DM sorry you had a difficult time over xmas but glad the wine helped! Sounds like it will be tough for you at this time every year but it will get easier as time goes by.
Rach75 hope you and the boys are feeling better, sucks that even when we are sick we have to soldier on and never get any rest. Take care of yourself and your boys and don't feel bad about the panadol I'm sure Luke was very grateful, I would have done the same.
DM I'm about the same as you with the bleeding. Seems I haven't really stopped since Leila was born! I bled for over 6 weeks post birth, only really spotting at the end but it was still there. Actually I went for my 6 week check up and dr wanted to do a pap smear and I thought I'd finished bleeding but apparently not... poor dr discovered a fair bit still up there when she tried to do the test It seemed to stop for a few days, then bang AF arrived Let me tell you, I'm rather sick of bleeding!
I'm in NSW by the way, near Rach2281 My family is all in Melbourne though.
So I was being nice and trying to stay positive the other day when I said it was nice having all of DH family here... still got 6 extras here and I want my house back!!!! Leila is difficult every night because she is so over stimulated during the day and it seems like everybody just loves her during the day and wants to cuddle her and play with her then I'm left to deal with her unsettledness over night. I'm not sleeping enough and I'm over having my personal space invaded. I'm trying not to be selfish but I really just want this time to relax with DH and our little girl and not worry about other people or get annoyed with them because they are making too much noise or whatever. Plus everyone seems to go out and have fun without me and it is very frustrating. I had to pull DH up the other day and say "do you think perhaps tomorrow that I could have some fun too instead of sitting at home cleaning up after you lot!" They just race off here there and everywhere without even thinking that I might like to get out and do stuff, they don't even ask and usually go just as I've put Leila down to sleep. It's weird, like they think I must enjoy being stuck at home cleaning up while they go out and have fun We all went to the movies yesterday though which was good, still at first they assumed that I wouldn't want to go because I have a baby... grrr! It's not all bad though, mostly they are pitching in and we are sharing the cooking duties so I haven't had to do too much cooking or anything. I just want my house back that's all.
I'm exhausted after that rant! Hi to everyone, hope you are all coping well during this silly season
Fi, you have done so well having all those people stay in your house for this long, as bad as it sounds i kinda get sick of DH when he's home for more than a fe3w weeks, i guess its coz im used to him not being her ALL the time, and when he gets time off he;s home 24\7 and it drives me batty, we all get into our little routine that works for us iguess.
afm, i havent given Miss A any formula (not even any top ups) in 2 days.. and both mornings (this morning and yesterday morning) she woke up at 2am BOTH days.. so im not sure if the formula has anything to do with it and if it does i might reconsider putting her back on it. ALSO the last 2 days been feeding her lots, all short feeds, like i was told to do (10-15mins max) and would have to do it both sides each feed, she was feeding almost every hour (this happened for 2 days *sigh* ) yesterday she was really grizzly and a little unsettled (nothing ajor just not herself) then i put her to bed at like 7.30pm 2 abd a bit hours later i expressed before i went to bed (trying to stimulate supply more than anything) and only got 25 freaking mls THATS IT!!!! i nearly cried no wonder my baby was sooky she was eating and getting nothing then when she woke at 2am i fed her both sides and she looking for more so i gave her the 25mls id expressed and she went to sleep after AGES... im just so torn. i text DH saying
{quote} "After 2 and a half hours of not feeding heri expressed and all i got was 25mls put of both sides.. no wonder she was sooky all day.. she was feeding like every hour. what am i supposed to do? have to keep bfing to bost my supply (which isnt happening)and if i give her a bottle it cuts into my failed attempts to boost my supply help me jon, should we do?im trying so hard, i need your help..."
and what was his reply? NOTHING!! i am soo.. urgh.. i dont even know what the word is, its like i need someone to tell me what to do "Stevie.. your doing it this way.. and thats whats happening.." but i get no support from him at all when it comes to this.
he doesnt want her FF but she just isnt getting enough from me... i feel like a yoyo going back and forth.. making a decision then changing my mind a million times its doing my freakin head in...
ok vent over LOL
Hope everyone else is having a better day
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oh sweetie I dont know what to say , but is she having plenty of wet nappies, etc her cluster feeding can actually be a growth spurt time also the more she feeds to begin with the more you will produce IYKWIM!!!
can babies have growth spurts at anytime? i guess thats a silly question. lol
He wants the absolute best for her so he wants her breast fed, he doesnt mind if i supplement and use both but he wants me to bf for as long as i can (i will be going back to work in april/may so ill most likely have to stop then )
yeah theres a bog group of growth spurts I think Luke is going thru one ATM, oh ok re FF I hope it gets easier dont push yourself to much drink plenty and eat heaps of good stuff just relax feed her when she wants the house wont fall down if you spend all day feeding and cuddling
as for wet nappies if she is havign at least 6-8 good ones then she is getting enough to drink ...
Ok.... 4 people down and 2 to go! Then they are all coming back for a few days At least we will get a break for a few days which will be nice as I'm utterly exhausted.
Stevie, sounds like the BF is getting back on track A lot of people FF at night for that very reason - they usually sleep longer as it is heavier than breast milk. Miss A is probably feeding lots at the moment to increase your supply and once it has increased she will probably slow down. Also, she probably is going through a growth spurt and is just more hungry at the moment. You're doing really well! As for going back to work, are you going back FT? Returning to work doesn't have to mean the end of BF. Unfortunately I'm returning to work in Feb only part time though, and I still intend on BF. I will just have to express for those days I am at work. Your workplace has to be supportive of BF mothers and allow you the right to express at work if that is what you want to do. Sorry, I'm certainly not telling you what to do, just letting you know that returning to work doesn't have to mean giving up BF if it is something you still want to do.
