This thread is for parents who's baby was born January 1st-15th 2010 #1
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Just thought i would drop in and see if there was anyone in this thread yet which i can see there isnt =(
I have moved across from the December thread as i was due on the 27/12 and i am still sitting here waiting so i thought i would just come and say hi to anyone else who is still hanging in there in this awful heat.
I've been waiting for some other mummas! DD was born 1/1/10 at 1:31. We came home on Monday afternoon, so far all is going well. Can't wait to hear about more bubbas born in the next week or so.
Bubba finally came after a 36 hour induction/labour. She came at 8.02pm on the 07/01 weighing 6 pound 14. Not bad considering she was 12 days overdue.
All is well so far after a few hiccups at the start meaning she had to spend her first day in the special care nursery. Came home this afternoon.
Have been breastfeeding, It is so hard! She is feeding fine but i am producing so much that i am in agony and i even have milk under my armpits that dribbles out. Weird but apparently normal.
Cant wait to meet others that have had their babies in these dates.
Heya Kallee...congratulations on the arrival of your little girl!
Yep breastfeeding is hard to get the hang of at first, but it gets better! Your milk will settle down too over the next few weeks. But I know what you mean! I have one side that dribbles while she is feeding on the other side!
We are going well. Have our first 10 day check with the child health nurse tomorrow. I'm a bit nervous to find out how much weight she has gained. My DS had problems putting on weight in the first three months. I'm hoping we don't have the same issues this time!
Oh I second the baby blues for the same reasons as Party...I feel so guilty for not being able to put as much attention on DS. In some ways I feel like I'm cheating him.
Welcome Daytona's Mummy and congrats on your lil girl... will add your details to the first page.
Were you given a choice with Daytona being breach, the hospital here doesn't give you a choice if bubs is breach your a c/s no matter what (Lucky A didn't wait for me to get to hosp), so please don't feel bad about the decision.. you do what you think is right at the time for both yourself and your gorgeous girl and she's here and healthy so thats what counts right?
Sorry to hear she was being so sick on the breast, its not easy to stop BFing is it?
How is everyone else?
We are doing well, had planned a walk yesterday but mother nature turned on us so we went to the play centre with one of the girls from MG. Z slept most of the time while A had a good old play, it was nice to be out and about.
She has been a bit unsettled this morning but has FINALLY gone down for a sleep longer than an hour, i think she had wind.. how is everyone finding that colic relief, i might have to give it a go.
So far i am finding i get enough time with A or i include her in playing with Zara, she often sits with us while i feed... still worried she is going to try for a chomp on it
They were playing together yesterday and Ava tried to give Z her dummy and wasn't taking NO for an answer... atleast she's sharing with her i guess... lol
[QUOTE=~ Zarava Flutterby ~;2169322]Welcome Daytona's Mummy and congrats on your lil girl... will add your details to the first page.
Were you given a choice with Daytona being breach, the hospital here doesn't give you a choice if bubs is breach your a c/s no matter what (Lucky A didn't wait for me to get to hosp), so please don't feel bad about the decision.. you do what you think is right at the time for both yourself and your gorgeous girl and she's here and healthy so thats what counts right?
Sorry to hear she was being so sick on the breast, its not easy to stop BFing is it?
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I kind of had a choice.. My ob was really supportive if I wanted to try for a natural birth and even double checked I was sure it was what I wanted right before I went into theatre. My cardi on the other hand was dead against it, and used all the scare tactics. When my cardi left though, my ob said how about we try next time?
And no, it hasn't been easy to stop BFing!
Daytona's Mummy - it's great your OB was supportive of your choices but a shame about the scare tactics from the other Dr, you made the choice you thought the best at the time and thats what counts... it's gr8 your OB supports a vbac though.
I hated when i had to give up BFing with A.. big
Alicia/Daytona's Mummy - I'm sorry to hear you have the baby blues. A friend said to me to remember that around 3 weeks post baby (which is now for you and me others, as a quite a few of us have had our babies on 12 Jan), all the happy hormones have left the building, and the 'come-down' is really not that pleasant. It kinda makes sense, and I've been happy with thinking along these lines...this way, you can get a bit of distance between the situation and all the 'what if's', or potentially guilt ridden situations that arise. Keep talking to your DH/DP, it definitely helps. Yesterday, my DH and I went for lunch, and left Darcey with my Mum. We were only gone for 1.5 hours, it felt so strange to be away from her, and although throughout lunch we kept talking about her, it also felt amazingly good to talk to my DH about nothing (the weird hairstyle at the table next to us, gossip about some friends, his work commitments etc etc). I felt like a human being again, not the milk machine recovering from a c/s who rarely leaves the house. Anyway, just trying to help....
