Time to get rid of the pill Mel! LOL...is dh happy to ttc again???
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Time to get rid of the pill Mel! LOL...is dh happy to ttc again???
Yes he is.... but i have just got my hands on the book...how to choose the sex of your baby, so I need to read that and then we can practice for a boy! I should finish this cycle and then see. I also wanted to loose that 5kgs first
Yes he is.... but i have just got my hands on the book...how to choose the sex of your baby, so I need to read that and then we can practice for a boy! I should finish this cycle and then see. I also wanted to loose that 5kgs first
Mel, OMG at Liv and the poo! I would totally freak if Ben did that! At least she was trying to clean up her own mess :lol:
Wow at your tingling/milk producing boobs! It's been a while now since you stopped BFing hasn't it? Good luck TTC :) We are going to stop contraception in about three months, but I reckon nothing will happen until Jared cuts WAY back on his feeds. Besides, you have to DTD to make a baby, and DH and I have only managed it once in the past five weeks or so!!!!
Kel, you poor thing. When are you having time off work? When we catch up you can have a big whinge about your DH and let it all out :) I still don't know how you even get out of bed of a morning with so little sleep! You probably feel it even worse now that you had a fairly good (for you) sleep the other day. Hang in there.
Kris, do you think it'll be another boy? An old schoolfriend of mine had her fourth earlier this year and she had a little girl after three boys :) She said it was totally weird to have a girl and say "She" and "Her" to everybody :lol: I'm sure your scan will be all good. The nausea and tiredness are good signs - not to mention your doubling HCG scores!
Us, we had another good night last night - yay it seems Jared is back to normal after his growth spurt last week. We went to the clinic this morning and he was 10kgs on their scales and 71cms. At least I know why my shoulder is buggered! He's loving his food though, banana and avocado are his favourites and he doesn't seem to like apple which sucks because I always have apples in the house - they're longer lasting than avo and nana!
Ben has been fantastic today. Was really patient down at the clinic, just sat and played with his trains, complete with commentary :lol: He was most disappointed when our regular nurse wasn't there and told the new nurse "Kathy's sick" :lol: I don't know how he'll cope when he realises Kathy isn't coming back! When we got home, we did some colouring in and playing, which I rarely get the chance to do with him one on one. It was just a really lovely morning. I also got him down to bed before 1pm, which I haven't managed in weeks. Hopefully this will mean a bedtime earlier than 9:30pm tonight!
I'm going to go have a rest now, my shoulder is really throbbing. I think I might have to go and have the scan after all :( God only knows how I'll manage that!
Hi All,
Kel- Sounds to me like you guys ideally need to move somewhere cheaper so you can give up work. Thats my two cents! At least if you have a **** night you dont have to "work" the next day. I know it probably depends on you DH getting a transfer somewhere, but if you keep going the way you are you are going to have a meltdown. If its upsetting you this much, maybe you need to say something to DH when its happening, I know its hard when you are upset to confront him but let him know, you cant feel any worse than not saying anything? IYKWIM? You sound like you are in a really awful place right now, hugs to you I know how you feel re Groundhog Day!
Mel - Oh man that is too gross with Olivia on the trampoline! She is hilarious with her stripping! You must be the best milk producer ever with those boobies of yours! Good luck with TTCing for a boy - tell you its way more fun than trying for a girl if you get my drift....
Dis - Thats lovely you had a good morning with Ben and he was so well behaved for you at the Dr's - they surprise you sometimes dont they? Glad your nights seem to be getting better. Thats great Jared is loving his food - Beau still loves avo mixed with tuna, god love the big boys. love a big bubba!
Kris - You will be fine hun, as the girls are saying you have loads of good healthy PG symtoms - I have a scan too on Thursday and cant wait to see bubba too I think its fine to call your bub Lily if its a girl, if you like the name go for it. As you said its not a close friend or family. My mum had three boys then me so you never know....
Us- We are ok, went to playgroup yesterday and have been relocating a massive Agave(a succulent about 1.5 metres!) into the garden today (which i got in trouble for via texting from DH) and just assembled a new toddler bed (bigger one) from Ikea via Ebay for Beau. Gosh he loves his bed and blankie. pillows etc, said "WOW" when I told him it was new for him, cute.
