thread: 3 weeks ago my baby died

  1. #19

    May 2008
    Melbourne, Vic
    8,631

    Oh Kristalee, what a moving story. I am crying watching your beautiful slide show. What precious time you had with her, so special and bittersweet.

    My heart aches for you.

    Thank you for sharing.


  2. #20
    BellyBelly Member

    Nov 2004
    VIC
    1,794

    Kristalee
    you story is beautiful told and a lasting legacy to your angel
    I am soo sorry that your baby didnt make it earthside, but instead is dancing with the angels above us.
    your daughter was only here for such a short time but her journey has touched all those who read your story.
    Life is so delicate and way too short
    take care hun and know that we, as a community, are here for you
    Last edited by diva det; May 24th, 2009 at 10:48 PM. : took ticker out

  3. #21
    Registered User

    May 2009
    5

    Hi Kristalee, and welcome to BB. I am so sorry about your loss, it just breaks my heart to read of others who have lost their precious babies. Lola is so beautiful, I am sure she is now watching over you and your family.
    It must be so hard to come so far in your pregnancy, only to come away with empty arms. I've lost my little son Joshua at almost 21 weeks, and I can't imagine losing him at full term. I too read so many books about miscarriage, stillbirth, dealing with loss, you name it, I read it. I must say it did help me to understand why things sometimes can go so horribly wrong. It's still so unfair though, no matter how you look at it. I wish I could take your pain away hun, and heal your heart. In time it will happen, but the grieving process must happen, and when will it end? I don't know. I'm still grieving for my little one, and I don't think I will ever stop.
    I wish I could reach across the screen and give you a huge hug
    Take good care of yourself, and please seek help if you need it, don't take it all on board yourself, it is so much for one person. I started to see a grief councillor straight after I lost Joshua and still see her to this day. She has helped me enormously, she's helped me to understand and deal with my loss. I also attend the SANDS meetings monthly, which really help too.
    Beata xxx
    I have been thinking about contacting SANDS, I have a book put out by them of stories of Loss, but I am a bit scared as well at the moment. I dont feel like I could cope with other mothers grief as well as my own at the moment and I picture myself just crying the whole time. I think in time I will go down that road tho.

    Thankyou everyone for your kind words about my Lola

  4. #22
    Registered User

    Apr 2007
    Inner South East suburbs Melbourne
    1,213

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful daughter with us. I hope you find comfort and friendship here.

  5. #23
    Registered User

    May 2004
    Shepparton
    4,871

    I am so sorry for your loss....
    May I thank you for sharing your very sad story of your last moments with Lola...

    The images were just amazing!!

    Thank you again
    xx

  6. #24
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    SE suburbs of Melbourne
    197

    There are no words to convey how very sorry I am for you, your husband, and your children for the loss of your beautiful Lola Constance Evelyn. I pray God gives me words to bring you comfort. Please don't hesitate to come in to talk/vent/be angry/sad/unsure/numb/happy/anything, there is always someone not very far away to respond. Although I sit here devastated for you, I could never imagine what it is to walk in your shoes, however I am more than happy to listen anytime.
    Your story has touched me more than you know, you are very brave for baring it all.
    Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. *HUGE HUGS*

  7. #25
    Registered User
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    May 2006
    Brisbane, Australia
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    precious baby lola, may you rest in peace beautiful girl.

    your photos were so beautiful, the absolute devotion on the face of your husband was incredible.
    may you find peace within you and yours to help to recover from this terrible tragedy.\

    i am so incredibly sorry for you and your family's loss.

  8. #26
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    Where the sun shines
    322

    Kristalee, I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter Lola. Your story, so very sad (had me in tears), is so beautifully written and a heartfelt tribute to your daughter, the photo's are gorgeous. I too lost a daughter at 19-weeks, I can't even imagine what you went through and are going through losing her at full term. My best wishes and prayers are with you and your family. If I can support you in anyway, please let me know. Take care

  9. #27
    Registered User

    Aug 2007
    Sydney
    1,691

    Dear Kristalee,

    Thank you for sharing your daughter Lola with us. I wish so much that she could have stayed here with you. She chose an amazing and strong family and you gave her such a dignified and loving farewell.

    Rachel.

  10. #28
    Registered User

    Apr 2008
    4,427

    What a beautiful name for a beautiful little girl. I am so sorry for your loss. I ready your blog and shed many tears for you, your family and Lola. Your words were written with such love. I am sure your precious little Angel is being looked after in Heaven to you.

  11. #29
    smiles4u Guest

    Lola is just so beautiful and precious ... may she lock herself in your hearts forever in your days ... I'm so incredible sorry & i hope you find BB to be a tool to help you even in the smallest way ... And a very gentle & kind thank you for allowing myself & others here to share in Lola's birth story !!! xoxoxoxox

  12. #30
    Registered User

    Jul 2007
    melb
    8,498

    So sorry for your loss of your gorgeous girl Lola, Your story and pics had tears flowing. Your pictures are gorgeous, very special. May she dance with the angels in heaven.


    huge hugs to you and your family


    RIP Lola

    xoxo

  13. #31
    Registered User

    May 2009
    bundoora, melbourne
    1

    hi.
    jus wantd to give u huge hugs...

    the video u made was absolutly lovely
    i had tears the whole way thru...

    lola is gorgeous..!!

    R.I.P lola...

    xx

  14. #32
    Registered User

    Jul 2004
    Perth
    1,864

    So sorry for your loss

    Such a beautiful baby.

    Sending you all the strength you need.

  15. #33
    Registered User

    Aug 2004
    Sth East Melbourne
    1,324

    WOw! THank you for sharing your story. The slideshow on your blog is just amazing, I am sitting here with tears streeming down my face. SHe is just so beautiful and I am so so happy for you that you have those wonderful pictures to keep for life!

  16. #34
    Registered User

    Apr 2009
    Adelaide, SA
    65

    Hi Kristalee

    Thank you for sharing your story. Lola is Beautiful.

    I feel the same way as you wanting to share my story to help others and for our angels to be remembered. I know of a wonderful support group called Teddy Love Club (Teddy Love Club Inc. - Home - Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support) and they send out a news letter each month. I received an email yesterday to say there were looking for a parents story to put in, if you are interested. I put in my daughter Maddison's story a few months ago and it has been a really nice keep sake to add to her memory Box

    "Renee is close to finishing the newspaper for the month of June, however we are looking for a parents story. If you have ever thought about sharing your story or would like to share your story again, please email newspaper@teddyloveclub.org.au

    Parents stories really do help bereaved parents that are reading the newspaper.

    Also, if you have an anniversary in June please do feel free to write something in memory of your precious baby or babies.





    Wishing you and your family all the best and happy times to come


    Rachel

  17. #35
    Registered User

    May 2007
    3,220

    I am sitting here just after reading your story with my 12 week old daughter asleep in my arms. I wish you too could havr your daughter with you.
    xxx

  18. #36
    Registered User

    Jan 2006
    Sydney
    2,212

    I am so sorry for your loss of your beautiful Lola She is absolutely gorgeous and the photos of her will be treasured forever. I know the pictures I have of my daughter are so precious to my entire family.

    There are (unfortunately) many of us here who have experienced the loss of a precious child and the support those amazing women (and men) give has been such a blessing for me since losing Caitlyn. It gave me the strength to face a new pregnancy and birth two babies. Know that we are here to support you in whatever you need. We understand the pain, the emotions, the conflict, the challenges in surviving and living every day.

    You should be very proud of your slideshow creation too - just beautiful, even if it made me cry remembering the pain mixed with overwhelming love

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