Oops, not going to have a chance to write any other personals again. Darcey is very, very upset today. We've had hardly any sleep again. She wouldn't sleep for more than 15 minutes at a go last night/today (from 5.30pm last night)...and the non-stop crying has been very testing. She's normally so calm, so patient, and sweet, that the emergence of her alter-ego, Grismerelda, has really knocked me for six. It started off as just very bad wind, and is now just over-tiredness.
Really have to go now, she's crying again. Sorry for the selfish post.....But you know how it is!!!
Thanks for the welcome, I've been meaning to come back for an update but we've had the worst couple of days, Austins having trouble settling at the moment, working himself into a total state of grumbles and screaming for hours. Eluned like your little one mine HATES his dummy and the screams get ten times worse if I try to give it to him, so like you it's straight to the boobie bar.
I've been giving him brauer colic relief every now and again which does seem to help, does everyone give their little ones the 4 doses 1/2 hourly? I've only been giving him one dose before his feed
Petal I know what you mean about the wind/over tiredness cycle, we have one of those at least once a day. I always seem to miss putting him down before he hits that point and then we tend to be up for hours. It can be so testing and then once he finally does go down and looks like such an angel asleep, I wonder what I was so stressed out about lol.
Zarava lol Austin's done some bath poo's aswell, actually I think Austins actually graced almost every surface in our house with some poo....hopefully he will grow out of this at some point
We've been getting out for walks each morning before it gets too hot. It's so nice to get out of the house and *fingers crossed* may even help move some baby weight
How's everyone else going??
Sorry I haven't had a chance to do personal's to everyone, I'm hoping to get down for a couple of zzz's before the little one wakes up again!
were doing ok here..well kind of Milly has been really good at night for the last two nights...sleeping between 6 and 7 hours straight but during the day she has been just awful wont sleep for longer than about 20minutes at a time Im not complaining because at least im getting sleep at night so im rested enough to deal with her but its just hard trying to amuse and play with DD1 when im trying to settle Milly all day.
Eluned+Milly isnt a fan of the car either but Im lucky because DS sits in the back behind her so he is getting good at dummy duty lol
harleysgirl+ that must have been scary about the bruise its good you got to see a doctor asap to put your mind at ease.
I cant belive how fast our babies are growing its almost scary.
Hope you are well. It's stinking hot here in Adelaide today. DH and I took Darcey to the movies this morning, it was a 10.30am session, and the only people we saw buying tickets, or in our session were mums with babies in prams, pregnant women or grandparents! So I didn't feel guilty if she cried. She only let out one little cry when she woke up, I fed her, and then she fell asleep in my DH's arms. Everyone was happy, including me. The movie, Invictus, by the way was great, but I think Morgan Freeman could read the back of a cereal packet and I'd be rapt. What a great actor.
Got a couple of questions, wondering if anyone is interested in comparing notes?
If you are bf'ing, at the moment, how long are you feeding for, on each boob? Also, on average, how much sleep in between feeds? How much time is your baby alert for?
With the exception of the last two days (and some of the problem day/nights), wer're generally on 3 hourly feeds. She will take one boob for approx 20 - 25 mins, and then I'll swap her over for another 15-20 mins on the other side. Total feed time is normally between 35 to 45 mins. Plus of course, 5 mins rest time in between. We then burp for a while....5 mins to 45 mins, depending. I then spend time settling her (especially at night), so she's getting maybe an hour to hour and half of sleep within a three hour session. We also have at least one session, where she is completely alert, awake, not interested in sleep at all. I'm OK with this, now that we've managed to move it from the 1am feed to any other time!
We've changed our routine the last week, so that Darcey is having a bath around 9pm at night (seems late I know, but its working), when she wakes up for the 9pm feed, we're bathing her, then feeding, burping, settling. This is working well, as the last few nights, she has slept from around 11pm through to 4.30am/5.00am. I'm finding that sleeping through this particular time period is very, very restful for me, and I'm less tired in the morning. Hopefully it will continue.
Does anyone have any successful tips for settling, or keeping days and nights in the right order?
Also, if anyone is bf'ing, have you been expressing and letting DH feed breast milk with bottle? My DH is very hands on, he bathes Darcey (I just hold the towel), takes her for burping when she is very upset. He even changed her clothes the other day, to a "prettier outfit". He really wants to feed her as well, he went and bought a manual breast pump at the chemist, and spoke to the chemist about expressing milk... for effort I haven't pulled it out of the box yet, I just keep thinking she is too young??? Also, I'mthinking that the way they suck on bottle is different to sucking on nipple, and we already have challenges with her sucking and pulling and chewing on nipple as it is. Ouch, ouch and more ouch. (And no, it's not an attachment problem, it's a sucking problem) Any thoughts?
