Malyna = ILs can be a pain. I didn't try cc, I did try to stay with J when he woke from a 40min day nap and resettle him into another sleep cycle but it didn't work. I was there, I was comforting him in and out of the cot and he just got more and more worked up. I tried for three afternoon sleeps (three days in a row) and gave up. It wasn't working at all and I decided then to give sleep school a miss (had been thinking long and hard about putting our name down on a waiting list prior to trying the resettling in the cot) because I really don't think it would work for him. Sounds like A is the same.

Have you checked out the comforted sleep section of BB? Kelly has put a few good articles and links in the sticky section. Have a read and either tell your ILs why you're not keen or give them some of the articles to read. You're his mum, you know him best. Tell 'em it would help you more if they just offered support, rather than solutions that you don't think will work. If they've mentioned it once or twice and you haven't taken them up on the suggestion surely that tells them something???

Is he improving over time? Like if you look back to how he was one month ago or two? With J, he has gone backwards and forwards with his sleep - sometimes it's awesome and sometimes it seems like it's crap. I am trying to remind myself that his crap days now, were his typical days a couple of months ago so there has been some progress and I know he can do it, I just have to wait him out through each crap phase. I'm no longer even wishing for him to sleep through, just feeding once overnight instead of three times or more, would be awesome!

I hope you're ok. It must be overwhelming to have to cuddle him to sleep for hours every night.