No, it's not normal as far as I am concerned. My pastor would not recommend that at all and certainly would not expell someone.
The bible tells men to love their husbands as christ first loved the church (the body of christ is the church), therefore, he should not be abusing his wife. The bible also tells us that if you she a brother (ie another church member), actively sinning - which abusing his wife would be, then you should go and address that sin with him, if he continues, you are to address it with the church and if he still continues, you are to ask him to leave - the one sinning,not the one being sinned against.
I can't see how any christian church would mis interpret those scriptures and mistreat some as you are describing - appalling and gives christianity a very bad name.
I for one, would not want to be a member of any such church!!