Nelly, I do dreamfeeds at 10.30-11ish, depending on when dh comes to bed (I try to get to bed by 10 so that I'm really sleepy when it's time to feed Tom and then I'm well asleep by 11). That buys me sleep until between 2 and 4ish and means I'm only up once before 5 or 6am. If I didn't do the dreamfeed, he'd be awake at midnight, and then I'd be up again anyway at some point.

She rejected a dummy (several times) so he has decided that he needs one - have told him it's ok if he wants to ba baby but I'll need to pack away his big boy toys like his train bcos they aren't safe for babie to play with. Hmmmm so far so good
Nelly, I love a good old fashioned choice and consequence. Hope it goes well fo ryou!!

Dee it sounds like you've done a great job getting Ethan to settle himself - I'm going to have to take a leaf out of your book, I think. Mind you, a few times this week Tom has been great about settling himself (he went through a period of doing it and then stopped) so I'm determined now to put him to bed with his eyes a little bit open, and see how we go. His sleepy signs are getting very obvious, and his daytime routine is really, really good now. He sleeps in my bed or the pram during the day, his bassinette at night. He's still completely swaddled for sleep, although he did fall asleep the other night after he wormed his arms out.

Tom made me cry today (in a good way). We were coming home from going shopping and he was getting whingey. When I got him out of the car, I notice that he had poo-ed. It was also three and a half hours since his last feed which is a LONG time for him. I had to put him down though when I got in so I could go to the loo as I was busting and I heard him crying in my room. When I got in there, although he was uncomfortable and hungry, as soon as he saw me he stopped crying and started smiling and I realised that was because he trusted me so much, he knew that when I was there, I would do what needed doing and he didn't have to cry any more. That really struck my heart and made me tear up What a precious gift these little people are.