Thanks for your support with my MIL, she is a weird one. My BIL dropped in yesterday to ask if we were still friends after he blabbed the name and sex etc, I said we were but not his mum cause she is a b****! He agreed! I made a list of twenty names for DH to look at and he crossed out everyone except the one his mum hates, ha ha! I shudder to think how weird our boys names would be if DH let me pick them myself! :D
Hello all!
Firstly I just want to apologise for my rant the other day. I was having an especially yucko day and night (in case you didn't notice :redface: ). So again, I am sorry you girls copped it. I had a melt down with DH and he realised how stressed out I have been getting. I'm trying to work up the courage to go to the dr about my feelings, maybe see a counsellor or something, but I'm a wuss. I'm scared I guess. I'd really rather not go onto any medication or anything. I don't know!! Maybe I just need someone to talk to...who knows?? I certainly don't, lol! That's the problem!
Kris, unfortunately I don't get weekends. DH works odd days, so not always weekends off, actually he rarely gets whole weekends off. His roster usually includes one or both weekend days. Plus soccer on Sundays which he prioritises. It's his time out so that's fair enough, but he only plays 2 45 min halves, I don't understand why it takes 4-5 hrs. I don't remember when I had 5hrs to myself! I had time out this arvo, went to the gym. And the other morning I left for work early and stopped off for a chai latte (mmmm, mmmm!) and pancakes. And I told DH that I would be sleeping in this morning. Slept til 9am, ahhhh bliss! So I have enforced some time out for myself.
I have tried the list thing for DH. He just doesn't do it. He says he tries, which he very well might. I just don't understand why I can manage it, and then some and he can't do half of it. I don't think it's unacheivable, or my expectations are too high. And it's often things that he just has to do, like change the kids nappies. On more than one occaision I have come home from work and he hasn't changed the kids nappies. Or get meat out for dinner, I'll cook it, just get it out! If I sleep in Lily eats biscuits for breaky. Liam has tinned food for dinner (which I usually only use for going out or if I'm sick), even though I have home made frozen meals in the freezer for him. Aaanywaaayyy...I could go on and on so I'll stop now!
Fingers crossed for you scan. And I think Lily is a great name for your bub if she is a girl ;). Absolutely perfect! I don't think it would matter much if you have the same name as your friend, especially if you don't see her often. Maybe you could use Lily in a different way, like Lillian, Lilliana, Lilibeth....
Mel, goodluck with ttc! And getting your boy :) .
Dis, my holidays are next week for the week. So if you're free, so am I all week :D !!
LOL @ DTD to make a baby. That's one reason why DH and I won't be having another....we just can't seem to coordinate ourselves. We've gone from DTD every second day at least to every second week, if that....not happy Jan! But with him working odd days, and Lily has a sex sensor, anytime we get close there she is, plus me being soo tired so much of the time, well...I'm sure you get the picture!
OMG, Jared is 10kg??? Liam is 10.2kg now, and Lil is only just 13kg on a good day! As you said no wonder your shoulder is sore! By the way I hope it's on the mend. It's great when you have days like that with your bubs isn't it. I love to play playdough, paint, build and draw with Lily when Liam is sleeping. I always try to do one or the other once a day with her. I keep them packed away so it is something special she and I can do together.
Jen, yeah, that's our line of thinking with going remote with DH's work. We can rent out our unit, will be paying next to nothing in rent and be living in a house and nicer area than we do at the mo. Nothing but positives, plus we don't have anything keeping us here really. I don't get much practical help from family other than to look after the kids so I can work, which I won't need to do if we can get a good posting in the country...Plus I just need a change, a big one.
Tsk, tsk doing heavy lifting in the garden! Naughty girl!!
So what names would you be choosing if it were up to you? I would have no idea if I had to name another baby boy...it took us forever to agree on Liams name! I would find it pretty easy for a gilr, though DH and I have such different taste in names.
Ok ladies that's it for me gotta shower and go to bed. I'm trying to make it into bed at a half decent hour!
Thankyou all for your support :hug:
Hi!
Mel - Making boys is fun - LOL!!! Fair enough with the weight loss - I'm so undisciplined, I was always thinking I'm just going to get fat again I may as well worry about it when I'm done - LOL!!
You're doing such an amazing job though!!
Dis - Wow at ttc again soon!! You never know - I've always fallen p/g while bfing!!
