yeah i know what you mean. i guess her only qualification is that she's been teaching that age group for 17ys so has seen a lot of kids and behaviours iykwim? i was probably a bit too brief before. she was saying something along the lines of 'he's the kind of kid where you'll find that once he gets to school you're going to be called up all the time and they're going to want to try to diagnose him with add or something' more than actually saying that she thought he had it iykwim? she was very lovely about it and i think she was coming from a good place because she could see i was struggling and needed some support. he is very hard to manage and refuses to co-operate and follow instruction. i have always thought that this was just a personality type as dh is the kind of person that you cannot tell what to do and always kind of 'runs his own race' iykwim?