Thank Rayray - I'll look in to the thread. And he most certainly was given a choice. He's desperate to go. He knows that he's going to miss out on a lot in Emma's life, but for him this is what he trains for, and all his mates are already over there. And I can sort of understand that. And I would never force him not to go because then it would always be "my fault" he didn't go. I know that sounds silly. I'm trying to decide whether to still go to Melb - the whole point of the trip is so Emma can meet his Nannas (they're getting quite old and I don't want them to pass on before we get a chance to go) but his Mum is working the whole week, and his Dad works all weird hours from home, so I don't know what I'd do all day by myself with Emma. Plus, I'm TERRIFIED of driving in Melbourne, but even more terrified of being stuck at my in-laws house with no car. lol.