Thanks, and hope it isn't as hot for you in your neck of the woods.
Petal
Eluned and Party of Five - I just LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the name Amelia and Milly.
Amilia has always been my "If I have a baby girl, I will call her..." name, which I would then shorten to Millie as a nickname. I just adore the names.
We were told that we would never, ever have children. Much heartache involved, more than I could ever express out loud. Soooooo, we bought a dog, and named her Millie. My Millie has been spoilt rotten, but she has been a godsend too, got me and DH through a terrible time.
And then the planets aligned, centuries of good karma were repaid to me, and we fell pregnant. Couldn't use the name Amilia as we had already given the name to the child substitute! What a delightful problem to have - coming up with a new favourite name for our child.
So anyway, I love your choice of names, couldn't have picked better! Oh, except for Darcey , my new favourite.
Petal, sounds like you've got a pretty good routine there. Our feeds are taking a similar amount of time although we are feeding roughly every 2ish hours. She has a big sleep (3 hours) in arvo most days and another big sleep from about 10pm to about 2am.
With expressing, I'd personally wait until at least 12 weeks to feed via bottle. They are still learning and your supply is still sorting itself out. So I'd just give it a bit of time to iron out the kinks and get established. There will be plenty of opportunities for your hubby to feed down the track especially when solids are started.
ETA... Thanks petal, we were really stuck for girls names but both of us just loved Amelia. Turns out it was also DH's great grandmothers name as well although we didn't know it at the time.
I have been keeping up with everyone's posts but not enough time to reply!! So hello to everyone and sorry that I'm not going to do personals, but seems to be a common theme here
We're getting at least 8 feeds a day, but not '3 hourly', I really feel blessed as the longer sleeps are at night time (touch wood!) where Henry will go at most 5 hours between feeds (usually one long 5 hour gap and then followed by a 3), by the time he wakes up and I wake up I realise that my BBs want to explode and pray that he will take both sides to deflate them a bit, cause they're so big he often doesn't though I let the other one drain a bit while feeding the other side so can go back to sleep. During the day he empties them fully by around lunchtime and in between I am massaging both to prevent another bout of mastitis. During the day he'll got 2-3.5 hours between feeds.
The time I take to feed varies...at night the feeds are very short...sometimes only 5-10 minutes of sucking (which sucks for my full BBs) and then I burp and try and try and try to get him to have more but don't suceed so have now resigned myself that he wants only a nighttime top up and I should go back to bed! During the day sometimes he'll have up to 30 minutes on one side but if he does that usually doesn't want the other. On average during the day he'll have a total of 20-30 minutes sucking on one but usually both sides...sometimes up to 45 minutes but then it's more a comfort for the last 15 minutes where he only starts sucking once I try to take him off
He never really cries except for most afternoons around 4.00 where he'll need to be cuddled lots but settles after about 15 minutes. I think I have it quite good?
He also has some stints of wide awake time too where he won't sleep at all between feeds (or sometimes between 3!) mostly in the morning - he has a bit of tummy time, lying in bed, cuddles with me and in the bouncy thing. I also noticed today that he's smiling more...I don't think it's wind anymore, he smiled everytime I wrapped him today and often does little smirks, very cute.
I have been meaning to collect what milk I let drain on one side and store rather than soaking a towel or nappy but haven't gotten around to it...a job for later this week I think.
I've been out and about today, I went to visit by work today so that was good and feeling very chuffed with myself for the big trip that we got home had a feed and then did a woolies shop in the Bjorn which was fun to wander around chatting away to him...was tired by this afternoon and did a wash not realising that somehow (???) a disposible nappy got caught up in the washing and went through the washer....you can't believe all the gel crap that came out of it....so awful. So that was cleaned up before my afternoon nap
Henry's 4 weeks today and talking to DH I feel better each week...I'm not worried about feeding anymore as he's gaining weight (360 grams in 8 days was last measurement!!) and now I'm just going to go with the flow.
I hope everyone is going well. Gosh I hope what I've written makes sense!!
Babies born~January 1st-15th 2010 #1
Im not complaining because at least im getting sleep at night so im rested enough to deal with her but its just hard trying to amuse and play with DD1 when im trying to settle Milly all day.
for effort
as we had already given the name to the child substitute! What a delightful problem to have - coming up with a new favourite name for our child. 
Hi All!
though I let the other one drain a bit while feeding the other side so can go back to sleep. During the day he empties them fully by around lunchtime and in between I am massaging both to prevent another bout of mastitis. During the day he'll got 2-3.5 hours between feeds.
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