Babies Born~February 1st-15th 2009 #2

[Sterla]

Good luck Jords. Go to sleep Winter darling!

[Antheia]

Blerk! Me, DH and DD all have food poisoning! Had fish tonight and apparently the tarter sauce was off. Lucky DS1 didnt eat his fish so he is fine. But err my belly feels so yuck!

[Dansta]

moose: ooo i wanna know what you're 'supprise' is! hope you have a good mothers day!

Anthiea - your doing wonderful. keep it up! aww about the food poisoning! just keep drinking water - i'll see if i can dig up a recipy that helps with hydration. it tates horrable but works really well

sterla: thanks for the FB message!

Jords- relax and breathe, what advice you where given wont work over night. maybe- as a suggestion try and slowly get her used to sleeping on her own. like...when she goes into to cot hold her like you'd be cradeling her in your arms untill she's alseep...as for feeding to sleep how about just as she's dozeing off swap the boob for a dummy? like warm the end of the dummy up in your hand before you slide it in? if you need me. PM me...im happy to talk with you and try and help (even if i cant help that much i'd be happy to try!)

AFM: daz and i had a good day. only one FF feed. but that was because i was at my mum and dads...i couldnt get over it - daz had almost 220mls! and is now alseep. im wondering if he'll wake up at 1am like he has been...mind you he is due for a growth spert. we went out and did some shopping, i bought myself (finealy!) some 'nice' trackydacs for when i nic down the shops or that and going to parentals/Inlaws places LOLanf got my hair trimmed - any one else found that hairdressers in shopping centers seem to have minmal 'pram parking' or is it just me? went to my mum and dads for tea. daz as asleep for most of it...woke up and was awake for a 10mins wanted to be fed had 100mls, waited for 15mins then wanted more...gave him the rest (100mls) my mum took him and he was ok then got cranky- only calmed down for me ( ) and when i told her about amother from MG who waited for tears before picking up her bub and said "i've never seen daz cry a single tear, even with needles" she told me "well obvusly you pick him up too soon" i could have slapped 'er!
but thats enough whingeing LOL. my mother is stupid and both DH and i know it. thus we ignore her (plus i think she was annoied i said "i'll take him" when he was starting to scream!)
Hope every one is having a good night!

[Peach*]

Hey Ladies,
How is everyone today?

That sucks about food poisioning Antheia! Bletch Hope you feel better soon*

Blip- Thank you Ah I smiled when I read bout "nice" trackie dacks... DP always comments when I put something on other than trackies as its all I seem to wear! Sooo comfy. Then I go yoga pants for the shops, like trackies but better for not so cold days... then I have my "athletic greys" my trackies that are so long I dont have to wear socks... bliss Yes I am a fan of the trackies!

This is going to sound horrible but Ive almost given up on "no-cry" soloutions... I never thought Id say that. Last night we let Winter cry to sleep it was horrible. Argh I just dont know what to do... "put her down as soon as she is tired" so easy in theory... yes I put her down and she crys... the cycle just continues. Sorry to vent! Ongoing saga is getting to me(can you tell?!)

Hope your all well!

[Antheia]

I used to have to feed Orson to sleep, but now i just put him in his swing, it puts him tosleep within 5 minutes. Or i rock him to sleep and pat his bum quite rough (i dont hurt him obviously but he falls alseep with heaps of movement).

[Peach*]

We can rock her to sleep with no real trouble, but then when she wakes half an hour later she cant settle herself as she is so used to being fed or rocked to sleep. Argh I feel so selfish.

[Antheia]

Does she have a dummy?

[Peach*]

Refuses to take one as we didnt offer her one till after 6 weeks old as I had read they could interfere with feeding. Last week we bought some different shaped ones to try and she literally smiled when I put ine in her mouth, then chewed on it until she had dribble past her chest So thats the issue Im trying to overcome also is her waking and wanting to suckle on me to get back to sleep every sleep cycle...

[Antheia]

Orson didnt like the dummy to begin with, but i kept it up and just kept putting it back in and soon enough it stays in now.

Have you tried feeding her while your laying down in bed? We co-sleep with Orson and thats how he has his middle of the night feed and most of the time i fall asleep so he doesnt disturb me. That might be an option so you can at least get some sleep overnight?

[Peach*]

Thats what we are doing atm but I find I doont have a comfortable sleep as I cant toss and turn as after I stir she wakes up and then wants to suckle! Im going to persist with the cot thing... I guess even if she learns to self settle and stays in our bed that wouldnt be too bad I guess...
Just one part of me wants to give her everything she wants andd needs ie suckle on me 24/7 but then the other part of me needs a comfy sleep and to be able to regain some form of intimacy with DP...

[sydney moose]

Hi ladies,

well after such a good gain Sammy has started to spew again today, feeling guilty about not keeping the paed appointment but we will see how we go. I have a record of when she spews and how much and we will decide on Monday whether this is still an issue or not. Its not as bad as what it was but it made me feel anxious again...we shall see what the week-end holds. We had a really nice night out last night for pizza and beers, got home at about 10:30pm. Sammy had been asleep in the pram since 7:30 and woke up when I got her out but I gave her a quick feed and she settled pretty quickly.

