Girls thanks for your suggestions and sympathies... So nice to know I'm not alone!!

I walk away from the tantrums and I frequently do... It's the hitting and biting I can't stand.

I do the gentle thing with DD with X and she is getting so much better with him... but with DH and me, and with some of the other kids at our playgroups she is way too rough and hits and even bites.

I have turned into the mother of the terrible kid at Playgroup who terrorizes the other kids...

I know it is probably just a phase but I really wish it was over...

Lilima - we have tried giving
DD her own knife and fork (plastic) but she just smashes them into her food.

Fun fun fun...