That's probably what I found too. Though I never went to anything, so for all I know, they do do stuff as a community. I even looked up the athiests, but they just seem to whinge about religion. Where's the positive support and influence there?

A good way to get community support is through volunteering. It doesnt have to be through a religious organisation though I have volunteered through a few and I just respect their beliefs and get on with things. I'm pretty sure Care Australia is secular. Places like the Guide Dogs are good causes without a religious bent. Voluntary work I've done over the years includes palliative care, detox, needle exchange, counselling.

Personally, I stay away from the political causes. Not the kind of energy I need in my life.

It's possibly still worth contacting the humanists to see what they do and what they offer. Otherwise there may be the equivalent of Apex/Rotary for young women.