Oh Nae

I had 3rd degree internal tearing and lots of stitches and pain so I know EXACTLY where you are coming from. It friggen hurts!!!! The first time we DTD since DD was born I think she was about 9wks old.... I was so scared it would hurt! And it was quite painful the first few times.... very uncomfortable..... your area down there has suffered a fair bit of trauma... but it DOES get better. My V hurt for a good 6-7mths but after that, it went back to normal and when DTD the last few mths it never hurts anymore. In fact it feels the same as it did before having DD during sex!!! (thankfully!!!!)..... so it won't always hurt ok?

Get your GP to check it out... i'd say you have a lot of scar tissue down there like I did.... it really does take a few mths to get back to normal down there (well it never really does get back to normal but to FEEL normal again). I'm pretty sure from memory that the first time we attempted it after having DD, i couldn't follow thru with it either it just felt too uncomfortable and sore... and it felt like a stinging feeling.

How bad is the pain? 1-10? 10 being worst? Mine was probably only about 4. I think if it's worse than that you should see a Gyno just to get things checked out... or at least a GP.

Lots of lubricant
Be gentle (tell DH to be too)
Comfortable positions.

Good luck hun