Babies born~March 1st-15th 2010 #1

[Sunny Love]

Hello new mummies!
I'd like to introduce myself to this forum. I was originally due for April 1st 2010, but was induced earlier. My daugter was born on 12/3/2010 weighing 6lb6oz.
After a torturous 2 weeks of pain from after the birth it was time for bellybelly again.
Harper is a brilliant baby really. We always get6-9 ours of solid sleep EVERY nigt
I look forward to getting to know you all in this journey with me.
Love and Happy Easter everyone

[squidipa]

sorry to be brief but we did reach a mile stone just over 3 kilo now yay!

[queen bee]

Squidipa-Love the photo of bubs and congrats.

[Cass72]

Shell, I'm sure you and your DF were way more upset than Hannah..... Thank goodness babies are forgiving!

We had a shocker of a night. Robert wouldn't settle at all. We had a bit of busy day yesterday at the shops and it was very noisy and he was a bit stressed and didn't like being in the pram at all. I managed to get him to sleep at 515 this morning for an hour and a half after 20 minute naps throughout the night. I hear him grizzling, so I better go feed him.

Hope everyone has a lovely easter - Shell give you little one lots of extra kisses from her BB "auntie".

[Cass72]

sorry to be brief but we did reach a mile stone just over 3 kilo now yay!

That's wonderful news! Way to go Chakotay!

[thrilled82]

Hi All,

Hope your Easter breaks were lovely and chocolate filled!

We had a really trying Easter at our place. Beware, this is a long post.
It was our first visit to the inlaws and lets just say it ended in tears ... both mine and Willow's.

My inlaws mean well, but it rarely comes off well for them.
Willow is the first grandchild on that side of the family, they have been waiting quite a while so it's safe to say we are a litte OTT when it comes to the baby. They drive me up the wall most of the time the way they carry on around the baby and in my book I see my MIL as only ever wanting to be a "fare weather" Grandma ... she's around for cuddles and cradling, but once a dirty nappy or screaming fit rears it's ugly head she is out the door. Or worse, she starts asking questions like "I wonder what is wrong with the baby", "Do you think she's had enough to eat ... she needs another feed", "I wonder if you are producing enough milk", "I don't ever recall my babies screaming like this".
Anyway, it was safe to say I was pretty anxious about the thought of spending some time at their place on Easter Saturday and I am sure Willow picked up on this and played up.

She'd been unsettled most of the night previous, so we were pretty sleep deprived by the time we got to their place. Willow just wouldn't settle.
Of course Grandma came marching over and without even asking to hold the baby, she pulled her from my arms with the comment "I have 10 minutes for a cuddle before the gravy is ready". Nice one to start the day.

Then as lunch is served we put Willow in her pram as she'd managed to drop off, but we suspected it wouldn't be for long. DH and I agreed that he'd eat first, I'd nurse Willow when she stirred and then we'd switch. Grandma had other plans.
Once we were all settled at the table she waltzes in and takes the pram to where she is sitting and parks it right behind her seat (on the other side of the table where I could not get to it easily). I didn't like this arrangement at all, but figured while Willow was asleep it shouldn't be a problem as I could still see her.

Willow woke shortly after everyone sat down to lunch and of course started to scream.
DH and I are not fans of controlled crying, and it's crazy to think a baby this small could understand the principles of it anyway ... Grandma has other ideas.
She has asked us several times if we have 'just let her cry it out' - we have repeatedly said no, we are not believers in controlled crying.