Antheia: Glad to hear you are feeling better, stupid tartare sauce eh!

Blip: About your mum, it just makes you realise that the methods were so different when your mum had you eh? she is most likely having a hard time understanding what you are doing because its so different than what they were told. Good on you for "grinning and bearing it" ! Try and enjoy your mum, even if she drives you insane! though my mum and I always had a pretty rocky relationship ( she knew how to push my buttons) I miss her very much.

Sterla: How are you going with your feelings re: your c/s? You feeling any better?

Jords: I know what you mean it IS so hard. I try to do as much as possible with the no-cry solution but to be honest ( and I know my decision may not be the most popular here) I think that at one point of another, babies are going to cry because we are not doing what they want. I can actually see Sammy looking at me with eyes saying I DON"T WANT TO GO TO BED and I have given in and picked her up but try as much as possible not to when I feel its more like a tantrum. I stay next to her and I am there for her whilst she cries. I pat her head and bum and shoosh her and usually within a few minutes (sometimes its a nightmare and last 45 minutes!) she stops crying and then chews really hard on her dummy making "I'm not happy about this" mumbled sounds but 2 minutes later after she usually falls asleep. Thats what works for Sam and I, every bubba is different and thats what makes it so hard. One girl on our MG went to the sleep clinic and the bub cried for 1.5 hours straight without going to sleep..just to show you that some bubs just won't do it, so the mum went back to do what worked for her and her bub. The babies don;t read the books unfortunately, lol cause then it would be SO MUCH easier being a parent! I'm sure Winter will come around in her own time but don't give up and give her your best go, you are doing a great job!

Laura: hows' Bella and you?

Sammy just woke up! Tata!

Mxx

[Antheia]

Moose, does Sam have reflux?

[Sterla]

Jords: Sounds like a tough time. I don't really have any advice sorry. I tend to rock/pat Oliver to sleep most nights, and that works for us. I can totally understand wanting your bed to yourself, lol. Good luck with whatever you decide to do .

Antheia: Hope you're feeling better today.

Blip: Go Darren with the 220mls! He must have hit a growth spurt!

AFM: Not much happening here. Oliver and I are just plodding along . I'm trying to pick up my game a bit with tummy time. In the early days I didn't do it very often at all, but in the past few weeks I've made sure to do it at least once a day, and now in the past couple of weeks I make sure I do it several times a day. Thing is, he doesn't do a great deal when he's on his tummy. He can lift his head up, and move it from one side to the other if he wants, but usually he just lies there, brings his fist to his mouth and sucks on it. I've tried toys, a mirror, me and DH sitting on the other side calling him, and moving him in different positions... but he just lies there. The only time he really moves is when he's starting to get upset. You ladies got any ideas for me?

Hope everyone is having a good day.

[sydney moose]

Antheia: dunno, she never had this issue until 10 weeks old and the only thing I have changed is the fact that I am on the mini pill now. I would be surprised if reflux would started at 10 weeks?!?! When I mentioned it to the GP, she said most likely not as she should not be dropping weight. She also goes for 2-3 days where she is not sick at all..so its right down confusing. It's a LONG time to be viral, so I might give the paed a ring on Monday again and rebook an appointment, I guess it depends on how much she has put on over the week-end and how many spews we've had.

[Antheia]

sterla, these early months bub is not going to do much. Tummy time is just to help strengthen their neck and to give a different perspective. He wont start playing with toys etc until prob 4-5 months old when his gross motor skills increase. Doesnt mean you dont have to keep trying. He would enjoy the entertainment.

[Antheia]

Antheia: dunno, she never had this issue until 10 weeks old and the only thing I have changed is the fact that I am on the mini pill now. I would be surprised if reflux would started at 10 weeks?!?! When I mentioned it to the GP, she said most likely not as she should not be dropping weight. She also goes for 2-3 days where she is not sick at all..so its right down confusing. It's a LONG time to be viral, so I might give the paed a ring on Monday again and rebook an appointment, I guess it depends on how much she has put on over the week-end and how many spews we've had.

Reflux babies can loose weight because they spew so loose what they have just eaten.

[Sterla]

Oops, a few more posts while I was typing.

Moose: That's no good about Sammy spewing again. I hope it settles and she still gains well, etc. I guess all you can do is wait and see for now.

Thanks for asking about the c/s stuff. I'm okay today - I have days where it bothers me a lot, days when it's a passing thought, and days when I don't think about it at all. I'm honestly surprised at how much it's played on my thoughts... when I was pregnant I was of the opinion that it doesn't matter how your bub comes into the world (which is true), but it's more of a personal thing that has very little to do with Oliver. I know Oliver doesn't care how he came into the world, or that he was separated from me for 2 hours after he was born... but it bothers me. I'm still working through it in my own way, and probably will for a while yet.

[Sterla]

Antheia: Thanks, re tummy time. He doesn't hate it at least .

Moose: It does sound confusing. It sounds like relfux (from my limited understanding of it). It doesn't sound like she's sick, cause she's such a happy, healthy baby... confusing, yes!