Jols- Yay Millie, bet she keeps you busy now, Lewis moving everywher and into everything!!!
Malyna- I have not tried it.. don't think I could TBH. but in saying that I don't always go in straight away but I never let him get really upset.
Ali- It is so hard dropping them off when you son't really want to,rekon it's harder on us though than on them
Nai- Saw your photo's on FB, the girls are just beautiful..
Well a woohoo for me, I have just extended my maternity leave for another 6 months, I feel so great about it, almost can't believe it.. but I was dreading going back and said to DH joking that I wish i could take longer and he said well why don't you so i have!!!
Pinny - great news on the extension of mat leave - I'm not going back to work - really didnt' enjoy it that much.
Olive - he just needs a really long cuddle session to get to sleep. Tonight I started at 7 and put him down at 9 BUT I had to leave him in his cot for a few minutes, until he got upset then he settled quickly.
He only goes to sleep on the boob and loves cuddling. Sometimes I wish that DH could put him to sleep. I'm finding it exhausting. Controlled cryign won't work with him because he just escalates his crying and wont settle, just gets hysterical (well for him its hysterical) and the only thing that will settle him is the boob.
I'm to the point where I'm going to strangle the IL's because that is their answer for getting him to settle.
Malyna = ILs can be a pain. I didn't try cc, I did try to stay with J when he woke from a 40min day nap and resettle him into another sleep cycle but it didn't work. I was there, I was comforting him in and out of the cot and he just got more and more worked up. I tried for three afternoon sleeps (three days in a row) and gave up. It wasn't working at all and I decided then to give sleep school a miss (had been thinking long and hard about putting our name down on a waiting list prior to trying the resettling in the cot) because I really don't think it would work for him. Sounds like A is the same.
Have you checked out the comforted sleep section of BB? Kelly has put a few good articles and links in the sticky section. Have a read and either tell your ILs why you're not keen or give them some of the articles to read. You're his mum, you know him best. Tell 'em it would help you more if they just offered support, rather than solutions that you don't think will work. If they've mentioned it once or twice and you haven't taken them up on the suggestion surely that tells them something???
Is he improving over time? Like if you look back to how he was one month ago or two? With J, he has gone backwards and forwards with his sleep - sometimes it's awesome and sometimes it seems like it's crap. I am trying to remind myself that his crap days now, were his typical days a couple of months ago so there has been some progress and I know he can do it, I just have to wait him out through each crap phase. I'm no longer even wishing for him to sleep through, just feeding once overnight instead of three times or more, would be awesome!
I hope you're ok. It must be overwhelming to have to cuddle him to sleep for hours every night.
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2.5 hours is awesome!!
ILs can be a pain. I didn't try cc, I did try to stay with J when he woke from a 40min day nap and resettle him into another sleep cycle but it didn't work. I was there, I was comforting him in and out of the cot and he just got more and more worked up. I tried for three afternoon sleeps (three days in a row) and gave up. It wasn't working at all and I decided then to give sleep school a miss (had been thinking long and hard about putting our name down on a waiting list prior to trying the resettling in the cot) because I really don't think it would work for him. Sounds like A is the same.
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