I was horrified at mine after birth and had to keep asking nurses advise...they were very casual about it all infact no-one even told me thats what had happened, and I had to ask why my butt was falling out.

Anyway, I sent DH off to pharmacy to get some ointment. I told him to ask pharmacist and tell them that it was for his wife who just gave birth and was really suffering.
Ointment helped a lot.

Other than that, a midwife said that it would get smaller and better over a few weeks. And it did.

I now (over 12months later) still get itchy. Which drives me nuts. But I have some ointment in the bathroom to apply when it bothers me too much. It works, but unfortunatly I think thats just a common problem with having the big H.

It will get better though

eta - i just remember (though you may be past the stage of this helping now) that I sat on flannel wrapped frozen icy poles - amazing!


Congrates on your birth and little bub