PS Ginger if that's the case I hope your new kitty cat is a girl...(she is, isn't she)?? LOL
PPS Cass you will have to start reminding L...cue him in on Fri when there is still 'organising' time. I often say to DH on the payday preceding whatever event, How much money do i need to allot you out of the budget given that x falls within the fortnight (*pointed silence*)?? Subtlety ain't worth squat.
Last edited by AnyDream; April 27th, 2010 at 05:00 PM.
Well G, they don't have a "Devil Incarnate's Day" so what does he do each year? DH says the same thing to me too LOL.
MP, it is nice to just have that one on one time with the younger ones. We've done it on occasion when the older ones had a sleepover at the IL's and A was too little to go.
We had a quick overnight trip to SIL's place on Saturday then came home sunday. She is 20wks pg with their first and still has a completely flat stomach! I said are you sure you're having a baby? LOL. She is due sept 14 like I was with A, so it will be interesting to see how far apart or close together they end up.
yes md cat is a girl and she's gorgeous L is absolutely besotted with her and carries her around all day. luckily she seems very tolerant and dh even reckons she likes it, i'm not so sure! her name is indigo as she is a blue colour
anyway, like i said, sorry i've been a bit MIA, i often read but just can't reply anything whilst the kids are around.
i have a strange question to ask- to those of you who are carrying around a little more weight than you were before the bubs came along. i'm about 10-15kgs heavier than my pre-bub days, and mostly i'm ok with it in my everyday life. i've accepted the new me and love what my body has produced and fed over the last few years.but......i seem to get really self-concious about it when meeting up with old friends/workmates etc. that knew me before iykwim? like i'm not fussed about all the people i have met through or since having the kids because i feel like they've only ever known me as a size 14..but for some reason i get really embarassed about it when i have to see people who knew me when i was a size 10..or (gasp) even a size 8 in my uni (not eating, chain smoking) days. does anyone else feel like this? do you think i am crazy? sorry for silly question, it's just that i have a couple of social events coming up and it's been weighing on my mind.
Ginger - Ferals here in our house too! And I'm also outnumbered by males Chances are if you've gained 10-15kg after having kids, then so have they, so I wouldn't worry too much. Get yourself a great outfit for the event/s and make the most of your assets. I'd rather be a bit overweight and happy, than thin and miserable After saying that I sound like a total hypocrite because I'm doing the 12 week challenge (my excuse is I want to be fit and healthy before TTC #3).
LP - Oh dear, that is demanding! Sounds like you see the funny side though.
MD - Mother's Day Classic? Is that a fun run or bike race? Wow, you're amazing! Quilting sounds like a great idea, something grown up that doesn't involve kids.
MP - Hope N loves swimming when you start him. Great idea about the sleepover at your Mum's, I should do that with C. DH organised a photo shoot for the boys, but forgot all about Mother's Day until the photographer asked if the 'photos' were a Mother's Day gift. So now it is, but I don't mind because I was going to suggest it.
Trill - Good to see you posting! Hope your Mum's doing OK and that your Uni workload isn't too much.
Arte - I love the daggy dancing tip! Hope your trip goes well. DH would have a fit if I let C help in the kitchen. He's terrified that C will get burnt.
Noni - That's great W is doing better with solids. We're also racking our brains trying to come up with inside activities.
Cally - Mmmm milkshakes! I love the little voice from the backseat Mine waits until I floor it at the lights and then says 'Go Mum! You can do it!'
Cass - Glad you manged to get to Ballarat! My DH just sorts himself out and leaves me to do everything else (including packing his bag!) I'm amazed we ever manage to get anywhere.
We had a photoshoot with a photographer today. R is 5 months old today and was the perfect angel. C had a temp last night but perked up today, so I risked doing the shoot anyway. He was good, but was a little 'flat' compared to his usual self. Whatever he had I think I'm getting. Feels like the 'flu.
12 week challenge is going OK. I've lost 900g and 2cm.
Well done on the weight loss Suz! I really need to get some proper photos done of our kids too but just haven't had the time or the money. The one time I did have something organised, Alister fell and had a big bruise on his forehead, so I had to cancel
G, I get what you mean. I am 30kg above what I was when I fell pg with L, and over the years I have never quite lost all the weight I've put on with each pg, but then I never really tried either. Ideally I would love to lose just 20 of that. I don't care what people think of me, but at the same time I don't want people to think 'gee she really let herself go didn't she?" or I don't want people to think that DH is married to a fatso kwim? It's crazy because I'm usually pretty happy with myself.
Ginger love the name Indigo, nicely chosen...sounds like you picked the right cat if she is happy to be played with, some are too nervous and others too excitable, Indigo sounds "just right" .