Obviously Grandma is a fan of controlled cyring and thinks that when we visit her place, we should play by her rules. Once Willow makes it clear she is unhappy in the pram Grandma grabs the handle of the pram and starts to rock it saying "She's fine, leave her, she's fine". I was clearly getting distressed, my baby is screaming and we never leave her to scream at the moment, it was our first outting to their place, I didn't want to cause a scene but I didn't want my baby to cry and we were very sleep deprived.
After a few minutes I got up from the table and said "I'm not leaving my baby to scream". As soon as it was clear I was walking over to pick up my baby Grandma wisks her out of the pram and starts craddling her saying to me "She's fine, she's fine, she's fine". Willow was clearly not fine, she was screaming her head off.
I then stood next to Grandma waiting for her to hand her over to me ... she looks at me and says 'She's fine'.
I lost it.
Walked out of the room in tears.
My Sister-In-Law came after me and said "Tell her it's not OK, tell her to give you the baby". Poor DH then came after me and said the same thing.
Stupid, non-confrontational me didn't want to cause a scene (too late I suppose) and so I just sat in the loungeroom and cried.
MIL then came in and patrionisingly said "Oh dear are you hormonal. I am worried about you, you know".
It took all my efforts not to rip her head off (I mean this literally and figuratively )
The day went downhill from there.

I am so upset and angry at my MIL for what she did.
I do not want to go back to their place.
I feel for my poor DH as he really is caught in the middle, it is hard when your wife doesn't get along with your mother. He has told me not to worry, we will work it out, she's our baby and they have to abide by our rules.

I am so angry at myself for not sticking up for myself and just telling my MIL that what she was doing was wrong. You don't separate a 3 week old baby from her mother.
Just as much as Willow is only 3 weeks old, I am only a 3 week old Mum too!

Am I being too OTT?

[Cass72]

Oh you poor thing Thrilled. Isn't it just horrible how someone can pressure us to go against something we believe in. I've been guilty of doing this too - it's so easy to do with such "controlling" people like your MIL. Don't beat yourself up about it, what's done is done. At least you know that you have the support of your husband and obviously your SIL understands too. I don't think you are being OTT. I don't know how you can manage it, but maybe get your husband to tell her that no one touches the baby without first asking mum or dad's permission and, NO ONE keeps mum away from bubs. I couldn't care less whether she was 3 weeks or 3 years, she's your daughter and that shouldn't happen.

[CinderToriella]

OMG Thrilled i was just telling DF about your post

I dont have the best time with my mother in Law either ..If that had of been me i would in your positiion i would have been a wreck i am not good with standing up for myself like that and with in laws its so hard, i had a bad enough time with my family over this weekend and trying to get them to understand how i felt about things when it came to my Hannah.
ld have cried as well if it had of been me at your in laws place, i cant believe your MIL , ppl like that i just dont understand, she is your baby and needs her mum and u need her, she had NO right to not let u have her, i dont believe in controlled crying either and it would have killed me to see that and not to be able to pick up my daughter straight away, i just cant get over it.

I really really feel for u and i am so so glad that your DH and SIL agreed with u as it is so so hard when u dont agree on things like this or stick together at times like this especially when its family involed like In laws ext its so so hard

Hang in there babe and stick with wat u believe in its your BABY

I wou

[roxxie]

OMG thrilled that is so awful she had absolutely no right to do that.

My mum told me that my Nanna (her MIL) did that to her once, took me away from mum and wouldn't give me back, with both mum and I crying. As a baby apparently I never let her hold me again without screaming, and have never had a close relationship with her. Willow may be the same, she'll learn that she doesn't want to be around your MIL and there won't be a lot she can do to change that.

I hope you both have recovered from the stress of it all xxx

[Cass72]

My poor little man has caught my cold.

His nose is so snuffly and every now and then he coughs. He's bright eyed enough (and chatting to Grandma at the moment on the couch) and has had loads of wet and pooey nappies so that's good. He just isn't so good at lying down flat - everytime I put him back into bed he's okay for a bit then he coughs and wakes himself up - must be yucky stuff running down his throat. I've been laying on the lounge with him on my chest so he gets some sleep - I do to that way.

I think we have to just ride it out. If only he could blow his nose......

[CinderToriella]

Hey cass have u tired one of those little kits u can buy for babies-it comes witha saline spray which u spray then u use a little thing that sucks stuff out lol

i use it for Hannah when she has a stuffy nose

[Cass72]

Thanks Shell, I think I'll go down to the chemist this morning and get one. Don't babies do the cutest little sneezes?

