Hi and welcome to BB. I'm so sorry for your losses it is heartbreaking. I too lost a baby due to abnormalities, the pain never goes but we learn how to deal with our grief. I pray that you will one day be able to hold a precious baby in your arms. There is a private termination group here which you have to apply for which would offer you great support. All the best.
My best advice is to just allow yourself to be............allow yourself to grieve and go through all the processes you need to, its all very important. Take it from someone who didnt grieve proparly and it came back to bite me when i had my next baby.
If you need to cry, then allow yourself too. Sometimes it helps to create mementos for your angels. I have a scrapbook album and a ruby heart shaped pendant i wear all the time (our angels name is Rubee). Whatever you feel you need to do, then do it.
At times it feels like you will be sad forever, but things do ease with time.
I posted for the first time yesterday and have already received an outpouring of love and support from this group. One thing I am finally realizing: it helps to have someone to talk to who really understands what you're going through. I think this forum will be a good place for us.
I don't have any good advice, other than be kind to yourself.
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