Ummm....I'm assuming I'll have another boy but I don't know - p/g wise I feel the same but I dont' think that's probably a really good indicator anyway...It would be nice to have a girl but I'm more than happy with my boys!!
Wow on such a big boy!!! Ethan has his weigh in tomorrow...I'll be surprised if he's 8kg!!
Jen - Have fun at your scan tomorrow!! Oooh I can't wait to hear what name you have picked!!
Kel - DO NOT APOLOGISE for your rant - that's what we're hear for!!!!! I think it's probably important to speak to someone if you feel you need to...otherwise I think what your doing with getting some exercise is a really great idea - it is often noted that if people are feeling down doing exercise can really help lift your mood! Big hugs though...good on you for talking to dh about it - you may just have to keep on to him so he really understands what your feeling..men can be a bit thick sometimes!! LOL!
Sounds great to get the time out where you can if you don't have weekends...anytime will do as long as it's for you!
Hmm I have no ideas about your husband with not changing nappies...LOL...that's a bit of a worry!!!
Hehe - I thought you might have a fondness for the name Lily!! LOL...I like it because it's so pretty and feminine and in a house full of boys would be good - also then she could have my middle name - so she would be Lily Ann...(all of the boys have significant middle names...)
As for me, I just had a yummo dinner out with the girls (old school friends) was so nice to go out - I think I forget there's a whole world out there sometimes!! LOL!
I've managed to get Dylan to sleep the last 2 days on the couch over lunch which has been great so he's been a lot happier for it!! He's got a think with beanies at the moment and there was a moment today where he was starkers with just a beanie on - had to take a photo - LOL!
Kids are well, I'm well...not much else happening really!
I know it probably sounds funny but I really look forward to hopefully one day catching up with you all in real life!!!! I know it probably won't be for a long time but I think it will be great for it to happen!!! When we're all finished breeding and feeding...LOL!
On that note...I will chat to you all later!! xo
Hey Kris and Jen, was it today you were both having scans? How did you guys go?
Tomorrow for me, Kel!
Kel, I think Jen is having her scan today :)
Next week is good for me for a meet up. I only have swimming on Thursday, but apart from that, we're wide open. Pick a day that suits you best and we'll get planning.
Don't apologise to us for having a rant. We've all done and it that's a big part of why this group exists. I do think you should speak to your doctor though. You don't have to go on medication if you don't want to, but it will probably really help to just talk to somebody about it all.
Kris, I would love to catch up with everybody in real life too! Aren't we going to have a girlie weekend away when all our kids are older? Didn't we pick Hamilton Island or something? :)
Lily Ann is beautiful. I really like the name Lily too, but Craig doesn't since he works with flowers all day every day :lol: We have Amy Anne picked out for a girl so I like Ann/e too!
Good luck for tomorrow!
Jen, how did your scan go? How cute is Beau about his new bed?!?! I have no idea what we're going to do about Jared's bed when #3 comes along. The two boys will have to share a room, but I don't think it's big enough for two singles and Ben will be too little for bunks. How do you find toddler beds? Worth getting?
Was Beau always a big boy? Jared wasn't particularily big when born (3.75kgs) but since about 6 weeks he's been a bit of a chunk. Is Beau still big now? Just curious as Jared has thrown us a bit - nobody in our family is particularily big, especially length-wise, so it seems a bit odd!
Us, well we had swimming this morning. Ben is still really nervous about getting his head wet, but then doesn't want to hop out of the pool! My sis reminded me though that I used to always try and swim with my head out of the water when we were kids. I guess he gets it from me! As soon as you distract Ben with a toy boat though, he'll do anything. Seemed to be more of a drama today though. Just getting ready and out of the house and then home to baths (the chlorine is SO strong), lunch and bed for DH and the kids. By the time all that is done, I'm ready for bed too! I sometimes wonder how I'm going to cope when I have more children than hands...
J has been sleeping really good yet again. Last night DH woke him up (unintentionally) when he left for work. He was about due for a feed anyway though. The problem is that when he gets up at 3:30 or whenever, he's then up for an hour and a half! Nearly EXACTLY an hour and a half every night. Last night I gave up trying to get him back to sleep and just let him play, and when an hour and 25 mins were up, he was looking around at me like "I'm ready for bed now...". As soon as I picked him up he snuggled into me and fell asleep! I know I shouldn't encourage him to play, but after many nights of trying to get him back off to sleep straight away and having it take an hour and a half, this is just a lot easier.
