Oh Malyna - I don't want to sound rude but your DH needs to step up a bit and take A off your hands for a bit. You really sound like you need more support than you're getting. I get what you mean about having the skills to cope with stuff but needing the space to actually do that and process things in your head. If you went to a counsellor for an hour or so a week would your DH take A during that time?

Please PM me if you want to chat. Anytime.