Coping with Christmas this year

[Lynn]

It is such a difficult time of year when every one is happy and you just can't be. You should not be happy for the sake of everyone else. They don't know what you are going through so you need to do what is best for you. Last Christmas was just 4 weeks after we lost Cooper and I was a zombie, I couldn't make decisions for myself and just went where someone took me. I spent the whole day crying or sleeping and it was awful. This year as I can make decisions I have told everyone that I am not doing Christmas. I need to look after my emotions. Luckily I have a very understanding DH and family so they are supportive of my decision. You need to protect your emotions and do what is right by you and not what everyone else thinks - they haven't lost a baby. I hope you can get DH support and this will help you through. Take care

[munchy]

Hi Megsmum

This is a hard time of yr and i to feel the same as you this will be my secound christmas since loosing my lil girl and for some reason am finding harder i think last yr i was still slightly numb to the whole thing but i have had no support form my in laws and they said some pretty awful things to me when i lost my angel and i just cant bare to face them we normaly go round there every yr for dinner but i am not i am having my family dinner at home and inviting my sis and her family and my dad round as my family were great through the whole thing i do feel bad for my DH as i said to him i am not gonna go round his parents and he thinks that we should i said no they havent even invited us so unless they do then there is noway i will be going over there they never make the effort with us not even a phone call to see how we are or the grandson they only live 5 min round the corner so i havent got the time of day for them sounds awful but at the min i do really dislike them i dont think i can pretend anymore as i have tried all of that and it actually made me worse i dont no what you can do to get out of it maybe do what lulu2 said fake gastro or something i hope you sort it out i think there is going to be alot of us in the same situation this yr.

take care honey

Munchy xxx