The heartache of losing a baby at no matter what stage of pregnancy is devasting and a lonely time. Having been through 3 m/c and about to experience my 4th i can feel my world tumbling down around me very quickly.
They said the first time was one "just one of those things", the second time was put down to "just bad luck" and after the third i was told that "next time will be your time". I suffered my first miscarriage at 8 weeks, the second at 14 weeks and the third at 7weeks; and with each loss it gets harder and harder.
Finally, after the third m/c i found a supportive doctor who was willing to look into our situation and both my husband and i were subjected to numerous blood tests while i had multiple ultrasounds...the verdict..."just bad luck". While no medical reason could be found for the re-occurances no guarantee could be given that we would be able to carry a baby to term. We were told that next time would be our time and that i would fulfill my dream of being a mum.The doctor said that although no medical diagnosis could be given to be thankful that nothing was wrong and to continue trying!
On Jan 26th 2009 three home pregnancy tests confirmed we were pregnant and i knew then that i was just over 5weeks. A blood test confirmed that we were expecting and i was told to relax. I cut back at work, i ate healthy i did all the right things. Apart from feeling tired and troubled with morning sickness we took each day as it came. Every week further into the pregnancy was a bonus.Each week past our last m/c an even bigger bonus.
Yesterday at 10weeks we went to have our first ultrasound. The sonographer told us "one sac, one jelly bean no heartbeat". Just like that we were told our baby had died.No reasons, no explainations just that there was no heartbeat. I laid there and cried clingling to my husband - how could this be happening again? i have no pain, no cramps, no spotting or bleeding..how can it be happening?
The doctor has sent us home to take it one day at a time as i wait for what i know is going to come, what i know im going to experience yet again. Each niggle in my tummy i dread and each toilet trip is filled with fear as i wait. Iv'e cried a bucket load, iv'e yelled and screamed at how unfair it all is and i feel so scared and alone.
kirst
Oh Kirstyn - big hugs hon.
Life is just not fair is it?
I guess the only positive in this horrible drama is that you know you CAN get pregnant - and when the time is right- you will again.
I just hope so dearly that one day soon you and DH will be holding the baby you so deserve.
My prayers are with you both.....
XX
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Having never used a forum site before to vent my feelings i am so overwhelmed and touched by the kindness of complete strangers. Having no friends that i can turn to who would possibly understand and a husband whom is dealing with it all in his own way i was starting to feel very alone and scared. Thankyou to those that have read my story - i aplogise for it being so long. And big hugs to those that have sent encouraging and kind words.
Hugs to you all
Kirstyn - im very sorry to hear of your losses - i know its not easy! just know that there are alot of ladies on here that have been thru the same and are here for u if u need to chat or just vent!
Can i ask whilst u were being subjected to numerous blood tests was ur progesterone levels tested over a cycle?
Its a very common problem that causes alot of m/c - than not many doctors look into!
It was my problem and what caused my m/c - and was easily solved! Hence our 3rd time lucky miracle!
Hj1981, thankyou for your words. While i had numerous blood tests during m/c number 3 and then afterwards im not 100% sure about my prog levels! i know i had a series of chrom tests - both husband and me and i also had numerous bloods to rule out autoimmune disorders i couldnt be certain about the prog levels. I have an appointment this month with my ob-gyn and i will be sure to add this to my list of questions. thankyou for your help xx
im here anytime if u need help - or any questions about progesterone - i have not long been down that track - and i know its an easy fix but something that is not looked into as much as it should be! apparently it is a very common cause for M/C!
I hope all goes well with ur appt and u get some answers soon!
Remember if u need to chat im here - we are all here!
Dear Kirstyn, I am so terribly sorry to hear about your losses. I only have one angel baby and the experience was devastating, so I can only imagine the pain you feel after having 3 and facing your 4th My thoughts are with you during this really difficult time
I can not begin to imagine what you must be feeling right now, all I can say is it's just not fair.
Sending you big big hugs, I am so so sorry for your loss.
I am soooo sorry you are going thru this.............I experience my second loss and I was so devasted and sadddddddddddddd I could believe it....all I can say is think positive your blessing will come when is time best wishes!!!
Kirsten,
Thank you for leaving your support in my story and I left you a message on that page. I do want to say again though how sorry I am to hear your story and I know how unfair it all seems. The best thing to do is go with how your are feeling, as it changes day to day. If you want to rant and scream and cry-do it. There are no words of comfort I can really offer but I send you good throughts and love. I hope it all works out for you and hubby.
Laluna
I understand how you feel. I also have had 3 m/c and also have had many many many tests, which also turned out all normal. You sometimes wish that there was something wrong, so you could deal with the issue and fix it!!!!
I ended up seeing a FS and I think my issues are to do with my insulin/sugar levels.
I have been on a drug called metformin and this has helped me to conceive and so far, so good. I have also been on low dose asprin (even though I dont have a blood clotting disorder) the FS thought it does no harm and helps the blood flow through the uterus.
Hugs hun.....sorry for your loss,is there a counciling service you & DH can use to help you out,sometimes it helps to talk to someone,hun.
Iknow how you feel,I wish i could say something to take your pain away,but if you ever need to talk,we are all good listeners.
If you want to talk at all you can PM, me at any time hun,wishing you all the best in the future,stay strong and i will be saying a prayer for you.
Kirstyn, I'm so sorry hun . I am so sorry for all your losses, I can't imagine what that must feel like. You're in my thoughts and prayers, and I pray that one day you get to hold your beautiful little bub
Beata xxx
can't believe it is happening again
A blood test confirmed that we were expecting and i was told to relax. I cut back at work, i ate healthy i did all the right things. Apart from feeling tired and troubled with morning sickness we took each day as it came. Every week further into the pregnancy was a bonus.Each week past our last m/c an even bigger bonus.
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I have no words for you, I am so sorry you are going through this again.
My thoughts are with you during this really difficult time 
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