I put on about 12 kg after DD1 which never came off, and am now 12 kg heavier than I was before Missy E (but I can thank chemo for about 8 kg of that ). TBH I never minded that first 12 kg as I still had a nice waist, felt curvy in the right places, kwim? But I really don't like that last 8 kg I've picked up - it's all around the middle (have never had rolls on my tum before) and my whole metabolism is different and wrong now - I feel like the biochemistry of the fat has taken over (which is why I had the GTT). Whereas after that first 12 kg, I was still fit and healthy & it didn't make a difference, kwim? But I've always been taller and (even at my skinniest) much bigger than all my friends so I had the reverse - used to feel self-conscious way back when I was a skinny-minny (size 16 at my most gaunt all-bones) but couldn't give a flying fig now. But I'll be 40 next year and having all that treatment last year reminded me that my youth is now far behind me, esp with the threat of menopause hanging over my head, but it helped me to transition psychologically from the last vestiges of "maiden" to acceptance of "mother", if that makes sense. But I don't think you're crazy for feeling embarrassed at all - you've had a profound shift of identity in the last couple of years - including leaving the workplace - so it's not surprising if that affects your confidence when you're seeing people who haven't been present during that transition. But they will have changed too. I have a GF who has been living a jetsetting career-fuelled single lifestyle, and when I last caught up with her I know she was envious of my settledness, happy marriage, etc, and while she's still skinny and gorgeous, her hair has gone completely grey.
Suz well done with the challenge...I bet you'll be excited to see how those photos turn out. DH has organised one of his coworkers to do a family portrait (it's been a while!) but it creates stress because I never know what to dress everyone in!
Ginger: hmm, i have to say that i can relate to what you are saying. i reckon in my case it was also added because i was teh 'first cab off the rank' to have a baby. and my body went through (of course!) all these changes, and demands suddenly were very different to before, so I just found i struggled to put on nice clothes/make-up etc. also, because i lost my income i just didnt have the spare cash to go and spoil myself like i used to with facials etc...i put on 17kgs with Leila and even though i reckon i still looked pretty hot (lol!) considering that i just had a baby, i still cringe when i see my wedding photos because i know that i look different iykwim, my body is not what i recognise from my pre-baby days and that took alot of getting used to.
have to say that this pg i am trying really hard to make more of an effort to look nice for myself. in my PND days after L was born i just didnt have the heart to try and want to avoid that as much as possible this time if i get it iykwim...
the big change for me this time as well is that i have ALOT more friends with kids and all my friends pre-baby are getting on the baby-making wagon and that has made all things much easier (terms of socialising and body image...they now all get the big leaky boob thing LOL!).
from your photos on FB babe, you are HOT and i tell no lie! in fact, i reckon we have a pretty spunky bunch of girls in this group...
Suz: oh it's the same here too. DH prides himself on getting the washing up done and sweeping the floor each morning...meanwhile i am left to do the rest and dont get any kudos for it LOL! for some reason he just can't get the breakfast for L organised or get her dressed or change her out of her night nappy, or organise her bag for the day/lunch etc.
Sherie: wow, your SILs EDD was the same as Leila's!!! that means that if you and i were in a belly buddies group (i wish i had of found BB earlier!!) we would of shared an EDD! how cool is that?!!
unfortunately there is no mistaking the fact that i am 21 weeks pg...i dont remember 'flat' at all actually
which reminds me....i have a question...i am currently 21 weeks pg and am eating really well (and bucketloads!), sleeping well, doing very very light excersise (like 20 minutes in teh pool once a week) and i am slightly concerned that i am not gaining weight? in fact, i have an inkling that i may of shed a bit? is this possible? i ask, because, well i dont have scales to make sure, but i am in sz6 maternity jeans and when i first was wearing them they were a nice fit (they were not bought new ITH) but now they seem to sag a bit at my bum and i have to hitch them up? or is that it's just a body shape change???
It will vary what you put on from pg to pg for some women. It could just be that you are needing to eat all that food to keep you going so you are burning it off instead of turning it into fat, does that make sense? Many Drs etc don't even worry about weighing you so I think that as long as you are eating well, doing the exercise that you're doing and your check ups are fine, then I reckon you are going great guns. A friend of mine had her second baby back in Feb and she was a lot smaller this time round, had a smaller bump and she didn't gain anywhere near the weight she gained with her first one - not that she gained a lot then either, but the difference between her first bub and this one was noticable.
