Sangie - well its reassuring to know i'm not the only one - i'm just resigning myself to the fact its a stage and he is generally happy so roll with it - amazing how much better i feel about it now i've decided that! I tried to leave Tadhg unwrapped for a couple of sleeps yesterday and it took him ages to fall asleep cos his hands are much too interesting to look at. Eventually he slept both times, but not for long so I am back to wrapping.

Taurean - i loved reading your schedule / plan for the day. It made me realise i'm probably expecting too much from T, as i was just putting him in his cot after a quick cuddle and leaving him to fall asleep. So i've decided to spend a bit more time settling and stay near his room for the first 10 minutes to make sure he falls asleep. I'm also just leaving him with his dummy - it works for him, so why bother replacing it with some other type of soothing. Ahh big breath out, relax. Ironically the first time he went down after reading your post and making this decision he slept for 3 hours and i had to wake him for a feed! We do the same thing with bedtime - its always about 7:30 so i make sure his last feed is about 6:30 and therefore the one before that between 3 and 4. Loving your thoughts on CIO - agreed and feel relieved i'm not the only one who feels wrong about it, as most people i talk to seem to think its the only way - "tough love". We are still getting all nighters and wake up to T talking to himself about 6 - 6:30am. Tadhg is about the same weight at Izzy (we got weighed 2 weeks ago at 13 weeks and he was 4.75) and 8cm in length since birth (from 49cm) and my plunket nurse said he's doing fine, healthy and happy - so don't feel like you need to squeeze extra feeds in - if she is hungry she'll let you know. Personally I think you'll just make her tired by feeding all the time, and you could risk her becoming a snacker and not taking full feeds - just an opinion Also I never replaced my Motilium prescription and I can now keep up with Tadhg, so you never know - now that your body knows how much to make you may be ok? But that being said - its certainly hard slog, especially in your case and you've done awesomely to feed Izzy so long.

Sanchez - I wonder if the clingy / only wanting Mummy thing is a stage, a few people have said to me its too early for the clingy stage, but its definitely real - even if it is just that i know T the best and how to soothe him. Not sure if there is anything we can do to improve it...? Because I would like to know he's going to be settled when i leave him with other people, especially our friend next week - as he's only been with grandparents so far if he's not with Mum or Dad. We have a xmas party - yay - freedom ;-) Unfortunately T can't suck his thumb well enough yet to soothe himself, he watches his hands and sucks and chews his thumb but can't keep it in there - so i think i'll stick with wrapping him for sleeps or its all just too exciting for him! Wow I can't believe how little V sleeps! Have you thought about sleep clinic to see if they can offer any advice or relaxing her during the day to nap? You could try a middle of the day bath to tire her out? Personally I don't do much more than you've listed - watching a cot mobile (we have an electronic one that turns around and plays music), bouncy chair with toys attached, laying in the sunshine looking out the window at the trees (our sunshine isnt so hot in NZ!), kicking on the playmat, tummy time, T is pretty happy to spend 10-15 minutes by himself while i fold the washing, or do dishes / baking etc, he is also pretty good at laying in his cot sucking a dummy for a while. I have a friend who had a similar issue with her wee man and found it was more a matter of getting him into a bit of a routine (not schedule just routine) and learning early tired signs and settling skills. Goodluck - thats hard work, V is lucky to have such a dedicated Mum! also - there is a great website called thesleepstore .com.au which has good articles as well as products

BoB - i'd say T doesn't look anywhere near rolling yet, but I just got a developmental email saying '15 weeks - your baby might roll this week' so I guess i should be expecting it soon! Since 12 weeks I havent left him on his change table alone just in case - its quite exciting to think he might be able to move soon!

Art - I'm continually amazed with Amelia's physical abilities, is she sitting up by herself now (in your facebook photo) !? Amazing stuff.

PB - nice to see you are still around - bummer about losing the post!
Pooley - hope your week has improved and F is treating you well x

We are doing 5 feeds a day now, approx every 3 hours from 6:30am until 6:30pm. What is everyone else doing? ohh and we moved to Infant sized nappies this week! They are massive 'big boy' nappies
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