysterectomy and said to me that depending on the size of them, they will sometimes put you on the pill to lower your estrogen levels and that can help shrink them, but sometimes it can go away on it's own. The lady who did the ultrasound said the fibroid was very small, so hopefully thats a good sign too!
Will let you know tomorrow how it went and what the GP's plan of action is.. BLOODY women's problems!!!! Not what I wanted/need just before wanting to TTC in September!!!
Pretz - at least you know what the pain is all about now. Hope the cyst goes away and the fibroid too.
Belfie - hope that A went well at family day care.
Bec - LOL re Isaac getting squirted. I squirted my cousin once. I was feeding H in the car and she sat beside us. It was so funny, and she is still mortified by it. Glad he's settling into his usual routine.
Well, hard yards again here this week. Sunday and Monday nights, I only got about 4 hours sleep tops each night and that wasn't all together. H was coming down with a cold I suspect, which she has now. Loads of crying. No fevers though. No other obvious symptoms, except a little off breast feeding but not too much.
Anyway, last night she went to sleep at 7pm and woke for a feed at 6am! She's slept through! And then went to sleep until 7am. OMG. I got the best sleep and even though I was up at 2, I was able to go straight back to sleep. I woke up happy this morning, the first time in ages. I rather suspect that my glum mood, and crying last week, was just exhaustion. I did mention it to the Dr, and she seemed to brush it off by saying I looked to be quite well now.
I am just about to go out to visit a friend. But I have to have a shower first... what a slacker I am today. I got so busy doing meals for H that I didn't shower this morning. It feels kinda naughty to have not had a shower.
Give your babies a nice big hug from me.
Hiya to everyone - it's quiet in here these days. Anyone would think we were busy.
wow Dory that's fantastic H slept all night! No wonder you were feeling great that day, sleep does wonders.
I haven't been on here much this week, a good friend came to stay for the week. I went out for dinner for the first time without Isaac on Wednesday. Mum came over to look after him while we were out, and he was fine. I couldn't stop thinking about him though, but I had a great evening and even had my first glass of red wine in over a year! Isaac slept well that night, only waking at 3:30am so I fed him back to sleep. His sleep has been really bad this week though. I think another tooth is on its way so I'm putting it down to teething.
Not much else. Oh David (Isaac's father) is back on facebook and accepted my friend request so now he will get my photos on his news feed, at least its something!
Bec - wow.... on so many fronts..... Sometimes it would be interesting to be a fly on the wall ( or get a glimpse into David's thoughts) when he sees Isaac. I mean, he is such a beautiful boy.... to see him for the first time, and know you're not actually part of his life, just his biology? I wonder what that must feel like.... all I can say is he's mad to miss it.
Well done on going out for dinner..... doing better than me chickie...... it's crazy isn't it? We dream of having a break from the responsibilities of motherhood, but when we get one, all we can do is think about our little ones?
I had an appointment on Friday and DH looked after HB ( at his work) for the hour or so I was away. I am so pathetic! I missed HB. When it was time for my appointment to be up, I just kept thinking "time's up, I have to get back to HB". But she was fine.
Sorry Isaac isn't sleeping.... there have been no repeat performances of sleeping through here.... .... I think another tooth here too - Lots of angry/painful crying at 4am this morning.
Oh well I am just off to bed. Hope everyone is well. I have another cold. : (
I just had trouble finding our thread, it was on page 2! It has gotten verrrry quiet in here...
Thanks Dory, it would be so interesting to be a fly on the wall. I hope he has been looking at the photos. I wonder what he thinks of him.. and if he thinks of him. Does he think he looks like him? Does he see his mum in Isaacs eyes or his dad in his mouth and chin? I agree, he is mad to miss out on all of this. I am planning on going to Tanzania next year, so I really hope he will want to meet him. I don't want to get my hopes up though, but it's a trip I really want to make again anyway.
How is HB? Did she sleep through again?
Isaac has two more teeth through this week, his second bottom one and I noticed today a top one has come through as well. No wonder he was having some bad nights.
I really don't like to focus on sleep, as I feel their bodies are still so little and not really supposed to have the sleep cycles of adults yet, but Isaac slept from 6:30-5:30am last night, only waking for a feed at 10:30pm! Amazing.
I have noticed a funny thing. I don't know if there is anything behind this but I have noticed friends with big babies who tend to start doing things a little later seem to sleep a lot , whereas smaller babies who are more active seem to have less sleep. Is this a usual thing? Just as an example, my friends baby is average size, she is 6 months old and on all fours rocking looking about to crawl very soon. She is like Isaac, doing lots of things but has never slept through. As an opposite, another friends baby is big, always above 95th percentile, 9 months old and only just starting to shuffle along the floor. He has slept through from very early on and has always slept for huge stretches during the day. I know they are just two examples, but I am noticing the pattern with a lot (but obviously not all) of babies I know of. It would explain why Isaac doesn't sleep through yet, if he is the 'type' of baby in the active category. Has anyone else noticed this?
Yup totally agree with you re the active babies vs the sleepers. X was just like that, and a friend & I figured that of course he hadn't learnt how to do what the others had, as he'd slept soooo much more than they had. He was literally not awake enough to learn some of those things. I think Annika is very like in that respect. She still can't go forwards, only rolls & goes backwards (but is getting more agile with that I must admit). I was trying to help her with the crawling motion... holding up her tummy and letting her try getting her arms & legs beneath herself IYKWIM. So funny, she's quite good, but as soon as she has to bear the weight of her own belly...FLUMP on the floor. Funny little fatty boombalattie!
I think it's awesome that Isaac's dad is going to see pics, and I wonder what he will think? Isaac is just such a little spunk, hopefully that'll make him even more curious.
