Trill I LOL'd reading your post, I so can imagine you standing there doing the "Excuse me?" with *exactly* the right tone of voice.
Re breakfast, I've practically given up on it lately. She used to be a happy 2-course breakfast consumer, starting with 2 weetbix, porridge, cereal, then moving onto toast, crumpets, etc. Then it shrank to just the toast/crumpets, then it shrank to only one peice of toast or just half of the crumpet (the top half, with the honey on LOL). She eats plenty during the day so I'm not too concerned.
Arte - hun I don't know what to say. Your DH really just doesn't understand how tough you're doing it. Could you maybe write it down for him on a piece of paper - a quantifiable record of how few hours sleep you're getting - and talk about what you can do as a family to improve the situation. I really don't know how you're hanging in there. Is it time to reconsider some sleep clinic support from the tweedle people (sorry can't remember that weird name) - they might be helpful, it could be a different experience from the last time you contacted them. xxx
OK Flakey brain update...after stewing on it & not being able to decide whether to keep my trap shut, or contact the selection panel and self-disclose, I decided to trade on my existing employee status and seek some advice/advocacy from the section that handles return to work and injury rehabilitation, etc. It's not like I'm some random off the street, kwim, as an existing staff member who have made absolutely no demands on them during the entire course of my treatment I deserve some support. The painful part is I have enough expertise in the tested area to understand how poorly I've performed, it's pretty ironic. I've got a referral in process to see a psych with an interest in this area for some strategies and maybe some brain training stuff. They say it tends to improve a lot over the first few years, but not much help to me if I can't get a job NOW when I need it. Anyway DH got home today and I spent most of the day in bed but I'm still bone tired, just a bit frustrated as it's now six months since my surg and I'm ready to start feeling "normal" again.
Do you let A grizzle? I don't let the girls cry and get upset, but it was a real revolution for me when i realised if i let either of them grizzle, sort of making noise but not really upset IYKWIM, often they went to sleep or resettled. I learnt to listen to them and discovered that they can cry out without being upset and i quickly learnt the difference between the cries. Prior to that i would literally RUN in if Lu made a peep. I dunno, just throwing some idea out there in case something helps you. 
She's just jealous. 
She plays so rough with S, doesn't listen at all and has massive tantrums and demands things all the time. It's really wearing me down. I need some strategies to cope with her behavior. I just end up losing it and yelling, or smacking her sometimes, then feeling like a failure as a mother and all that garbage. 
I am ashamed of how i am coping and need to change. Any ideas?
What worked for me was picking my battles. If they were carrying on like a pork chop over something really insignificant and whinging, I would just walk away, shut the door behind me and leave them to it. usually after a few minutes they would lose interest and go off and do something else. Do you think she would understand if you explained to her that you don't play so rough with your sister? I know sometimes you do lash out and smack, and then immediately regret it, but sometimes it is the only thing that will work kwim? Maybe she just need stimulation? I know that you went out and did a lot of stuff while you were still here, but I'm guessing they don't have play centres and all that jazz over there, so she might be missing it?
it's been a bit of a rough trot lately...so so glad that we have found eachother for this much needed support xx
Maybe now that she knows what the problem is she can give him some extra work?
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