Hi Catrionalee,

Firstly I am so sorry for your loss. It's such a hard thing to go thru.
What I never understood before I went thru it myself is how hard it is and that the pain doesnt just go away in 2 weeks.
I too went thru the 12 week etc thing. Sadly I think it just makes it all harder. You need to grieve and it takes time. I can tell you that it does get easier. I just passed my 'due date' a few weeks ago and that was pretty tough but overall am doing much better.
Focus on you for a while. Don't be embarrassed about the grieving process. Some people take a lot longer then others.
Keep busy and focus on making your body ready to try again..