Finding suitable sleeping arrangements for Leila with a house full of people was hard work! At first we had Leila in the portable cot in our room (people were sleeping in the nursery) but we found that was really hard. The cot was given to us and unfortunately it was missing a few bits so we couldn't raise it meaning she was down really low and it was very hard on my back getting her in & out and trying to settle /restettle her. So then i decided to get the cot mattress and just put it on the floor.... great idea except my baby is actually a caterpillar!!!! Twice she managed to wriggle her way off the mattress and onto the floor - fully swaddled mind you! Cant' leave that girl alone for a second and she's only 2 months old!
Time to go and encourage the last 2 guests to make a move on out of here!!
Stevie- The bfing sounds like its coming along nicly. I have always wondered if feeding half and half would somewhat confuse bubs or damage the mums supply. But it sounds like you are doing a great job and Ali is thriving
Dont read into to many things that other bubs are doing that Miss A may not be doing yet as every baby is different and they truly do things at their own pace My babies sleep on their back, but get 'tummy time' at through the day.
Tammie- Stick with us woman!
My nye was ok just hang out at home and went to bed at 12:30am haha. Not much to report here. Lucy is growing beautifully and smiling sooooo much Her baby speech is adorable and her sleeping is great, at night
Well Im off to my meme's today (grandmothers) so Ill bbl.
Has everybody got everybodies fb?
well we mad eit to 10.45pm on new years eve slack as we are...
little bit of a me post, Luke has finally settled down with his feeds he is having about 5-6 feeds a say between 120 - 180 ml generally 3 x 180ml and the others are anywhere in between, we add 1/2 scoop of thickener and infants friends to every feed so he is really settled he is starting to sleep well again still wakign for a feed over night but is now settling back down within 20-30min of waking and last ngiht he slept in the big cot over night for the first time, so its time to pack up the bassinette I am so sad as he is my last baby but I am not ready to sell the bassinette thinking of leaving it set up with stuffed toys in it though
Tammie, great to see you again! Hope you and little Eli are doing well.
Good on you to everyone who made it to midnight!! I sort of did but not by choice... our guests finally left NYE and we were absolutely exhausted, had planned to stay up or even go and watch the fireworks but we couldn't get off the couch I think i went to bed at about 10 but then some silly person started playing with fireworks in the estate where we live at around midnight and the dog next door went crazy and spent over an hour trying to climb the fence (owners were out) so that woke me up and kept me up for a while
Rach, glad Luck is settled and sleeping well. He does well to drink 180mls at a time - what a little champion! I don't know how I will feel when I have my last baby but I imagine it would be hard to let go of everything, maybe you should leave the basinette filled with toys for a while and then when you are ready you can put it away?
AFM well ladies it is a very difficult day for me.... my little girl is having her first day at child care I'm going back to work part time at the start of Feb but due to the nature of child care and limited places etc there was a vacancy now which I had to take in order to have her there from Feb. I'm looking at it as a way to gently ease us both into it. Because I'm not actually at work yet she doesn't have to stay in there all day so I'll just leave her there for about 3 hours today and see how she goes. if she has a sleep and takes the bottle happily enough then I will feel more comfortable about it. BUT she is just so tiny! She's only 9 weeks old and I feel like such a terrible mother - I don't want to dump her in child care - I want to look after her myself, she is my baby!!! Unfortunately though, due to financial reasons I have to return to work. I'm so sad and angry and frustrated at my situation
sorry you had a difficult time over xmas but glad the wine helped! Sounds like it will be tough for you at this time every year but it will get easier as time goes by.
It seemed to stop for a few days, then bang AF arrived
Let me tell you, I'm rather sick of bleeding!
My family is all in Melbourne though.
We all went to the movies yesterday though which was good, still at first they assumed that I wouldn't want to go because I have a baby... grrr! It's not all bad though, mostly they are pitching in and we are sharing the cooking duties so I haven't had to do too much cooking or anything. I just want my house back that's all.
then when she woke at 2am i fed her both sides and she looking for more so i gave her the 25mls id expressed and she went to sleep after AGES... im just so torn. i text DH saying 
At least we will get a break for a few days which will be nice as I'm utterly exhausted.
A lot of people FF at night for that very reason - they usually sleep longer as it is heavier than breast milk. Miss A is probably feeding lots at the moment to increase your supply and once it has increased she will probably slow down. Also, she probably is going through a growth spurt and is just more hungry at the moment. You're doing really well! As for going back to work, are you going back FT? Returning to work doesn't have to mean the end of BF. Unfortunately I'm returning to work in Feb 
only part time though, and I still intend on BF. I will just have to express for those days I am at work. Your workplace has to be supportive of BF mothers and allow you the right to express at work if that is what you want to do. Sorry, I'm certainly not telling you what to do, just letting you know that returning to work doesn't have to mean giving up BF if it is something you still want to do.
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I'm going back to work part time at the start of Feb but due to the nature of child care and limited places etc there was a vacancy now which I had to take in order to have her there from Feb. I'm looking at it as a way to gently ease us both into it. Because I'm not actually at work yet she doesn't have to stay in there all day so I'll just leave her there for about 3 hours today and see how she goes. if she has a sleep and takes the bottle happily enough then I will feel more comfortable about it. BUT she is just so tiny! She's only 9 weeks old and I feel like such a terrible mother - I don't want to dump her in child care - I want to look after her myself, she is my baby!!! Unfortunately though, due to financial reasons I have to return to work. I'm so sad and angry and frustrated at my situation 
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