hmm you've given me food for thought (pardon the pun lol!) sherie. i gained alot and rapidly with Leila (like by 10 wks pg i had gone up a size and by the end i had gone up 2...17kgs or thereabouts), so this time around i was kinda expecting the same. but bubba is measuring fine and i feel fine, it's just the weirdness of difference i guess that got me worried itms.
thanks for all your reassurances ladies. glad i'm not the only one
md- you're so right (as usual) about the transition i've gone through. i honestly feel like my whole chemistry has changed and it's hard to identify with people who only knew the old me. i like the way you reminded me that other people would've changed too, i guess it's just hard when i feel like i've changed so much physically as well as mentally. oh and i don't think your youth is that far behind you, you still seem pretty youthful to me
trill- yeah i really identify with the whole 'let yourself go' thing. i hate it so much!! and tbh, if i really wanted to lose the weight, i know i could. it's just that part of me really doesn't see it as important. i'm healthy and do a bit of exercise here and there, but i just love food! i have to say that since i've been this shape i don't ever binge eat or drink anymore which i used to do heaps. i just don't need to do it now that i'm not obsessing about food. i really doubt anyone thinks your dh is married to a fatso. you're gorgeous!
cass- yeah i think i need to start making more of an effort with myself, but like you say, it's so hard with no time or money. i haven't been to the hairdressers for 6 months! and geeez i'd kill for a facial
suz- when are you going to ttc #3?
thanks for all your kind words friends, i'm feeling a lot better today
Hey all G – I feel totally the same as you – with the difference being I am not happy how I am… so I need to do something about it, but I don’t I have really noticed it coming back to work. I don’t scrub up like i used to LOL. Your attitude etc should rub off on me… Indigo sounds gorgeous
Sherie – how is your mum doing?
MD – how is H going at school?
Arte – how did the drive go?
Sorry for so many q’s!!
All here is good. J has started to commando crawl I think… late I know but I think N was even later. He has been really unsettled lately, changing in so many ways… N is doing great – amaing me every day with what he can do and learns…heis going through quite a fussy foiod stage whch is doing my head in.. butr I am trying to just roll with it.
Sorry I am not sio good at updates etc these days – I keep reading and planning to do a big post but I just cant get the time and headspace…
Sorry for being away for so long. We are all good ATM we have all just had the flu but seem so be getting better now. It seems the only person in our household not to get it was DH.. My Dad is doing much better and is getting another scan on his melon early next month. Livi is amazing growing up so fast. We have been having interviews for the boys schools for next year and only have one interview to go then its a wait and see. We have narrowed it down to 2 schools now so fingers crossed we get into 1 of them. I must say that this whole picking schools is very stressful and then the waiting to see if you get in. I am eagerly awaiting my holidays. Not sure if I told you all yet but we are going to Vegas on the July 30th for 8 days celebrating a friends 40th there is about 16 of us going then we will be in LA for 4 nights flying back home midnight on the 11th August. No kids going this time which will be very hard for me I think.
G I was just saying to DH the other day that while I would like to loose some weight I am actually quite happy with my new shape (minus the large flap of skin that sits above my pubic line lol). I sometimes worry when we go back home to see family that we will run into someone who hasn't seen me pre kids. No matter how big or oddly shaped any of us get your all still some of the nicest ladies I have ever known and that means so much more.
I am sorry I cant remember much else now lol. I will have to go back and catch up again. I was so hoping to do a big post too.
Clare I hope you had a good birthday.
Landscapers have finished here so just planting to go, we are very happy with how its looking. Once the deck is done its will be awesome. L has croup, thankfully not to bad. It seemed to come on so suddenly. Z is great and commando crawling everywhere, poor Logan has to watch his food now lol. I have a million things to do before bed, hopefully tonight isnt as rough as last night.
Oz - Poor L, croup is yuck. Also not fond of the 'flap of skin', or my muffin tops, but the rest of me is alright How exciting about the landscaping!
Leemar - Hi! Nice to meet you! I've only just come back to the Sept 2007 BB thread after posting briefly when DS1 Craig was born. Glad you're all over the 'flu now, good luck with choosing schools and lucky you I hope you enjoy Vegas (although I'd feel the same leaving my kids at home).
MP - I'm dreading going back to work for the same reason! I takes so much effort to look half as good as I used to. Commando crawling hey, it all changes once they're mobile.
Ginger - Same, haven't been to the hairdresser for 6 months! Just can't face doing it with 2 kids in tow. Our chemistry does change doesn't it? It's not that we let ourselves go, but that it takes so much more effort to maintain what we had, right?
We'll probably start to TTC#3 in 7 months when DS2 is 12 months old. He was a VBAC, so I want to be as fit and healthy as possible. But I'm also on paid mat leave until May 2011, so I would like to make it back to work at least briefly before no. 3 arrives
Trill - I'm with you on the shakes, blech!