Ben had a bit of a nightmare of something last night though. He woke up at about 11pm and asked for his light to be put back on. Weird, he's NEVER done that before. I'm hoping it's just a one-off.
I booked our apartment for out Qld holiday today! Can't wait - less than three months to go!!!!
Hello....can i just say Kel...blast away. I dont mind you letting loose. We are hear to listen to you. I find myself quite often letting loose myself and it feels good. As long as you feel better and can get some advise and support.
Kris- good luck with your scan. I love Lily Ann.
Mel- ooh you lucky thing having a holiday. Isnt it a bugger when they like to play in the middle of the night. Miss r decided to have a bumper night last night. I was up at 12, then 245 the 4(with Liv) then 5. That killed me...dont know how you do it kel! Bec is getting the top teeth now and they are really bothering her. I forget to give her panadol, but she likes the bonjella.
This is a bt all over the place! Olivia had a dermatologist appointment today. We are on a strict 3 cream regime. If you look at the pics I put on fb recently her mouth has flared up big time. He seems to think it is partly fungal part dermatitis and is a bit concerned that she may be resistant to creams over time. Hes refering her to the paeds at Monash, so hopefully things will work out fine.
DH is packing his car as we speak. Hes off on a boys weekend til sunday arvo. Am a bit grizzly at him coz hes not prepared. Last night he had to do a service on the car, while I cooked cleaned bathed and bedded 2 cranky kids. He has known about this for ages. Now hes rushing about packing. And yesterday he drove me nuts about these stupid number plates for the 4wd...so i got them for him just to shut him up!
L1FT3D...great. It was soooo important to get them. So now the cc is maxed up and because its tax time the bank balance is crud. this is my rant! Priorities all over the place. So I am not going to feel guilty this weekend going out with friends AND i want to have my baby soon...so i am!
Anyway having an early dinner....chat soon:)
Oh I forgot to add that my nipples are still tingling. Its like a burning/tingling sensation...any thoughts? Maybe its just when I come on here!!!! Just kidding!
Hi girls,
Well, I'm having a pretty down few days. Making me feel so crappy. I'm not teary or anything just feel really bleugh. I am still wondering if I'm pg, lol! It would explain a few things. Tiredness, emotional, off my food. But that could be depression too...and I think it's also the fact that my good friend just had her baby a few days ago, and I'm feeling clucky cause my little man is almost one. AF isn't due for a week or so, so I just have to wait. It was a struggle for me to get out of bed this morning, Liam had a tossy turny night, and Lily woke a few times. Like the song, I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. Have to get to the dr. Maybe tomorrow. I'm not going to work today. I have a headache and just feel horrible, so I will rest and clean the house, lol! I'm still taking Lily to cc and Liam to mums though.
Kris, with DH and the nappies, it's not that he doesn't want to, I think he genuinely forgets. He's more than happy to do it if I remind him, but he thinks it's ok to leave them til they're SOAKED. I mean wet yes, but not hanging down to their knees wet. Lily Ann is a gorgeous name! I think you should do it!! And good luck for today, I'm thinking of you and keeping everything crossed :crossfingers:
I hope we all get to meet one day too. I think it's doable, it will just take some planning!
Dis, I am free Tue or Wed, so either of those days. My days filled up quickly!! Do you have any idea of somewhere we can meet?
Liam was wake for an hour and a half last night too. I have no idea why. Usually I feed him and he's straight back off to sleep, but last night he was chatting and smacking me in the head. He thought it was funny when I moved him and told him NO! Little bugger. I wasn't amused, I can tell you....
Mel, I hope the creams work for Olivia. Poor little mite. I noticed the rash on her face, it looks sore!
I hope you have a nice weekend. And I hope your DH got away without too much fuss. They have no idea how stressful it can be when they go away or leave at routine times. My DH does it when he goes for soccer training, always at 6.30, dinnertime, bath time, bedtime, grrrr!
Ok gotta go kids are over watching tv (great mum that I am, surfing the net whist the kids are glued to the tv.....). Hope you all have a great day!
LOL Kel- I do that too, surf the net while the kids are watching tv. Problem is now becca is crawling, shes grizzling and almost at the kitchen for me!!!