AFM, well Annika started at family daycare last week - 2 days. She's been a bit unsure about it all. Has managed ok (but not great) with sleep, eats brilliantly and DOES NOT DRINK A DROP! They've been trying everything. So I guess at least I know it wasn't just with me! THe first night she didn't even want her feed that much earlier than usual either. I was gobsmacked. And on Monday this week poor Xander asked me if we could please leave Annika at home with Daddy! I think he's not quite sure about Annika in "his" space either. I guess that's the only downside with family daycare - they're together, whereas in a long daycare centre they'd be in different rooms. I still prefer it tho, I love the one-on-one caregiver relationship for them, rather than having to adjust to multiple carers. She also just cut her first top tooth (at last!) and dropped her 3rd day nap. And today for the first time she really only wanted 3 proper feeds too. Oh goodness they grow up so fast!
Bec - I think Hannah might be an aberation to your and Belfie's theory.... she is a big baby, 95% percentile for weight and height and head circumference. She's not super mobile, but has always been super alert, and she's not really a great sleeper. She's not a bad sleeper either, but she doesn't really do long sleeps and never really has.
I had a dream about Isaac the other night. Not sure of the details, just that he, and you were in it.
I think you should make the trip, I think it's your soul place. It doesn't matter if you get your hopes up about David being interested in Isaac. If they are dashed, then you will recover but if it works out how you hope, then Isaac will have benefited from all your positivity about the trip and meeting people from Tz, including David. Really for Isaac at his age he will not realise the significance of meeting David, to be honest, he'll just be another face, but he will pick up on your feelings about things. He won't remember, but you will.
Belfie - at least your little A ( LOL) is consistent. That is so cute about X too... poor kid, realising what having a sister actually means. He'll come good. Yes, they do grow up way too fast.
Well, H and I have another cold. Just when I was getting over mine from last week. hard to be positive when it seems so long since I didn't have a cold. But the up side is we had a nice day at home today, no social visits, no swimming, no shopping. Just H and I, and it was nice.
Anyway, I am off to sleep. We have gone quiet in here - hope everyone is well and just busy and happy enough in their increasingly busy lives. Weird, when we were all pregnant it was hard to keep up in here.
wow. Sorry this is just a very short 'me' post but I just have to tell someone. I just checked my facebook, there is a private message from David finally! Wow. He says he wants Isaac to know him, wants to hold him so bad and thinks about us always. Wow. I am in shock! OK gotta go and be busy now
thanks Beflie, I am happy about it. I think it's great that he thinks about Isaac, and now I know he has probably been looking at the photos. I am so happy he wants him to know him. Just after I posted, I was making a cup of tea and suddenly realised what the time would have been in Tz when he sent the message.. 2:30am on a Saturday morning, hopefully it wasn't just a drunk message after a big night haha.
Dory - You were talking about DH coming home and what time before. I tell DH not to tell me what time he will be home as it always ends in disappointment esp when it has been 'one of those days with the children'. He once told me he would be home just after lunch.........5pm that arvo.........lol
AFU - Alannah has another tooth (#9) come through and I think the same one on the other side is not far away. She has a dreadful cold atm too and when I took her to the GP on Sunday, all he did was listen to her chest. I was there to be seen also and you would think with a Mummy flu-ridden and a baby, that the GP would check the baby incase she was coming down with it too! I have to take her abck this arvo but this time to one of ours doctors! She has a nasty little cough and I primarily just want her throat checked. I know she has not got the flu as she had a low grade temp one night and that is it. Stoopid doctors!
Still no ccrawling but the clever little ducky showed me she could go from belly to sitting by herself the day she reached 10 months! Yay!!
Been ages hey. Glad I timed an entrance to read your post about David, Bec. That makes me so happy for you and Isaac especially. I totally agree on the sleep front, i.e. the more active the baby = the less they sleep. Although Chloe has been GREAT the last 3 nights so I cant really complain.
Vixstar - 9 teeth!! Hope she doesn't get the flu
Dory - hope you are feeling better
Belfie - love all Annikas pics on FB. She is such an adorable cherub baby!!
AFM - working about 20 hrs a week. Doing way to much and feeling a little burnt out at the moment. Chloe and I have been really well though. She is extremely active, walking along all the furniture. She even has to stand and hold onto my shoulder when I read her books. Ants in her pants this one. She has learnt to say lots of animal noises; quack, panting for a dog, mooo, kangaroo click noises for quokkas (because we went to Rotto), open mouth for fish. SO cute. And now she says Mumumumum! As of a few days ago. She crawls after me saying it over and over. I dont know about the rest of you but if there was a PAUSE button I would be hitting it about now. I love my little munchkin so much!
Anyway, off to eat some lasagne and drink some red wine xx
Hi Girls!
I always seem to be dropping in and out but I assure you girls- I am reading!!
Harlow has been pretty full on, She is standing without holding on now and takes one step then falls foreward- It is pretty funny and she thinks it is funny too!!
I have completly changed my diet and I have felt a little bit better- I even left my kids with Mum for half an hour today which is something I wouldn't EVER normally do!!
Hope your all well. Now that I have a new laptop I am hoping I can be more involved again xox
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I'm sure the cyst should be ok as I've had plenty of fluid cysts before and they just either rupture (which is painful, but it's better than surgery) or go away on their own, so hopefully that's the case... Not sure about the fibroid though as I've never had one but my Mum had them before having a hysterectomy and said to me that depending on the size of them, they will sometimes put you on the pill to lower your estrogen levels and that can help shrink them, but sometimes it can go away on it's own. The lady who did the ultrasound said the fibroid was very small, so hopefully thats a good sign too! 
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