Tasia.. oh hunny i want to come over there and give you a great big Have you sat down and had a chat about how you feel with DH. Tell him he has to hear you out without getting angry or walking off or even saying anything and you will do the same. When i was getting so frustraited with MIL treating Jesse as a show pony i did that with DH.. he never realised how it all got to me so much and how i wasnt coping.. even though i thought i was blaintenly obvious. Men dont think like us. I hear you on the santa thing you poor hun. Oh they just dont think. I go through the same at home with DH and his damn computer game. Keira screems her head off cos shes hungry, im bathing Jesse, i have to yell out.. can you not hear her crying! Leave your game for 5 bloody minutes. Its like he tunes out and until i say hey go do something he wont.. but when i do he does no worries. But yeh honey i think you need to sit down and have a chat with him when Jonathans napping or in bed. Because it just builds and builds until you break down. Can you maybe just stay home tonight with Jonathan and your DH just go? Tell him your not feeling the best. honey if you ever need anything, even just an ear to chat, let me know and ill pm you my mobile number ok.
Pixie.. oh how nice.. oh we havent been to the movies since before i was pregnant with Jesse! woah whats that.. 3 years now! Glad you had a nice night. Oh woohoooo on Beth sitting up clever monkey!!!!!!!!!
Kel- I can't believe men. trust me i have spoken to hubby like 100 hundred times, and it's just the same thing over and over. One time i yelled out ( not too loud though) saying that feels like im single doing it all by myself, i can do that u know, i said to him also that i don't need a flat mate i need a husband who will help me look after our son & he said well if u can't look after Jonathan u work and i will look after him and then i said it's not that i love looking after jonathan i just want you to help if not i might as well be single, and he didn't say anything. i can imagine with u have more kids will be harder, yeah u have to yell so they can listen, they don't offer u have to beg them or force them, like hello ur the father .
my friend is going through the same thing like u she has 2 girls and one on they way, but she fell pregnant she was doing everything on her own. when she needs to feed one of the girls and the other one goes spastic my friend yells out to her hubby, ummm you can help you know she's going mental. like urself when ur busy and the otherone cries and ur hubby is on the computer that drives me insane oh sweety hugs to u
kel- sweety thanx for listening. sorry for being such a drainer. I hope u have a good day. I'm off to do the laundry then going to k-mart. then getting ready to prepare for 2n, i tell ya not looking forward to it. I wish i could stay home, if i tell hubby that he might say ok u stay home and jonathan and i (hubby) we'll go, i'll be like no don't think so. any of his family events jonathan and i will not be apart.
Tasia.. yep retail theropy is always good for the nerves! Go buy yourself something ok! Oh they always think staying home and looking after the kids is a push over.. they think we must sit on our butts and the babies sleep all day! Until they have a day at home with them on their own they will never know. But its not just the kids its the house work and the meals and everything that has to be done too. I totally know how you feel though hun. I was the same even before Keira was in the picture. They may work but once work is finished they come home and relax and forget about work. Having kids and a house is a 24/7 job. I think we're entitled to some time to relax too! Big honey. Just get through tonight and it will be over with.. lol oh im the same.. if the kids are going, so am i! You keep smiling honey go have a coffee and a biccie while your out
Tasia - Oh hun sounds like you had a horrible night (especially) towards the end. I would have just taken the car and went home DH could have come home with his parents lol. If you need to catch just give me a call or even come over for a coffee I'm here for you sweet. BIG to you.
Kell - Oh it's nice to have time at home hey, hope your DH gets home on time.
Pixie - Yay on having a great night out, DH and I haven't been out on a date yet can't wait though, I'm just not ready for my parents to look after Isabel yet lol. Woohoo on Beth sitting on her own that is just wonderful, we have been trying to get Izzy to do the same but she falls to her side very funny.
Tannis - How is Jayden, hope he is feeling better today hun.
Mel - love your video of Mehkelti giggling she is just adorable.
Well DH is coming home today, he is currently in syd not far woohoo...
Tasia - BIG HUGS! I would have done the same thing as Mez said.. I would have just left with the bubba. Nah, men don't se things like we do. It's so hard and even when you spell it out it you're not even sure they get it or even have listened. My DP's tunes the boys out alot of the time and I'm like "Can't you hear the whinging?"
Kell - It's funny how DP/H's think when we're at home we do nothing but have like free time and do whatever we want, like looking after the kid(lets) isn't anything. Lol.
Tan - I hope Jayden is better today. I'd so the same thing as you're doing with the mattress. What a bargin on your dinner! I can't believe she didn't tell you she did anything to your chair when it happened. We always leave our christmas shopping till last minute. It's bad, I know but this year I've started early so I don't have to rush it. Lol.
Mez - your DH's almost home.
Pixie - Go Beth! We've been trying that with Bubbablue too. Sometimes he goes alright, then other times he does a face plant. Lololol. He's only doing the 3/4 roll still here too. He'll go so far over, then roll back to his back. Frustrating. How was the movie?
everyone.
Bubbablue has got these little spots on his tummy and sides and back, not raised or anything. They are like coming and going. We're thinking it's a type of heat rash. If it gets any worse we'll take him to get looked at. He actually seems quite alright today with his cold thingie too.
Hi to all! Just a quick one as gotta get back to organising for the move (can't believe only 3 sleeps to go!!)
Tasia - sounds very frustrating to me... You need to look after yourself and hubby needs to pull his head in. Maybe you should try some counselling? Often a third (unrelated) party can help put things into perspective for both partners. It's not a healthy environment for your son to be constantly yelling at each other just to get yourself heard. It's also not healthy for him to see his dad treat mum like this as it will set in his mind how women should be treated (or you could get lucky and it will teach him how women SHOULDN'T be treated). At any rate, it's bad for you both. I'm also concerned about post natal depression. You may not have it, but I'm sure all the stress and frustration certainly wouldn't help keep it away.
Big hugs to you, sweetheart...
And I'd be avoiding the baby #2 thing until you know hubby is worth it. Don't want two kids having to deal with having such a hopeless dad.
Wow. Only 3 dayssss?!?
I hope everything is going well with the organisation and goes smoothly on the day of the move.
wowowow!
for your post for Tasia, SW. You always manage to say the right stuff in a perfect way. I wish I could say things like that. I have trouble getting it out of my head.
We have such a supportive group. I'm really thankful to be in this group with all you kind, thoughtful, wonderful mummies and daddy.
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Have you sat down and had a chat about how you feel with DH. Tell him he has to hear you out without getting angry or walking off or even saying anything and you will do the same. When i was getting so frustraited with MIL treating Jesse as a show pony i did that with DH.. he never realised how it all got to me so much and how i wasnt coping.. even though i thought i was blaintenly obvious. Men dont think like us. I hear you on the santa thing you poor hun. Oh they just dont think. I go through the same at home with DH and his damn computer game. Keira screems her head off cos shes hungry, im bathing Jesse, i have to yell out.. can you not hear her crying! Leave your game for 5 bloody minutes. Its like he tunes out and until i say hey go do something he wont.. but when i do he does no worries. But yeh honey i think you need to sit down and have a chat with him when Jonathans napping or in bed. Because it just builds and builds until you break down. Can you maybe just stay home tonight with Jonathan and your DH just go? Tell him your not feeling the best.
clever monkey!!!!!!!!!
go have a coffee and a biccie while your out 
your DH's almost home.
everyone.
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