[CinderToriella]

oh they do i love the build up when u watch them and they get ready for the sneeze aawwwwww

[Feijoa Mum]

Cass Peppar has a cold too. Its awful isnt it? She has a horrible little cough too that I got all parnoid about. Me thinking the worst, googled Whooping cough! Why did I do that???
It clearing up now but she gets all stuffed up and gets frustrated when she is feeding. Its so cute though to see her getting ****ty about it.
Well touch wood but im thinkng we may have this baby thing down pact. She has pretty much set herself on four hourly and occasionally some longer stints over night.
One day is a more awake and a bit unsettled day then the next she is an angel and sleeps all day. And lots of lovely smiles
She is such a time waster and I love just talking to her and having her respond back to me. Her little coos are so cute and she smiles with her whole face, it cracks me up everytime.

Thrilled dont let MIL get to you. Im sure she didnt mean to upset you but shes a MIL thats their job
Seriously though she is your baby and you are the one that knows her best so thicken the skin love and tell her whats what!
She will probably get her knickers in knot with you but oh well, not your problem! She is the Grandmother you are the Mother.
I had the same kinda issues with mine with my first son and like you I didnt wanna rock the boat. But then I felt anxious around her and felt that she was always judging me.
So one day I lost the plot at her and told her politely back off. It went down like a cup of cold sick and she didnt talk to me for a while but eventually we came right and she kept her 5c to herself after that. Not all the time of course but it was much better.
Good luck and its great the DH supports you.

I am baking today as I confiscated chocolate off my children so I had better turn it into something or they are going to want it back.
They got so many eggs its not funny. Even Peppar got spoilt and my backside does not need the eggs on her behalf!

[CinderToriella]

Cass its called fess little noses, its just saline and a little dropper to help get the naughtys out but it works.

Girls also, i just got some infacol to have here for bad bad nights ,it says the ingredient is
Simethicone which is the ingrediant in the adult wind tablet Degas, whic you can buy from your supermarket , i use it after every meal as i get really bad bloated tummy and wind and stuff it works soooo well for me i dont have any problems anymore, its safe during pregnancy breastfeeding and they even give it to dogs lol ..so i am guessing its safe for Hannah .

Just thought i would let u all know if you are having bad wind with your bubs

PS Feijoa lucky u with the feeds , we are still at every 2 hours Hannah is a short feeder who falls asleep there fore needs more feeds sigh we will get there

[Breesa]

Ive been busy with family over easter and you ladies have racked up almost three more pages – oh my!!

Feijoa – Im planning a shop tomorrow for the same reason (decent tops to feed in that aren’t daggy!) and mum is coming along to assist with bubs. Should be fun.
I was also going to get some new bras (only have 2 at the moment which are a bit small, and with milk leakage they don’t always last a fully day). Any ideas how long my boobs will stay this size? They are still a bit bigger than during my pregnancy, but I don’t want to buy new bras and then in 2 wks my boobs start shrinking again and it’s a real waste… experienced mums please advise!

Roxxie – sorry to hear you are having a tough time – hope its all passed by now 
M2W – Im also struggling with the boy being demanding during the day. He wont sleep unless im holding him (or laying on me) and is barely sleeping from 6am – midday so my mornings are pretty much a write off. Gosh I hope this pattern changes at 6wks!

Thrilled – ive just ordered myself a breast pump so hopefully that will speed up the expressing process will let you know!
Just read your Easter post – OMG that is horrendous and you have everyright to be upset. My MIL is testing me a lot to (she did controlled crying and was to lazy to breastfeed) but nothing this bad. If I was you I would have demanded she hand over YOUR baby (probably while crying). Do what you need to assert yourself, and maybe DH needs to chat to his mum and layout some ground rules???