It sounds like you are suffering a mild case of depression (unless youre pg). You have definately had a tough time with both your kids and sleep deprivation is one of the most challenging things. It can get the toughest of people. You really should go to the Dr and get a referral to see a counsellor. Nothing wrong with having a chat with someone outside the family and work through your issues. I hope you do goto the drs. Also have a good day on your own today. Do something for you.
Olivia has taken to squealing. She knows the word and does it all the time. I just yelled at her. I am so sick of it. She squeals because she knows it drives me insane and I tell her it hurts my head....she does it more.....except for now because in my deep aurthoritarian voice I slapped the bench and said....STOP IT! Anyway shes a monkey...today she told me she didnt like her breakfast and it needs to go in the rubbish!!! OK!
Rebecca is at my feet pulling my pants and grizzling.
Olivia is telling me bye bye....love you too!
Kris...good luck today:)
Hi!
Just a quick one from me - Had my scan and everything is all good!! Am due March 27th so am 6w6d along...I can't believe it! Such a relief!!!!
Will catch up properly later!! xoxoxoxox
Yay Kris, so glad to hear all is well!
Mel, Ben is yelling now, kinda like the boy equivalent to squealing I guess. It's so annoying and I get so cross at him when he does it just as I get Jared to sleep!
Grrrr at your DH leaving everything to the last minute. I'm thinking I'll start organising what we're going to take to Qld soon just to avoid that last minute stuff.
Kel, either day is fine with me. I'm happy to visit Lollipops or whatever. We could always go to a park if you know of one near you, or a McCafe with a play area. Whatever suits you best.
Please make time next week to go off to the doc. I know I always find excuses not to do things (for example I still haven't had the scan on my shoulder!), something always comes up. I think you really should talk to somebody now.
Jared's bottom two teeth are almost through. He's been pretty good considering how close they are to cutting. We didn't have a good night last night though. He had a belly ache, and this mornings' three dirty nappies in two hours confirmed that for me! He's had another one since too. It's probably a bit to do with teething, but he's also having a bit of trouble adjusting to food. Banana being his favourite certainly isn't helping either.
Ben's been amazing us every day. This morning he helped me make a marinade for our steaks and I was telling him what each thing was as I added it. When DH got home, I told Ben to tell him what we put in the marinade, fully expecting him to say "Black sauce" (soy sauce) and leave it at that, but he then comes out with "Brown sugar" and "Not water" :lol: The 'not water' is vinegar :lol: I couldn't believe that he remembered the ingredients when I only said the names once. I tell you, our babies are long gone and there are little people in their places! :)
Great news Kris...a little sticky one. I think my timgling nipples are fom coming on here...just ssoooo clucky! Its all psychosomatic!
Mel sounds like what Liv does, just when Bec is off to sleep is her most highest pitch noise. Boys sound like they are doing well too.
Am tired today. Just spent a few hours with some friends at the local play centre. Then found some cheap barbies at the second hand store. Olivia gave me the one that has her hair cut off and she has the one with the long frizzy hair. I survived one night on my own, now tonight, I have baths to do. Becs a grizzle guts with her top teeth. Lucky last night was semi ok...was better that i got to bed hog:)
Ok becs filling her pants....
Ok a me post...i am so tired and sad and angry....just tired. I had such a crap night last night. This is how it goes....
so i went to bed at 930, bec woke at 1030 for a feed, which takes 30 minutes coz shes sooo slow, then she woke at 12 and had another feed, then liv woke at 2am with nightmares and didnt go back til 3am, bec woke at 215, got to sleep around 3am, bec woke at 5am, then woke again for the day at 630.
Rebecca had 5 feeds from dinner time last night til this morning. WTF??? Her top teeth are almost through. A growth spurt??? I dont know. AM so tired. And dh is away...probably getting great sleep.
Anyway i am catching up with girlfriends from highschool..the old crew...some of whom i havent seen since 1992!!! Hopefully I will stop tearing up by then!
Big hugs Mel. :hug: We had a crappy night too, though on the bright side, Lily slept through in her own bed, yay!!! But Liam is teething too. He bit me twice last night, not happy jan! He just had a 2hr morning nap though, and Lily is now asleep too, yay! DH is off to work though for a night shift which sucks. I'm so not in the mood for the kids on my own today. I'm teary from tiredness too. But DH is on holidays for 2 weeks as of tomorrow, so I should get a break then! I hope you have a great time with your friends. Ok gotta go Li needs lunch!