Cass - Happy Birthday! With the pregnancy weight gain, my GP said that the 30kg I gained with DS1 was fluid due to my immune system overreacting to the baby. She was certain that I wouldn't gain as much weight with my 2nd baby because my body wouldn't be as sensitive the 2nd time. With DS2 I put on only 1/2 the weight. So maybe your body is the same?
Not much going on here. Craig's back taking himself to the potty and practically putting himself to bed now, no more tantrums at bedtime. Huge difference to the start of the month! Just in time for Ryan to start getting his first tooth. My New Year's Resolution is out of the way, the scales said 79.8kg this morning! I haven't been under 80kg since my wedding 5 years ago. Then the Wii Fit said my BMI was 'Ideal' instead of 'Overweight', so I'm happy happy happy and don't care how saggy baggy and wrinkly I look. Damn it, I even bought mascara today. I haven't worn mascara for 6 months!
Go Suz!!!! That must be a huge confidence boost for you.
Leanne! Hello! I so don't get the whole school interview thing. Out here you go to the open days that the schools have and see if you like them and the you pick the one you want to enroll them in - they wont turn you away.
Oz, have you got some Redipred for L's croup? It is the only thing that will clear it up quickly.
Well we've had an eventful afternoon. Thursday arvos is football and netball training and I usually take a scooter for A to ride to keep him amused. Today he had a huge spill - wasn't watching where he was going and ran headfirst into a steel verandah post and split his head open about an inch above his left eye. We were sitting about 50mt away from him and we could hear this loud bang and then he started crying and by the time I got to him the blood was ****ing out of a hole in his head about the size of a pea. Thankfully I had a hanky in my pocket so I could stem the blood quickly. Took him straight to the hospital - one of the other mums was going to watch out for the other three and luckily when I got there the Dr was already on his way to the hospital to see someone else -how it works out here is the Dr is on call to the hospital and only comes up there if needed. So he had a look, said the glue would be best instead of stitches so the nurse put that on, they took a few obs to check for concussion and gave him panadol and sent us on our way. Luckily he didn't get a concussion and was fine afterwards, but I will keep an eye on him tonight. We were back at the football ground in half an hour which was awesome. So I have to keep it dry for two days to allow the glue to do it's job but he has a wicked black egg on his head LOL. Poor kid, he was so good at the hospital and just sat there and let them do their thing. Even once the initial shock wore off he didn't cry anymore.
Trill - Glad to hear A was alright! Ouch!
Is the Redipred a steroid medicine? Our GP prescribed some kind of steroid for the coughing when C had croup and it worked wonders. Without it none of us would have slept.
Someone mentioned 'mice' a little while ago, the same day I saw one in our living room. The open baits are no good with toddlers and I wasn't keen on traps for the same reason, so I got the sealed bait bags and threw one behind the fridge. Tonight DH walked in to the kitchen and there was a mouse sitting in front of the fridge. Alive, but not well. He caught it in a glass jar and drowned it (I don't know if that was humane or not? It was dying anyway. Plastic bag in the freezer is meant to be humane). With any luck that was the only mouse.
DH says the same thing to me too LOL.
After saying that I sound like a total hypocrite because I'm doing the 12 week challenge (my excuse is I want to be fit and healthy before TTC #3).
). TBH I never minded that first 12 kg as I still had a nice waist, felt curvy in the right places, kwim? But I really don't like that last 8 kg I've picked up - it's all around the middle (have never had rolls on my tum before) and my whole metabolism is different and wrong now - I feel like the biochemistry of the fat has taken over (which is why I had the GTT). Whereas after that first 12 kg, I was still fit and healthy & it didn't make a difference, kwim? But I've always been taller and (even at my skinniest) much bigger than all my friends so I had the reverse - used to feel self-conscious way back when I was a skinny-minny (size 16 at my most gaunt all-bones) but couldn't give a flying fig now. But I'll be 40 next year and having all that treatment last year reminded me that my youth is now far behind me, esp with the threat of menopause hanging over my head, but it helped me to transition psychologically from the last vestiges of "maiden" to acceptance of "mother", if that makes sense. But I don't think you're crazy for feeling embarrassed at all - you've had a profound shift of identity in the last couple of years - including leaving the workplace - so it's not surprising if that affects your confidence when you're seeing people who haven't been present during that transition. But they will have changed too. I have a GF who has been living a jetsetting career-fuelled single lifestyle, and when I last caught up with her I know she was envious of my settledness, happy marriage, etc, and while she's still skinny and gorgeous, her hair has gone completely grey. 
but just eating in general kwim?
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