Cass – Im still feeding in bed but just grab an extra pillow, half sit up/ lay back and feed away. That way I can still rest and be a bit sleepy and just lay bubs back down again after he finishes. I just find that once a night a need to get-up and walk him to sleep, but the rest of the time he just dozes right back to the land of nod for a few more hours.

Jandals – hows the boob change-over going? Sometimes the little man falls asleep before getting to the second side (annoying for me as he then wants to feed again in under an hour) so its not perfect.

Shell – that must have been scary. I gave Ciaran a tiny bruise on his arm taking his seat belt off, and felt bad for 2 days looking at that, so can imagine how you feel.


Other news:
I haven’t had Ciaran weighed for 2 weeks – is that bad? He is clearly putting on a lot of weight (getting chubby!) so no concerns about milk supply here thankfully.
My dad, brother and sister in law have just gone home after being here since the Thursday before Easter. It was sooo lovely to have them all here (they live interstate) and what a blessing having people to pass the baby to when in need a break! DH is still off work for another week, but still sometime we are both wanting to do things and only one can due to bubs wanting attention/grumbling so with others here it was SO EASY to pass him over for cuddles and was the easiest 5 days ive had in ages…. Now they are gone im sad and scared.

The other good news is I have been brave and ventured out in the last week for dinner (at a restaurant) twice, and most days with the sling/pram for a walk and social time with the family.
My earlier fears about taking bubs out at night have passed, so it’s a relief to have done it a few times and had good results (he slept most of the time!)

PS – No Easter Eggs in our house this weekend, Easter seemed a non-event with all of our focus on family and baby!

[Mum2Willie]

HI girls - been a long time since I have been on - as we have had a sick household.

Toddler was sick early last week and had him at DR (had dry cough for a couple of weeks but turned chesty). Then Sophie got sick. Massive temps - screamed and screamed and screamed!! Stopped feeding. Dry nappies. Hence, off to hosptial. Starting projectile vomitting feeds after panadol. So had to give her small feeds every 30-60mins. Three days of absolute hysteria...and 2 all nighters and a night with 1 hour sleep!!!. DH and I sick too - so a very chaotic cranky household.

Last night, Sophie still slept on me all night. She now has a cough and sore throat - temps gone. She is sleeping in her cot right now!! Out of my arms for the first time for one week!!!!!

Last few nights (after temp gone) she has screamed from 7-11pm. I think it is a mix of wind and feeling sick. Crying a lot in the day too...poor bub...where is my relaxed baby
?????

We were meant to have people here on Good Friday, Saturday and Sunday - we had some mini events as people over from Spain and up from Sydney - somehow ploughed through!

Can't wait for some normality!!! Sophie was so sick - poor thing!!!

Shell - Water never worked for my son's wind - but anything is worth a go! We are still feeding every two hours here!!! Well last night - after a panadol hit and not sleeping for hours prior - Sophie fell asleep for 4 hours in bed with me...but otherwise it has been between 2 and 3 hours!

Beata - Good info re Infacol from paed.

Cass - I fed my son every two hours in the day - filled him up - and he slept through at 8 weeks...hoping Sophie might do the same! Hope bubs cold is better.

Feijo - Hope your bub's cold is better 2. The Fess worked with my toddler.

Thrilled - With you hubby's backing, put MIL in her place next time!!! Investment for years to come!!!! Feel for you! Oh and Happy Birthday.

Roxie - Tough time!!! Hope formula works for you.

Miamunchkin. Thanx. My son did a poo every 7-10 days when he was little..and boy was he cranky the day or two before that came!!!!

QB - Very stressful - feel for you.

Bree- Not bad re weighing - Soph only weighed at 1 and 4 weeks...you can see if she is putting on weight!! U r feeding like me in bed.

Squid - Yeah for cracking the 3 kg mark!!!!

[Cass72]

We had a weigh-in today - 4.61kg now. Sorry short post & no personals, off to put my feet up and watch a dvd and feed bubs....hoping we both fall asleep for an hour or two!!