hun.
I remember having a very similar feeling when we first started DTD again. It did settle down though.
If you are concerned then I would suggest going back to see your doctor.
Men can be so insensitive sometimes can't they? Singing like that is something my DH would do
I hope you can get it sorted out. xxxx
Oh, i know your pain . It is really hard getting back into the swing of things intimately. Well I found it so... I was so tense, I think that makes it harder too... With BF you have lower hormone levels, and ...um... things can be a little dry... if you try a little help in that area it might make it a bit easier...
If you are BF it can really really hurt! You need to get lots of lube or there's a hormone cream that you can get from the OB.
I had 2 c/s and honestly it hurt for months just because of the friction so it may not be the stitches. Your DH needs to take it really slow and make sure you are ready.
Sweetie - full commisserations, I have totally BTDT.
The good news is, your body *will* heal!! It may take some time, a trip to the dr or two, and maybe some vaginal oestrogen, but you will get there!
In my case, DD was 6 months old when we finally moved into an area where I could see a *good* dr, and when I did she explained that the low oestrogen levels from BFing makes the vuhjay tissues thinner, more brittle and prone to damage - and for that reason the tears hadn't really healed properly. It was amazing the difference the vaginal oestrogen made.
The issue isn't so much in the lube dept more like the outer lip area that has been stitched too far from back to front itms ....... i have a 1cm over lip that wasn't there before ... like a veranda for lack of a better description we couldn't get past the veranda without really intense pain - and me worrying about tearing the stitched area open.
Will i go back to normal? should i just push through the pain barrier at least once? I just feel like such a failure where i have never had a confidence issue before.
This is one time I would not be trying to 'push through the pain barrier'. See your doctor & ask for a gynae referral - I'm sure they will be able to help you.
Oh honey......i tell you my first time back was less than pleasant.
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Can i suggest maybe being the jockey may not be the best position to start back in? I did the same thing and it was way way way too bad........however....back to good old missionary with DH being so parellel we were almost touching and the pain was barely there. Obviously it wasn't pulling on anything. Also the good old KY came to the party with a ****tail to help me through
Take your time - your certainly not the only one to experience this. It still is awful for me....and my libido is non-existant now anyway....what can you do
Aw you poor thing. Can I suggest you try some lubricant? As you are BFing things can get very dry down there which makes it a) much less comfortable, and b) feel tighter. If that doesn't help a trip to the doctor may be in order.
Don't worry to much about DH, your body has done some amazing things and it really does take quite a long time for everything to feel normal again.
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. It is really hard getting back into the swing of things intimately. Well I found it so... I was so tense, I think that makes it harder too... With BF you have lower hormone levels, and ...um... things can be a little dry... if you try a little help in that area it might make it a bit easier...
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