Kaz - overwhelming is an understatement. I'm not coping at all. Last week when I visited teh MCHN nurse they did the PND test and I'm going backwards fast. I can't remember how many times, I've felt that little rubber band snap and its taken all my willpower to stop myself from just walking out on everything. I sometimes think i was pretty darn crazy to go into motherhood, considering all the crap I've been through in my life and I know I couldn't deal with two children - I'm really fortunate in that Alex is such a calm baby (most of the time). I know I just need to get over it, get my head around just getting used to holding him for 3+ hours a night but it still doesn't stop me from wanting to walk out on everything.
But its all sent to test us and what doesnt' shatter us into little tiny pieces makes us stronger - I just hope that I can hold it together long enough for Alex to get out of this stage and hang in there.
Malyna- sounds like you're having a rough trot. Have you been recommended to a councillor? I'd hate for the PND to get worse so might be worth a thought. As for sleeping I had major issues with Ash and what we did was not exactly controlled crying as I was in the room always and I picked her up if she got hysterical but it did involve a fair amount of crying but at the time it was what I needed as I was spending an hour to get her to sleep in the day for her to sleep only 30mins and I was up at minimum 3 times a night. If you are interested I can PM you but its up to you what you feel comfortable to do, don't feel presured by ILs or anyone. It was really hard the first couple days but it did save my sanity as I was in tears everyday .
Pinny- yay on the extension of mat leave, I have mixed feelings of returning back, mostly I am looking forward to the money but willo miss the girls.
Ali- Thats great she sat so long! Emily only sits long enough to eat a cruskit then she cracks it, always have to make sure I have them packed away for if I want to go have coffee or something.
Still not tooth, the lump I could feel has gone down so they just don't want to pop thru. On the subject crawling she is crawling properly now most of the time, she is getting faster so doing it more. Poor knees on hard floor tho.
We have the christmas lights and our tree up now. I am so excited this year with Ash, I keep having to remind myself real meaning christmas I am getting carried away with santa and all that sorta thing.
Shell - i know how to manage things - having had PTSD for 10years - it's just getting the energy and the space to manage it - I don't have a lot of either at the moment. DH doesn't really look after Alex when I'm around.
Please PM me the details.
Last night - Alex didn't have an afternoon nap, so it took an hour to settle him, but he was up at 7.30 and I had to go to bed with him then, because he just screamed ever time he went into the cot - and he just escalates - there's no inbetween.
gotta go, had my 5 minutes to myself today - he's in the porta cot and complaining.
Oh Malyna - I don't want to sound rude but your DH needs to step up a bit and take A off your hands for a bit. You really sound like you need more support than you're getting. I get what you mean about having the skills to cope with stuff but needing the space to actually do that and process things in your head. If you went to a counsellor for an hour or so a week would your DH take A during that time?
pinny im very excited youve extended your leave, means we can catch up more!! hehehe totally selfish reasons! how is L??
meg nice name! i'll still call you med, i still call malyna tarkine
kaz i never resettle for day sleeps,i used to try with sophie and only ended up stressed and anxious! wasnt nice! plus i dont h ave the time! our sleep is the same, good, bad, good,bad!
tarkine how are you hun??? ignore the outlaws hun, you know whats right and best for your baby!
shell were going to the tree soon, sophie is very excited and asks every day when are we putting it up!!
AFU millie is commando crawling or as sophie says mango crawling!! shes in to everything but much happier, on the down side, both are sick colds AGAIN!!!!!! over illness!
Malyna, I hope your DH gives you some time so that you can do what you need to do. It's so hard when you have a clingy baby to deal with and this is the age unfortunately where they are starting to get more aware and protest more vocally with separation anxiety.
Olive - poor Millie being sick again!
Shell - has that tooth come through yet?
AFU - DD1 was sick again yesterday. Once again on a Thursday so I have been unable to have a break to get things done that need to be done. I need to get the Christmas shopping started but can't get time alone to do it!!
Miss J is now saying "mumma". She's been sleeping terribly and was screaming for 2 hours straight last night before she finally went to sleep about 9pm. It's hard to be annoyed with her though when she smiles and says "mumma". She waved and said "baabaa daadaa" today - which we took to mean "bye bye Daddy" Bit of a stretch but we will claim it.
Olive- Oh noooo not sick again!! you poor mummy, hope you have strength to get through it... Abbey calls it " Bamamboo" crawling..
Nai-L been having heaps of trouble getting to sleep too, think it's the heat! Hope DD1 gets better quickly
Malyna- Chin up darl...hope your having better days
AFM- Well my little man has just cut two more teeth the top ones!! and has become one of those babies who puts EVERYTHING in his mouth!! sooo dangerous, already we have had a choke on small piece of sticky tape, piece of cotton and small piece of foam!! and I vacuume everyday and would consider my house to be quite tidy, so it is so hard, he seems to hunt things out just to put in his mouth!!
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But you guys can still call me Meg if you want!!!!!
sounds like you're having a rough trot. Have you been recommended to a councillor? I'd hate for the PND to get worse so might be worth a thought. As for sleeping I had major issues with Ash and what we did was not exactly controlled crying as I was in the room always and I picked her up if she got hysterical but it did involve a fair amount of crying but at the time it was what I needed as I was spending an hour to get her to sleep in the day for her to sleep only 30mins and I was up at minimum 3 times a night. If you are interested I can PM you but its up to you what you feel comfortable to do, don't feel presured by ILs or anyone. It was really hard the first couple days but it did save my sanity as I was in tears everyday .
but much happier, on the down side, both are sick
colds AGAIN!!!!!! over illness!
Bit of a stretch but we will claim it.
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